person15 Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 Hmm where to start... [[Here is the context part if you need it. My current question is at the end.]] My gf of 7 years, all of college and all of highschool, broke up with me on July 4th this year. We were still planning dates, a camping trip, and discussing moving away together. She laid out all these excuses but gave me a chance to prove her wrong, I was successful, but she stated she just didn't know how she felt anymore, that she felt numb and maybe wanted to see other people. What the break up was like. She started hanging out with two friends (girls) more and more. She would change her behavior to fit in with them. Basically I'm a typical guy, and I do little things that annoy a women when you live with them, just being a guy, but I kept it to a minimum and was learning. But I was always there for her, not matter what and she knows that. This is why it was so hard for her to leave me...Anyways. I got to spend less and less time with her, and she became more and more controlling. She would come home and say, "my friends said they could never date someone who watches x tv show or watches the news on youtube, people who do this make bad husbands later, you don't cook often enough" basically any and every petty stereotype and excuse in the book. Also, everything she use to not judge me on changed. The break up was very long and drawn out...she even resigned the lease and was buying me a bicycle for my birthday...so we could go on the camping trip. I read a text in her phone by accident (well actually I don't trust her one friend at all cause I know she cheats on her bf, cause my gf use to hate it) that she was attracted to other guys a bit and was having thoughts. Her friend, naturally being a cheater, replied back all the guys she was thinking about and complained about her bf. So next my girlfriend left me, but she said maybe someday we would still be together. She said I could call her once a week. Well I sent her a couple texts with "love you in it" (probably a mistake, but it was the truth...I'll always love her even if she is not my partner or if I can't ever talk to her again.) Well naturally I tried to discuss her feelings with her. This pushed her away... blah blah blah fast forward to the present. She moved out. I made her a surprised. At first she told me to go away, eventually she invited me in, then she said to go away, then she asked if I wanted some water, then she said I should leave, then she asked if I wanted some chips, and we discussed about things and laughed. Eventually the discussion got pretty serious. She was deflecting everything I threw at her, until it got really deep and the true emotions came out. Her facial expressions changed from cocky to emotionally. I think she realized how much I care about her. This is when she said she was emotionally exhausted now and had to go take a nap. I left. Since our conversation I have been avoiding her, because she got really defensive. I made a breakthrough, so I knew now was the time to take the space and cut her off completely. [[[[[ok after all the context, this is the reason im here]]]] She recently unblocked me from her facebook account, after about 3 months. Is she trying to spy? Is she checking up on me? Jealous? Worried? Playing mind games? She said she wanted to be friends, but I said I can't see her as a friend anymore...ever. Not after how close we were, and how honest we were with each other. It was honestly creepy how good we were to each other. Nobody expected us to break up, not even us. I'm definitely not going to try to contact her anymore, cause then she acts like I'm trying to influence her. But her intentions are a mystery. I need space cause she hurt me really bad by doing this, she never did this before ever, we never fought until last year, and we always apologized to each other right away. She didn't talk about it with anyone really. Rather than cheat on me, she broke up with me, she cared at least that much about me. She hasn't been seeing anybody nor have I. Although I'm sure we have both been flirting. I don't want to get my hopes up cause she unblocked me, in fact I'm considering counter blocking her, just to protect myself. I'm past the trying to crawl back and pleading stage. I know I love her uncontrollably, so that's why I'm trying to stay away unless she makes a move first. Any thoughts, opinions, experience?
SeanitaKim Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 I blocked my ex boyfriend on Facebook about a month ago. It was just too painful for me to watch him getting on with his life like nothing had happened and he had already forgotten me. I do get these almost manic urges to unblock him every now and then, just to see how he's doing and, well, because I miss him so much and I want him back if it were possible. Maybe your ex girlfriend is feeling the same way and misses you as her boyfriend?
Balzac Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 She's an ex therefore not a friend. You need to remover her from your life. That would include FB. Why she acts or fails to act is of no concern. Take care of your business. 1
veggirl Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 She is just not used to you not chasing her, she wants to see what you're doing and if you've moved on. It is all about her, it is selfish and it's just to satisfy her own curiosity. You need to delete and block her.
flitzanu Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 Hmm where to start... [[Here is the context part if you need it. My current question is at the end.]] My gf of 7 years, all of college and all of highschool, broke up with me on July 4th this year. We were still planning dates, a camping trip, and discussing moving away together. She laid out all these excuses but gave me a chance to prove her wrong, I was successful, but she stated she just didn't know how she felt anymore, that she felt numb and maybe wanted to see other people. tyhis is where i stopped reading, and where you need to pay serious attention. her saying this means she's done, and everything else is entirely irrelevant, so save yourself the trouble and heartache of trying to figure it out. she left you, that's it, she's done. sucks, but that's what it is. block her on fb, delete her friends and don't communicate with her, and you'll heal much faster. 2
Coyoteloco Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 im going through somehow the same, the only diference is that i unfriended her from facebook, there was this time when i added her again because she gave me this big delicious breadcrump full of ****!!! after that i unfriended her, turned the page over, checked her on the list, ok whos the next one? Dude look i was in this 6 year relationship, highschool and also college, she started hanging with this new friends, from the start i knew this new friends would influence her to leave me, even one of this new friends had a crush on me while we were in highschool but my ex gf doesnt know that, yes its pretty ****ed up lol Its just life man, see the bright side u got to be with the girl you loved for 7 years! u had great times together, u had so much fun, but well **** happens, all girls are ****ed up in the head. This girl i was with was crazy about me, wanted to marry, have kids with me, sometimes when we were having sex she would say get me pregnant o.O lol but well now she is gone, she got messed up, but i dont blame her, i got really hurt but im starting to heal and start feeling atracted to other girls, u just got to get through this bad time and follow the light in the tunnel. Dont think about the posibility of getting back together cause that will just hurt u, if it happens it happens and even if it does you should think about taking it or not.
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