If you are not receiving regular calls, or texts if they have lost interest in you?

[surlyboy]

I started seeing someone about two weeks ago and like always, the E mails and texting is fast and furious in the beginning. It seems like when you meet someone online, you are sending happy little texts to let them know you are interested all the way up to the first date. But does that normally drop off? Sometimes when a woman texts me little BS all day every day when we only went out a few times, I think clingy, needy, on the rebound and craving attention...or is it normal for a woman to never stop texting you if you clicked? That seems to assume that the person fell hard for you right away. What if you really like a person, but are unsure and maybe still seeing other people too? When the texting slows way down, or appears to stop the week following a second, or third date, is that a signal that you've been dismissed?

 

Is it normal not to text someone you have dated once or twice for 5 days or so after the last date, especially if you are just starting out and unsure about each other? I really get confused about the proper way to communicate in the beginning stages of dating. If you are not receiving regular calls, or texts if they have lost interest in you, or is there something else I am overlooking in the big picture?

[Rave]

Ok So I am a woman who is really good at catching men's attention. Now I know games are usually looked down upon but..... Its the only way I know to get results.

 

People can't resist a challenge. It drives them crazy. The better looking and more successful a person is, the more they hate to fail. So the best way to get a hook on a relationship early is to show u got the power. don't text them let them text you. Never be the last to reply. If a conversation gets boring.

 

don't answer.

 

Number one golden rule of dating (there is always someone waiting) If a relationship doesn't work out and statistically speaking it most likely it wont (only one will after all and maybe none). Put yourself out there and try again. I personally don't think internet dating is a good way to meet a person. We are animals and attraction is chemical. But maybe im old fashioned that way.

[CaptJay]

Put yourself out there and try again.

 

"Do or do not... there is no try."

-Yoda

 

[C-V-L]

Ok So I am a woman who is really good at catching men's attention. Now I know games are usually looked down upon but..... Its the only way I know to get results.

 

People can't resist a challenge. It drives them crazy. The better looking and more successful a person is, the more they hate to fail. So the best way to get a hook on a relationship early is to show u got the power. don't text them let them text you. Never be the last to reply. If a conversation gets boring.

 

don't answer.

 

Number one golden rule of dating (there is always someone waiting) If a relationship doesn't work out and statistically speaking it most likely it wont (only one will after all and maybe none). Put yourself out there and try again. I personally don't think internet dating is a good way to meet a person. We are animals and attraction is chemical. But maybe im old fashioned that way.

 

Hmmm... well you're right.. kinda. That used to work on me when I was younger. The harder a girl would play dead the more I would stick my nose in to figure out how it's possible she doesn't like me. Now I would say there's a fine line that a girl has to walk because if she over does it, I clue on really fast as to what's really going on. The best girl players I know are really good with going hot/cold not just cold. I guess it's hard to explain what I mean by that but basically it's showing interest then losing it, gaining it again, losing it. ect...

[truth_seeker]

I can understand a girl testing a guy but if she goes too cold, that just shows complete disinterest.

 

One thing I do know: people who play games eventually get burned and hurt.

[truth_seeker]

We are animals and attraction is chemical. But maybe im old fashioned that way.

 

I agree 100%. You see someone and it hits you. For me, I freeze, I get nervous, I'm instantly smitten.

[monkey00]

Dating for me has always been a hit or miss.

 

Either the girl is really into me off the bat and sees me as bf material or if she doesn't feel it on the first date then it likely won't go anywhere thereafter.

 

I will have to go with the answer that if you don't communicate/see each other regularly then she's either a really busy person, not interested, or dating others.

[NoMoreJerks]

Dating for me has always been a hit or miss.

 

Either the girl is really into me off the bat and sees me as bf material or if she doesn't feel it on the first date then it likely won't go anywhere thereafter.

 

I will have to go with the answer that if you don't communicate/see each other regularly then she's either a really busy person, not interested, or dating others.

How regularly are we talking about here? I'm talking about phone calls here.

 

I would never do online dating. It just feels so unnatural / artificial, almost forced. I'd rather stay single. I haven't seen many people who are my type of person, especially career-wise, on online dating sites.

[monkey00]

How regularly are we talking about here? I'm talking about phone calls here.

 

I would never do online dating. It just feels so unnatural / artificial, almost forced. I'd rather stay single. I haven't seen many people who are my type of person, especially career-wise, on online dating sites.

 

It depends on the people. But I would say at least once or twice a week...then the frequency of it increases as you gradually go on more dates. Most people I've gone out with don't like to talk on the phone much, everyone finds texting to be more relaxed and convenient. Personally though I hate texting! But it's good also in that you save the chatting for in person and have more things to talk about during the date.

[SJC2008]

Ok So I am a woman who is really good at catching men's attention. Now I know games are usually looked down upon but..... Its the only way I know to get results.

 

People can't resist a challenge. It drives them crazy. The better looking and more successful a person is, the more they hate to fail. So the best way to get a hook on a relationship early is to show u got the power. don't text them let them text you. Never be the last to reply. If a conversation gets boring.

 

don't answer.

 

Number one golden rule of dating (there is always someone waiting) If a relationship doesn't work out and statistically speaking it most likely it wont (only one will after all and maybe none). Put yourself out there and try again. I personally don't think internet dating is a good way to meet a person. We are animals and attraction is chemical. But maybe im old fashioned that way.

 

They can work if done right as there's a fine line between hard to get and not to get. If I'm neutral about a girl I'm not going to get but hurt about her not texting me back. If I like a girl I hate it if she takes forever to get back to me. I have a counter for game players if I run into another one. Throw that **** back at em. They take 2 days to call back I'm taking 3-4. It's a nice way of saying "You wanna date or play games? Because I can play games too"

[LittlePrince]

Because of the time I have been here on LS I have become disdainful of phones.