stormy Posted July 23, 2004 Posted July 23, 2004 Here is his background: He's single, but much older than me. He took interest in me, but is reluctant to pursue because of my age, I'm 19. Can I seduce him and change his mind ? Or will he reject me ?
Curt Posted July 23, 2004 Moderators Posted July 23, 2004 How old is he? What does he do? How did you meet him? What attracts you to him? What do you know about him? What type of relationship do you want to achieve with him? Long or short, etc. ? What do you do? What could you bring to a relationship with him? Could you put up with any criticism his or your friends might have of you both (if he is significantly older)? More details required to give good advice. Curt
Author stormy Posted July 23, 2004 Author Posted July 23, 2004 He is in his late thirties. He owns a shop, he came into my work. I know he is single, and looking for a GF. I'm a college student. He first approached me, then stopped after inquiring about my age ... I just want to seduce him. So, can I ?
HoldOn Posted July 24, 2004 Posted July 24, 2004 Well, obviously he is not interested in dating someone so young. So, I wouldn't push it. Anyway, the question is why are YOU interested in dating him? Not trying to be rude, but how was your family life. Did your father leave you or abuse you?
supermom Posted July 24, 2004 Posted July 24, 2004 Given your age difference, one thing comes to mind, that eventually you will outgrow him. Even if you did have a relationship with him, in a few years, your life will change and you will start to "grow up" ( no offense ) The only reason why I say this is that even though I am only 25, my views from 19 are so much different. I even got married at 19, and needless to say, I am divorced from that man, remarried and a mother now, and looking back I can safely say I am a different person now than I was at 19 because of me getting older. 19 is such a weird age, you will outgrow him eventually....
Author stormy Posted July 24, 2004 Author Posted July 24, 2004 No, I wasn't abused or anything like that. I'm just wanting to have fun. I think I want a challenge.
HoldOn Posted July 24, 2004 Posted July 24, 2004 Isn't there some 19-year-old challenge you could find?
Author stormy Posted July 24, 2004 Author Posted July 24, 2004 No, I hate guys my age. They are all the same. I want to explore other options. I am just wanting to know if u think he is totally appauled now. He bought me things and came to my work to see me a few times before he knew my age.
HoldOn Posted July 24, 2004 Posted July 24, 2004 Yes, I think he is totally appalled. As he should be. Most guys that age would be. If he was interested, you should seriously question his integrity. What. you think all 19-year-old guys are the same? What do you mean by that? Maybe you just need to get out more.
Author stormy Posted July 24, 2004 Author Posted July 24, 2004 I get out plenty. I'm a young college student who is sick of the idiot boys that get drunk and smoke pot all the time. I'm turning twenty, not sixteen !!! You should know that there are lots of sucessful couples with age differences. I'm a responsible young woman, who is intelligent and mature - not appalling. I used that as an exaggeration. Plus, he'd have to be an idiot to not know I'm pretty young. He pursued me, until someone made my age sound like a bad thing, without even getting to know me as a person.
HoldOn Posted July 24, 2004 Posted July 24, 2004 You are the one who used the word "appalling" first. I am just answering your questions. I was simply saying that there ARE some mature 19-25 year old guys and that you need to look around more. You probably won't find a good guy at a bar. You should look at school or something. Good luck!
SweetBee82 Posted July 24, 2004 Posted July 24, 2004 Stormy, I'm only a few years older than you, but I have to say that HoldOn is right. She's not trying to insult you in any way. Not all college-aged guys out there are looking for the quick hookup. You have to look deeper. They are mostly the guys in your class, or at the libary, or in the stands during a sports game. As for a quick fling with this dude ... try to question his motives. Yes, some couples were successful on the age difference. My ex-huband is 8 years older than me (we met when I was 18 and he was 26). But the 19-year old that you are now, will change dramatically in a couple of years. I'm 22 and though I still look 18, mentally I feel 30. Also, I did hook up with guys much older before meeting my ex-husband. To be honest, they are just as similar to college guys, just without the getting drunk and smoking pot. Maybe this guy is looking for some sugarbaby and whatnot. But it's up to you. From my experience, though guys "claim" to have more experience, they're not that good.
havNfun Posted July 24, 2004 Posted July 24, 2004 Can I, a 19 Year-Old Seduce This(an) Older Man? I not only hope so - I sure the hell wish they would. often! 1
Samson Posted July 24, 2004 Posted July 24, 2004 stormy, Assuming this guy walked ONLY because of your age, I see no reason, ethical or otherwise why you couldn't "seduce' him. Bear in mind that while older guys APPEAR to be more confident than your peers, he maybe less confident and assuming that you would never be interested in a guy so much older than yourself. My advise: Approach slowly but confidently to show that you are unlike most 19 year olds. Ask him to lunch.
miz_barby Posted July 24, 2004 Posted July 24, 2004 He bought me things and came to my work to see me a few times before he knew my age. I bet him BUYING you things and OWNING his own shop has ALOT to do with the reason you want to pursue him, you want to seduce him into giving you nice things and once you tire of him or have all you want you will use the age difference excuse against him so that you can get outta the relationship! I hope he runs far away, I feel you want someone to take care of you financially! You want a sugar daddy so and you know men your own age won't do that!
Redwinged Posted July 24, 2004 Posted July 24, 2004 Even if you did have a relationship with him, in a few years, your life will change and you will start to "grow up" ( no offense )I absolutely agree here. At 19, you are about to enter a very interesting time in your life. My late teens and early twenties were a time of growth for me. It is entirely possible that you will end up on the other side of 25 as a different person.
mronederful Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 bla bla bla !! here's something i hope every female on here reads! 19 year old guys want nothing more than another piece, because they have more of it. older guys have other things going on and don't have the energy to chase as many tails as we used to. we don't get it as often so we make sure it's good when we do get it. ask him out, i met my ex when i was 28 and she was 17 she would NOT take no for an answer, finally i gave in, i figured she would grow out of it, well she moved in shortly after, it didn't last, but age has nothing to do with anything. women start to mature at like 18, men fight it off until thier mid 30's or longer if they can
HoldOn Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 19 year old guys want nothing more than another piece, Yes, and a 38-year-old man who chases a 19-year-old girl wants her for her complex intellect. Uh huh.
Mr Spock Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 Originally posted by HoldOn Well, obviously he is not interested in dating someone so young. So, I wouldn't push it. Anyway, the question is why are YOU interested in dating him? Not trying to be rude, but how was your family life. Did your father leave you or abuse you? Oh stop it Hold On!!! You go ahead and f*ck this man. Older men can be fun. Just use protection. It's always nice to shack up with someone who can teach you a thing or two. The only problem I can see is that she might get attached and end up getting hurt. If you're ok with him buying you things and f*cking him for fun then go ahead. And to answer your question, if you've got two feet and a heartbeat you can probably seduce him.
Author stormy Posted July 26, 2004 Author Posted July 26, 2004 hey thanks for the advice i will ask him out! And i value your opinion because you are a MALE> and im sure that lady who keeps posting has a very complex intelect considering she doesnt even know that times have changed and girls do mature faster than guys.
Author stormy Posted July 26, 2004 Author Posted July 26, 2004 oh and to that post about me being a gold digger, i am not in college so i can live off someone else im in college so i can better myself, and the can of pepsi he gave me is hardly a status symbol.
Max Zoom Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 Max says go for it. If the age thing bothers him too much he'll let you know. There are lots of mid-thirties guys who wouldn't mind dating a 19 year old. Then again there are plenty who would be bored to tears with one so young. Wasn't Jerry Seinfelds girlfiend 19 or so (Shoshana) when they started going out? One would think that that 19 year old's intellect offered something to Jerry. Still, she did have a "spectacular" pair of breasts too didn't she. Go for it. Max hopes you do us proud.
HoldOn Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 If the age thing bothers him too much he'll let you know. He already did let her know. He stopped pursuing her as soon as he found out her age.
Author stormy Posted July 26, 2004 Author Posted July 26, 2004 hey thank you for the positive encouragement. I think he is a little scared though. he hasnt come around since and its for one of two reasons, he is either afraid he will do something wrong by accepting or he wants nothing to do with me. i hope its the first. I also wanted to say that i dont want to just "F*CK" him i wanted to know him and by seduce i mean at least a kiss. thanks for the advice! im sure my boobs are nicer than jerrys girl friend anyway! jk!
HoldOn Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 And i value your opinion because you are a MALE> Mr.Spock is, in fact, a woman. And of course you are valuing her opinion, when she is telling you what you want to hear!
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