Brunettie Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 This confusing relationship stuff. Example: Wait 3 days to call. Don't text back right away. Don't say this, say that. Don't do this, do that. If you want a kiss, act this way. If you like him, act this way. Play hard to get. Etc. Where did all this stuff come from? I think it just adds unnecessary complication to things. I've been reading posts on here lately, and some have to do with that, so it made me wonder. 2
Titanwolf Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 I don't really follow any of that stuff if that helps you any. I've always followed my instincts and given people space. If you can read body language, learn to take a hint and act on cues, I believe you'll do fine without over-analyzing a situation. The most important thing is to be honest, playing games only makes a simple situation, complex for the sake of attempting to gain an advantage. It's not worth it. As to where it all came from, the darkest regions of the internet =_= 4
todreaminblue Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 This confusing relationship stuff. Example: Wait 3 days to call. Don't text back right away. Don't say this, say that. Don't do this, do that. If you want a kiss, act this way. If you like him, act this way. Play hard to get. Etc. Where did all this stuff come from? I think it just adds unnecessary complication to things. I've been reading posts on here lately, and some have to do with that, so it made me wonder. I dont know all I know is they should consolidate and work out the conflicting truth from the total crap........i think when you use the act...its a telling means i dont know crap better read the script dontcha think.......deb
El Brujo Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 Where did all this stuff come from? Most of it was made up by those James Dean wannabes we went to high school with.
CptObvious Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 lol who gives a **** about the rulebook
insertnamehere Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 It arises from the fact that human sexuality is a social power exchange. And the art of social power hinges a lot on being the person with the least concern for the feelings of the people around them. It ends up a lot like football tackling technique (American, not confused furrinner football). Lowest guy gains leverage. Lowest guy wins. Back in the old days of Mao in China, there used to be these weird photos with all these communist leaders slouching as low as they possibly could in their chairs. Mind you, these were grown men with serious economic and military power -- they could unleash real hell if they wanted. And they spent their time together trying to look like the slouchiest, laziest guy in the room. Why? Because that's how, in that culture, power was signaled. Well, how does that work between men and women in our culture? The person who shows the most concern is perceived as weak and needy and is all but automatically ruled out from being a potential mate. Whoever cares the least takes the most power.
Titania22 Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 As to where it all came from, the darkest regions of the internet =_= I don't know where it came from, but it was around long before the internet. 1
Minka333 Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 I also don't follow most esp the wait awhile before you text back coz i know if i do ill totally forget what was initially on my mind.
Silly_Girl Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 This confusing relationship stuff. Example: Wait 3 days to call. Don't text back right away. Don't say this, say that. Don't do this, do that. If you want a kiss, act this way. If you like him, act this way. Play hard to get. Etc. Where did all this stuff come from? I think it just adds unnecessary complication to things. I've been reading posts on here lately, and some have to do with that, so it made me wonder. Rules of dating: there are no rules. Follow your instinct, remain cautious and be natural. All the people I met through OLD scoffed at 'the rules' and at times it became a running joke.
LittlePrince Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 This confusing relationship stuff. Example: Wait 3 days to call. Don't text back right away. Don't say this, say that. Don't do this, do that. If you want a kiss, act this way. If you like him, act this way. Play hard to get. Etc. Where did all this stuff come from? I think it just adds unnecessary complication to things. I've been reading posts on here lately, and some have to do with that, so it made me wonder.
El Brujo Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 lol who gives a **** about the rulebook You better give a **** about it unless you want the rest of the world to snub you
Negative Nancy Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 I think it just adds unnecessary complication to things. Yes, that's why I live by the motto, if it's the right person you can't do anything wrong, and if it's the wrong person you can't do anything right. 3
eve86 Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 I agree, those stigmas do complete the relationship process. I don't follow them, I do what I feel like doing when it comes to a guy. Of course, I never take it overboard, I give them space, and follow the natural course of the relationship, good or bad.
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