WB Posted July 24, 2004 Posted July 24, 2004 Hi, I need some perspective cuz I'm not sure what to do. My ex broke up with me a year ago. One of the reasons she left me was because I was too needy. And I think the intensity of my love scared her. As a last ditch effort, I asked her to go to Europe with me so we could get away from the stress and reconnect. She refused. Since then we barely talked. (see my story http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t42774/) So after 6 months of excuriating pain, I finally started moving on. A couple months ago I went to Europe, but with someone else, a long-time friend who really likes me. I like her too, but I don't think it'll work so we just went as friends. Here's the thing, everyone, including my ex, knew I went to Europe (though she doesn't know I went with a girl). I'm about to post the pics on the web, and I don't know if I should give my ex access. I still love her, and hope that maybe one day she'll come back. If she sees me with another girl (they don't know each other), on a trip I planned for us, how would she react? Would she try to get back with me now that I've apparently moved on (and no longer needy)? Or would she give up on me? In our last IM, she hinted she wouldn't mind meeting. So should I show her the pics or not?
Craig Posted July 24, 2004 Posted July 24, 2004 Your ex is going to find out eventually that you went to Europe with a girl whether you tell her yourself or not. If you don't tell her that you went with a girl then you are lying to her by omission. Should you give her access to your pics? If she asks you then maybe you should if you feel comfortable doing so. If you don't feel comfortable giving her access to your pics then don't but don't keep your traveling companion a secret from her either unless you have a reason other than possibly wanting to get back together with her.
Author WB Posted July 24, 2004 Author Posted July 24, 2004 Hmm, I'm not obliged to inform my ex what I do with my life. She broke up with me, refused to talk to me for 6 months. I hope to get back together one day. And I think she may be thinking the same. I just don't know if these pics will push her further away or urge her to take some action.
Author WB Posted July 24, 2004 Author Posted July 24, 2004 Hmm, I'm not obliged to inform my ex what I do with my life. She broke up with me, refused to talk to me for 6 months. I hope to get back together one day. And I think she may be thinking the same. But the circumstance isn't conducive for that (long long distance). I just don't know if these pics will push her further away or urge her to take some action.
lost_in_chgo Posted July 25, 2004 Posted July 25, 2004 If she asks, give it to her. If she doesn't, don't.
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