Marine0311 Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 Long story short our relationship ended when she got back to college. We were not fighting at all and had a relatively weird breakup saying our last I love yous. My original gameplan was to only answer her if she talked to me first, but after a couple of days of being broken up she stopped talking to me. Besides today its been 3 weeks since we last talked. So I have a deployment to Afghanistan in 6 weeks for 13 months. Im going home for 10 days and itll be my last time home before I deploy. Im in the infantry, so of course it is a higher risk i may not come home alive or the same as I left. Anyways, she randomly texted me today and we talked for a little about me in Hawaii and how is it and I told her my unit got called for deployment in 6 weeks. I told her Id be homefor 10 days and I wished I could see her. She immediately bugged out saying I was trying to guilt trip her. I then said to calm down, by saying I wished to see her I was asking if I could come see her at school.. She responded "if you are serious, dont surprise me, I hate surprises, let me know if youre coming ahead of time" I was hurt by this answer because top me it seems like she doesnt want to be surprised because shes got a "friend" at college. All my buddies agree that she is most likely sleeping woth someone else due to that text. Anyways, im not going to visit her or speak with her before I leave. It just hurts to know she can basically careless about me when im about to go to war. I cant wait to spend 13 months completely disconnected from her sp I can forget her! It kills me I wont see her before I go, but I think its best. Any advice?
johnc342345 Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 it would raise red flags to me considering she wants to know when your gonna come but then again she may just want to make sure she looks extra nice for you or plan some kind of going away present you never really know. But take it from me you do not want to deploy if this girl is the only thing you can think about i was in the military for 6 years and saw guys get killed just because their mind was on their ex instead of the mission or the guy their supposed to be covering. Shake it off get your head about you and get home safe!!!
Author Marine0311 Posted September 19, 2012 Author Posted September 19, 2012 What branch were you? Ive been to Afghanistan once already, but stayed near Leatherneck so we were pretty good. This time were headed for the ****, but when it comes down to work Im good to go! The red flags are definitely legitimate, the context of how she said it was in a very protective way.
johnc342345 Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 i was army yeah you can tell a lot by the tone and how people say things and heres the thing about that though you could go surprise her but that would probably only make matters worse since she already told you not to she could begin to think you dont trust her
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