monkey00 Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 I don't know how common this is, but I've been noticing a lot of couples who are in a similar industry as their significant other. I've also noticed this with myself also. Do you think we're attracted to them/they attracted to us because of the mutual understanding of each other's work? Or perhaps the line of work attracts a distinct personality that you might be naturally attracted to? Or maybe they met at work/in school? How about your own dating experiences?
NoMoreJerks Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 I don't know how common this is, but I've been noticing a lot of couples who are in a similar industry as their significant other. I've also noticed this with myself also. Do you think we're attracted to them/they attracted to us because of the mutual understanding of each other's work? Or perhaps the line of work attracts a distinct personality that you might be naturally attracted to? Or maybe they met at work/in school? How about your own dating experiences? Not necessarily same line of work, as long as we have similar levels of education. I'm doing a PhD in social sciences (with an undergrad degree in computer science though), and my ex had some college education with specialization in computer science, and worked in the aviation engineering industry. We got along really well because we're both geeky, and could talk about that sorta stuff. For me, I think it was the mutual understanding thing.
jobaba Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 I don't know how common this is, but I've been noticing a lot of couples who are in a similar industry as their significant other. I've also noticed this with myself also. Do you think we're attracted to them/they attracted to us because of the mutual understanding of each other's work? Or perhaps the line of work attracts a distinct personality that you might be naturally attracted to? Or maybe they met at work/in school? How about your own dating experiences? I've only noticed this when it comes to a) level of prestige, or b) artistic or labor of love pursuits. For example, doctors are more apt to marry other doctors, not necessarily because they have much more in common, but because of the prestige/salary factor, and because of the hours they keep. I'm also an amateur musician and many pro musicians I know have married because their job is truly something they are passionate about and they spend so much of their life pursuing it that it would only make sense to latch onto somebody else with the same priorities. Most other people kinda like work, just work for a paycheck, or even hate their jobs, so why would they want to talk about it after work. As for myself, I'm an engineer, so the ratio of males to females is almost 5 or 6 to 1, so ... slim pickins. And I work in one of the more female dominated engineering fields. I'm more likely to be attracted to a musician than an engineer.
LittlePrince Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 I don't know how common this is, but I've been noticing a lot of couples who are in a similar industry as their significant other. I've also noticed this with myself also. Do you think we're attracted to them/they attracted to us because of the mutual understanding of each other's work? Or perhaps the line of work attracts a distinct personality that you might be naturally attracted to? Or maybe they met at work/in school? How about your own dating experiences? I saw a study before I came here that found the number 1 place people met was at work and the number 2 spot was held by college/school. The two together created the majority of where people met their SO's. I think it just has to do with any place where you will be constantly bumping into and mingling with the same people will result in coupling. 1
USMCHokie Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 I think it has a lot less to do with some sort of mystic compatibility and a lot more to do with increased exposure. Who are doctors going to see more often than anyone else...? Those in the medical field. You spend about a third of your life sleeping, and more than a third of your life working. Chances are that you'll be more likely to meet someone in your field of work.
todreaminblue Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 I don't know how common this is, but I've been noticing a lot of couples who are in a similar industry as their significant other. I've also noticed this with myself also. Do you think we're attracted to them/they attracted to us because of the mutual understanding of each other's work? Or perhaps the line of work attracts a distinct personality that you might be naturally attracted to? Or maybe they met at work/in school? How about your own dating experiences? I dotn get attracted by what a man does just if he is happy and enthusiastic when he talks about it the type of work he does it isn't in my list of attributes or must haves.A man should be happy doing whatever he wants and then sharing a day spent apart is fun to catch up on....not a drag to repeat or share......if that job was the same job it wouldnt matter either....it doesnt count really ..my dates with men have been with all types of careers and i like to listen to them about what interests them what they find so positive and what they enjoy doing and i have had more platonic dates than actual romantic dates...romantic dating is a minefield.......deb
runner Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 apparently, i tend to be most intellectually compatible with women in the arts and humanities (and the social sciences to a degree), which is my area. so IME it seems to be true.
Pompom Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 (edited) I don't care what he does as long as he does me every night. Seriously though, I don't care. My job doesn't define me. I don't care about my job at all, actually. I'm overpaid and underworked, which is great and why I chose it, but it's a boring insignificant job and has nothing to do with who I am or what I want in life. Also, while I don't pick my partner or my feelings for him according to what he does, I do have a thing for guys with guns. Even though most of them are overworked and underpaid. As for compatibility, I never paid attention. Some of my family members - we are all writers and in the text processing business - say I should get another intellectual on my level, but honestly, I don't feel like tending to 2 of us. I find a busy, creative and intelligent mind to be high in maintenance, often smothering and I like to find shelter in a man. Not just in his many strength, but also in simplicity, where I can just flop down, be cute little wifey, not bust my head with more intelligent talk or intellectual activities, and just be simple and carefree. I tend to tell people who try to get me an academic: Look, I'm not only big but also smart enough for the two of us, get me something to BALANCE that. Dating choices: Don't care. I always fell for the simpletons or apparent simpletons (some turn out to be quite surprising). It's like that samurai wisdom: A sword needs a sheath. I'm looking for a sheath, a place of rest and tranquility. Not a partner for deep, intelligent conversations. Just eat, sleep, raise kids and have fun together. Edited September 20, 2012 by Pompom
LittlePrince Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 I do have a thing for guys with guns. Your avatar pretty much said it all.
IndianBabu Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 (edited) I've only noticed this when it comes to a) level of prestige, or b) artistic or labor of love pursuits. For example, doctors are more apt to marry other doctors, not necessarily because they have much more in common, but because of the prestige/salary factor, and because of the hours they keep. I'm also an amateur musician and many pro musicians I know have married because their job is truly something they are passionate about and they spend so much of their life pursuing it that it would only make sense to latch onto somebody else with the same priorities. Most other people kinda like work, just work for a paycheck, or even hate their jobs, so why would they want to talk about it after work. As for myself, I'm an engineer, so the ratio of males to females is almost 5 or 6 to 1, so ... slim pickins. And I work in one of the more female dominated engineering fields. I'm more likely to be attracted to a musician than an engineer. I would respectfully disagree. Doctors tend to hook up/marry other doctors mostly because of the amount of time they spend together (med school, residency, work [those on-call rooms are quite scandalous ]). They also usually have similar personalities and goals. This probably helps quite a bit in helping a relationship along. I have not seen a case where a doc hooked up with another because of the prestige factor. Most doctors make enough to be quite comfortable on their own, so when looking for a spouse, the salary usually does not factor in. This is of course only what I have seen around work, and my humble observations. There are always exceptions. -IndianBabu Edited September 20, 2012 by IndianBabu
Author monkey00 Posted September 20, 2012 Author Posted September 20, 2012 (edited) Has anyone seen this professions attraction survey/diagram eharmony did last labor day? Though why am I not surprised about the teacher/cop thing? Personally I can't comment because I don't know anyone in these fields: Your Profession and Your Love Life — eHarmony BlogeHarmony Blog I can definitely see it being a intellectual/understanding thing. The women I've been successful with hasn't exactly been in the same line of work, but close enough/very similar line of work in that we can geek out about the same things because of comprehension of each other's industry. Not sure who'd want to sh*t where they eat but I can't think of a single office romance at my job. Most of the women in my office are single too...but they are nearing their mid-30's. Edited September 20, 2012 by monkey00
Hawaii50 Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 unfortunately, few women do IT work in Afghanistan
GoodOnPaper Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 I don't know how common this is, but I've been noticing a lot of couples who are in a similar industry as their significant other. I've also noticed this with myself also. I suspect that meeting at work is more common than necessarily being in the same field. The women in my PhD program (physical sciences) were very much into trying to find "opposites-attract" relationships or already married or engaged to guys who were non-math/science guys, some blue-collar.
irc333 Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 Not necessarily same line of work, as long as we have similar levels of education. I'm doing a PhD in social sciences (with an undergrad degree in computer science though), and my ex had some college education with specialization in computer science, and worked in the aviation engineering industry. We got along really well because we're both geeky, and could talk about that sorta stuff. For me, I think it was the mutual understanding thing. Yeah, I saw a woman on a dating site, same line of work as me...and you don't meet too many single women in said line of work....I tried to use it as an icebreaker in my initial email. "I see you're in the same field as I am, what's your specialty? (then name off some specialties)?" Still get ignored. You'd THINK that would hook them into a conversation about the field, and then go from there. I saw a woman make a few quotes to a Sci-Fi film, even said, "If you can guess this QUOTE, you're in!" And no I didn't GOOGLE the quote, I knew right off my head....STILL no response!
Titanwolf Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 I'm fond of women in the military but in general, people often meet in the same line of work and that helps them to establish common ground. That's always good for bonding
ThaWholigan Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 As a musician, I tend to like performers in general. Actresses, singers, other instrumentalists etc. It's never been as simple as that though - there are times I've liked girls who were budding biologists or doctors or whatever. 1
tigressA Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 I don't give a sh*t about someone's profession beyond their ability to support themselves, but I find I become attracted to engineer/comp-sci/IT types quite a lot, and I definitely do not belong in that group. It's very opposites-attract. Lately though, I have been drawn to men who have more similarities with me in terms of current and/or prior work. It is nice to be able to relate to each other on that level and easily understand where the other is coming from.
Els Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 I've only noticed this when it comes to a) level of prestige, or b) artistic or labor of love pursuits. For example, doctors are more apt to marry other doctors, not necessarily because they have much more in common, but because of the prestige/salary factor, and because of the hours they keep. My experience has been that doctors are mostly with other doctors not so much due to prestige salary, but the fact that (1) they spend so much time at work in their 20s and 30s that their social circle consists mostly only of their colleagues, and (2) it is incredibly, incredibly difficult to sync your location and schedule with a spouse who has a different career. The docs who aren't with other docs seem to mostly be with partners they met prior to starting work, or are with someone who has a low career profile and thus is able to work around their schedule and need to move around. As for myself, I'm an engineer, so the ratio of males to females is almost 5 or 6 to 1, so ... slim pickins. And I work in one of the more female dominated engineering fields. I'm more likely to be attracted to a musician than an engineer. 5 to 1 ain't bad, I'll say. In the computer science department it seems to be something like 10:1. Probably varies depending on individual class and location. Very ironic considering that the first 'programmers' were mostly women.
Author monkey00 Posted September 20, 2012 Author Posted September 20, 2012 My experience has been that doctors are mostly with other doctors not so much due to prestige salary, but the fact that (1) they spend so much time at work in their 20s and 30s that their social circle consists mostly only of their colleagues, and (2) it is incredibly, incredibly difficult to sync your location and schedule with a spouse who has a different career. The docs who aren't with other docs seem to mostly be with partners they met prior to starting work, or are with someone who has a low career profile and thus is able to work around their schedule and need to move. I'm not a doctor but definitely the busy work schedule/ career thing has a lot to do with couples matches and vice versa. Or it could just be the idea of work ethics versus having lax work ethics. Better to be in sync in most cases than not. Otherwise a mismatched couple in that one person works late all the time and the other doesn't could make for a sour relationship.
Author monkey00 Posted September 20, 2012 Author Posted September 20, 2012 As a musician, I tend to like performers in general. Actresses, singers, other instrumentalists etc. It's never been as simple as that though - there are times I've liked girls who were budding biologists or doctors or whatever. Funny you say hat. My friend works in theater and is a musician as a hobby. His girlfriend is also in theater and she sings professionally. Together they make beautiful music and sing duets. I don't know much musician girls but I play music on the side and easily make friends with those that do too. 1
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