lov3rboy408 Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 Hi, me and my ex broke up in a good term. she decided to walk out my life because she lost feeling for me, so after 2 weeks no NC, she texted me said she miss me, miss my kiss and miss how we used to have fun when we together.. but she don't want to get back with me... because she scared it might go down hill again... what should i do?? should i still talk to her and get her back.. or just hold down my feeling and let it burn..
Chi townD Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 Hi, me and my ex broke up in a good term. she decided to walk out my life because she lost feeling for me, so after 2 weeks no NC, she texted me said she miss me, miss my kiss and miss how we used to have fun when we together.. but she don't want to get back with me... because she scared it might go down hill again... what should i do?? should i still talk to her and get her back.. or just hold down my feeling and let it burn.. There's you answer. It's breadcrumbs. She's looking for and ego boost. Fact is, she chose to have you out of her life. You give her that, because bottom line.............."but she don't want to get back with me" 1
Author lov3rboy408 Posted September 20, 2012 Author Posted September 20, 2012 There's you answer. It's breadcrumbs. She's looking for and ego boost. Fact is, she chose to have you out of her life. You give her that, because bottom line.............."but she don't want to get back with me" and we meet up yesterday, had dinner together and went to the mall.. she said it feel like our first date again.. she had a great time and we even french kiss...
salmagundi Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 If I were you I would be really careful here. You think its coming up roses again and maybe it is but if I was a betting man I would guess that she broke up with you for a reason but that since there is noone else she's leaning on you until she finds someone else, at which point you will be yesterdays news. Not trying to be pessimistic but I did this, I went from being her boyfriend to being her rebound. Guess how that worked out... Good luck
Chi townD Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 and we meet up yesterday, had dinner together and went to the mall.. she said it feel like our first date again.. she had a great time and we even french kiss... "but she don't want to get back with me" Dude, you're filling her emotional and physical needs. I hate to say it. Once she finds someone else (and trust me, she's looking) she'll kick you to the curb. Look, this is an advice forum. You're going to do what you want. I just want you to be careful because she's not going to commit to you. If this is the case, you're REALLY gonna get hurt.
geegirl Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 and we meet up yesterday, had dinner together and went to the mall.. she said it feel like our first date again.. she had a great time and we even french kiss... Of course she had a great time. You just gave her everything she wants. She likes the nice parts, hence the comment about the first date. She likes the fantasy of it but does not want the responsibility of a commitment/relationship. You both want different things. In the end, you will get hurt because she can't fulfill your expectations. You will dig your own hole and fall in it. We've all been there.
veggirl Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 uhoh. Here you go. Down the rabbit hole. You should NOT be responding to her, she is using you and as you said she "don't" wanna get back together. So are you okay with being just friends? No cause you do want to get back together. So what good does it do you to see her? You will not change her remind, just remember that. how old are you guys?
Author lov3rboy408 Posted September 20, 2012 Author Posted September 20, 2012 Thank you guys! so i texted her exactly what you guys said.. Hi MJ. I had a great time with you yesterday, but i think its better if we both stop seeing each other. i feel like i'm just the one who filling your emotional and physical needs, and once you finds somebody else or you probably looking for one right now, i don't want to be the one you'll kick me to the curb. I gave you everything you wants, you just want the fantasy of it but does not want to the responsibility of a commitment/relationship. We both want different things and in the end both will get hurt again.
Calico Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 I do hope that is how you feel, too. The advice given is sound and applies to many situations, but every case is different and there is rarely just one approach. But yes, it's good to make sure that her and you are on the same page, that is: that you both want the same thing, and can either work toward that goal together or each go your own way.
Author lov3rboy408 Posted September 20, 2012 Author Posted September 20, 2012 uhoh. Here you go. Down the rabbit hole. You should NOT be responding to her, she is using you and as you said she "don't" wanna get back together. So are you okay with being just friends? No cause you do want to get back together. So what good does it do you to see her? You will not change her remind, just remember that. how old are you guys? she's 26 and i'm 27.. but seem like she need me just for sex and i can feel it... she said she kissed me with love and passionate.. she wanted to have sex with me yesterday and i refused said to her.. i'm a man and i love sex but i'm not a man whore. i did NC for 2 weeks and started to move on with my life and all of sudden she texted me..
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