Need some adivce about my ex gf...

[skippidybopman]

This is my first post, and I'm kind of putting myself out there, but please read the whole post before responding.

 

So about a month ago, my ex gf and I broke up, saying it was a mutual break up simply because we didn't see each other a whole lot. After a week or two I found out that there was more to that, with one of the reasons that I didn't show my feelings toward her as much as I should. We dated for a year and a half, and i never told her that I loved her, and really didn't open up as much as I should have. Before this next incident, she said she is not ready to get back together. Last week we had a talk, and I flat out told her that I loved her, and thats where everything went weird. She was shocked, and wondered why I didn't tell her that when we were together, I told her I was afraid of what she would think. She said that she did love me when we were together. After this very emotional talk, full of crying and discussion, we ended up snuggling in bed (no sex) and she said she missed doing that. I told her I would like a second chance (I gave her a second chance after she cheated on me a year before that) and she didn't know if she was ready for that. I told her to think about it, and I could tell in her body language that she had feelings for me still, but I could tell that she didn't know what to do. I told her that in order for me to get over her, we would have to cut off any contact, but she still wanted to be friends.

 

Moving forward, after that talk, the same night she texted me and asked if we could still text. I said we probably shouldn't but continued to anyway. She also knew that we shouldn't text each other, but she didn't want to stop. She said that she was very very confused on what to do with me and that she thinks about me all the time, whether that is a good thing or not, I dont know. I asked if she wanted to hang out and even snuggle like old times, and she said she wanted to but she knew that she shouldn't because she still doesn't know what she wants. I said that we should not talk to each other for a whole week to see if anything changes, so at the moment we havent talked for two days. She also wanted to see how much she would miss me in this week. Before that I wrote her a message on Facebook telling her anything else I had to say. I just don't know what to think right now and this week really really sucks.

 

BTW I am 21 and she is 20. Feel free to ask for anymore information about this situation and I will provide.

Edited September 20, 2012 by skippidybopman

[lookinxforxchange]

i would like to talk to you more about this subject cause i can solve this mystery!!!!

well first of all it takes me about 2 years to actually tell a woman that i love them so you shouldn't have felt bad at all actually if i was you i would of waited and when she said she is not ready to get back together yet than shes either thinking of someone else or thinking about what you pretty much tell her is a lie cause and when you told her you loved her after that long she was thinkin in her head well why didn't he tell me sooner so pretty much shes having mixed emotions at that point.. so brings me to my last saying when she asked you if you two could still text i would of said you know it hurts me to even think of you with another man because baby i love you and always will and if you don't wanna get back with me than i gotta leave you be just say that to her... now what i would do in this situation if you really love her as much as im pretty much reading and you do not want to lose her than go pick up 2 dozen roses and if you can't cook than call her up and say hey i would like to buy you dinner and have the table set up with the roses and tell her how much she means to you and if she really loves you she will be with you if she doesn't she will walk away and than you are gonna feel loneliness but my saying is there is plenty more fish out in the sea... i did wanna ask you if you two have said anything else or more since this post and if anything ty have a gn my friend

Edited September 20, 2012 by lookinxforxchange

[skippidybopman]

We havent talked since monday, we made an agreement that we wouldn't talk for a whole week. I really meant it when I told her I loved her, but I want to give her space so she can figure things out without pressuring her.

 

I'm not sure flowers would be a good idea, as you stated in your post, wouldn't that break rules if I sent flowers? I just don't know what to do anymore.

[lookinxforxchange]

naw dont send flowers go and pick them up yourself and than have one of the waiters deliever the flowers for you when you get her to the restaurant and put a note on the flowers like we need to talk or not a day goes by that i don't think about us i would txt her asap thow cause the more time that goes by its gonna be waisted man and once its gone its gone who cares if you said dont txt for a whole week just text her and say im sorry that im texting you before the week is over but i gotta tell you how much you mean to me.. here is how i would do it see women are strange when a guy stops giving them attention than the woman thinks they are cheating on them well guess what don't guys do pretty much the same thing? they think well shes not giving me attention it must be that other guy pretty much same situation here do you want this girl to find another guy hell no you don't so man up and do this just play the cards right and if you don't feel like flowers and dinner than take her to a movie and popcorn...