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Hello LS.

 

I currently have a problem with a close friend who is very outspoken, good looking and attention-seeking to the ladies. Now I am not a bad looking guy, I am about average but have a good personality. But, I can't help but hate the fact that when I am at an outing with this friend, he becomes a vulture, attention hungry and at times will subtlety C-block me. I also notice he ALWAYS wants to be introduced to female friends that were set up for me by another friend. Its hard to shoo away this guy too since we hang out almost everyday and hes like a brother. But damn it seems when it comes to girls he is all over them, and more often than not, gets them. I can admit I feel a tad intimidated by his "game". Even some of the other guys in our group with feel the same towards him.

 

What can I do to counter this? I am more of a quiet-will-open-up type once I feel comfortable whereas he is straight up and outspoken(which a lot of times kills my chances). Its kind of the reason why I don't like inviting him to hangouts cause with him at my side, I can't catch a break. And he gets really mad when he finds out I went to something and didn't invite him. What is the best approach?

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You will have to establish your boundary with him and tell him that youre not hanging out with him because he C Blocks you. Be a man and tell him the truth. Bottoim line is, if you wont be as outspoken as he is or more, you will forever be the shadow, so you cant hang with him at all.

 

For the time bieng, to kill his game, when he starts talking to women in front of you, try to set them up. Setups dont often work because it feels forced. So you will kill the vibe, and then both of you can move on to different women. Try to keep separated form him so you can talk to women on your own, and avoid him if you see him coming toward you.

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Hello LS.

 

I currently have a problem with a close friend who is very outspoken, good looking and attention-seeking to the ladies. Now I am not a bad looking guy, I am about average but have a good personality. But, I can't help but hate the fact that when I am at an outing with this friend, he becomes a vulture, attention hungry and at times will subtlety C-block me. I also notice he ALWAYS wants to be introduced to female friends that were set up for me by another friend. Its hard to shoo away this guy too since we hang out almost everyday and hes like a brother. But damn it seems when it comes to girls he is all over them, and more often than not, gets them. I can admit I feel a tad intimidated by his "game". Even some of the other guys in our group with feel the same towards him.

 

What can I do to counter this? I am more of a quiet-will-open-up type once I feel comfortable whereas he is straight up and outspoken(which a lot of times kills my chances). Its kind of the reason why I don't like inviting him to hangouts cause with him at my side, I can't catch a break. And he gets really mad when he finds out I went to something and didn't invite him. What is the best approach?

 

 

what is c block?

 

 

If you meet the right girl she wont give a toss about your friend playing an a game.....the right girl wont be into games......in fact it will probably sift chaff from the golden wheat....take your friend along.....but if you are after sex then dont take your friend along and good luck with the one nighters......quite types arent normally just interested in sex if it takes you a while to open up i would hazard a guess to say you werent just interested in that, dont worry about your friend he will always find like minded game players if you bomb out with a gamer then you don't have to waste time with cheats you can find the right girl without the game

 

take your friend and use him as a heat seeker missile...have fun and go whew that was close when he scores a gamer....instead of you......deb

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You will have to establish your boundary with him and tell him that youre not hanging out with him because he C Blocks you. Be a man and tell him the truth. Bottoim line is, if you wont be as outspoken as he is or more, you will forever be the shadow, so you cant hang with him at all.

 

For the time bieng, to kill his game, when he starts talking to women in front of you, try to set them up. Setups dont often work because it feels forced. So you will kill the vibe, and then both of you can move on to different women. Try to keep separated form him so you can talk to women on your own, and avoid him if you see him coming toward you.

 

I have told him one time about one girl in particular that dug him for a bit(that was the first time cock blocked me) then stopped talking to him cause he was too immature and then she came onto me. It blew things out of proportion(she cut him off, and he kinda pushed himself back in just to be her friend, while I was seeing her, which in turn was awkward for me) and he got really butt hurt since hes a sensitive guy at heart.

 

When he is not after women, he is a really good friend and a good person. He just has that facade and wants that attention from girls it makes it hard for me to try and find a decent gal when hes there. Even just going out and about in the town he is always checking out girls or doing something to make himself known to get their attention..ugh.

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It blew things out of proportion(she cut him off, and he kinda pushed himself back in just to be her friend, while I was seeing her, which in turn was awkward for me) and he got really butt hurt since hes a sensitive guy at heart.

 

See, at that point, when you see him pushing onto your girl, you tell him to keep trying and see how far he gets with her. You tell her that you told him that, you both laugh about him, she will be turned off to him, and none of his game will work, he will look pathetic. Then you make fun of him for it whenever you can. THAT will dissuede him from pulling that shyt. It doesnt have to be awkward for you, in fact, it can work in your favor. You can do that whenever a girl likes you and is turned off to him, and he keeps trying.

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Your "friend" is the AMOG when he is around, simple as that.

 

You have fallen into the role as his wing and you don't want to play that role with him anymore. He's cocky, selfish, and greedy, figures you don't have the balls to do anything about it, and evidently he's correct on all counts.

 

Three alternatives as I see it: One, you simply don't hang out with the dude anymore; two, you continue to be submissive when in his presence and ladies are around, and after he isolates a hot babe, you get stuck with the fat chick; three, you challenge the m-f*cker and take over as the alpha male. Challenging him may take balls that you don't have.

 

Grow them.

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I have told him one time about one girl in particular that dug him for a bit(that was the first time cock blocked me) then stopped talking to him cause he was too immature and then she came onto me. It blew things out of proportion(she cut him off, and he kinda pushed himself back in just to be her friend, while I was seeing her, which in turn was awkward for me) and he got really butt hurt since hes a sensitive guy at heart.

 

When he is not after women, he is a really good friend and a good person. He just has that facade and wants that attention from girls it makes it hard for me to try and find a decent gal when hes there. Even just going out and about in the town he is always checking out girls or doing something to make himself known to get their attention..ugh.

 

He's acting like a douche but unfortunately that often is attractive to bubble-brained women.

 

I suggest whenever he starts pulling his "act" when you are around the ladies, you openly make fun of him, seriously neg him, humiliate him in front of women. Do you know any embarassing stories about him--like maybe a time he got so drunk he crapped his pants or something? Make him the total laughingstock.

 

Your "friend" is a serious douche.

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He's acting like a douche but unfortunately that often is attractive to bubble-brained women.

 

I suggest whenever he starts pulling his "act" when you are around the ladies, you openly make fun of him, seriously neg him, humiliate him in front of women. Do you know any embarassing stories about him--like maybe a time he got so drunk he crapped his pants or something? Make him the total laughingstock.

 

Your "friend" is a serious douche.

 

I hear that on the AMOG, thats how I feel sometimes(and its never like that with any of the other guys I hang with, I feel that we are all equal and not attention starved). Especially since I am not out there for attention and am more of the laid-back guy. I just did that to him today with a mutual female friend we went to have a drink with. On the ride home(I have a license, he doesn't) he told me why I laughed when he was telling the mutual friend how he was really a sweet heart. I laughed cause I know the real him and his bull****. He got butt hurt over it.

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