leoc1973 Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 OK went on a first date with a great girl. All the classic body language signs of her facing me keeping eye contact smiling ect. I ended the date because I had to work really early. She gave me a great long hug and was kinda waiting for a kiss but I kissed her on the cheek and said good night. She texted me before I got home asking if I got home ok. OK so I can't tell if she is playing a little hard to get or not interested. When I text her she always waits like an hour and either texts me back or calls. She always gives me the sorry it took me so long to get back to you I am super busy. I said no problem. Last night I text her and she calls me 3 hours later. she is always bubbly on the phone and in a great mood and laughs a lot. I asked her to get together again and she said I am really busy can I get back to ya. I said sure let me know. OK so my question is if a girl isn't interested won't she just ignore you? Would she actually call me instead of just texting me? She also slipped in conversation and told me that she was telling her friend about something I said. So she is talking about me with friends. I have been on a lot of dates since being single and they all wanted a second date but this is the first girl I actually want a second date with. I am really fighting the desire to message her but I am trying to play it cool. So hard to get or not interested?
runner Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 quit playing games and just let her know you'd like to see her again. why is that so difficult ?
Author leoc1973 Posted September 19, 2012 Author Posted September 19, 2012 I did she said she had a busy week and would have to get back to me. She never ignores me but always seems to do the whole waiting to get back to me. I don't know if its so she doesn't look too eager or she's just too sweet to tell me she's not interested.
runner Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 does it really matter either way ? so you like her, hooray for you. surely you have other things going on in your life ? how are your mates doing ? the guitar you always said you were gonna pick up ? etc. you do know where i'm going with this yes ? the only way to deal with players is to rise above their game and call their bluff. if she gets back to you, great; if not, there you go. oh well
insertnamehere Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 Sometimes I just text a girl right after the end of the date with something to the effect of "There, now no one is waiting to see who texts first." I despise the whole "don't seem too eager". There's too much Jedi mind trick advice out there in the world that causes people to get crazy about nothing. 3
Author leoc1973 Posted September 19, 2012 Author Posted September 19, 2012 Oh I am not sitting around staring at the phone its just this is the first girl I actually have interest in in the last year and a half. I am more just trying to figure her out. I had an ex who read all the books and she knew how to play the game I am just wondering if she would even call if she wasn't interested.
insertnamehere Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 Oh I am not sitting around staring at the phone its just this is the first girl I actually have interest in in the last year and a half. I am more just trying to figure her out. I had an ex who read all the books and she knew how to play the game I am just wondering if she would even call if she wasn't interested. I wasn't indicting you in any way. Just passing along the advice that you can't bother yourself for even a minute with all this crap. Frankly, it sounds like you're letting former girl's game playing influence your current outlook. Eventually you have to settle on how you want your world to be. That's without regard to how the world actually is, I ought to add. Then you do things your way. For my part, my way is torpedo the "too eager" by just blowing it out of the way. If that means something negative to some chick, then that's a meaningful data point about whether I even want to be around her.
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