unluckylady Posted July 23, 2004 Posted July 23, 2004 I'm currently an OW trying to prevent my MM from getting caught so that I can exit quietly with the wife never knowing... So, I have a question for all the wives out there that find out that their H is having an affair - how exactly did you find out? I'm not talking about the catching-him-red-handed or even having him just outright sit you down and confess... I'm asking, were there any signs or clues that made you suspicious, made you think that there had to be an affair going on, that made you confront him and ask him?? What event(s), things, clues, etc. led you to figure it all out?
SoleMate Posted July 24, 2004 Posted July 24, 2004 For the quietest exit, just inform him that it's over and that you will not be seeing him or talking to him again. There...that was simple...wasn't it?
Author unluckylady Posted July 24, 2004 Author Posted July 24, 2004 OMG, that's soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much easier said than done!!
Kizzyfur Posted July 25, 2004 Posted July 25, 2004 Why is it so much easier said that done?? If you want out, just tell him. The longer you put off getting out of the affair, the more likely it is that he will get caught.
fanou22 Posted July 25, 2004 Posted July 25, 2004 Unluckylady, You should be asking this question in the infidelity forum. I have read somewhere on the net that some of the signs were the phone bill, staying late at work, when the wife calls to work he does not answer, strange charges on the credit card, spending so much time on the internet, being secretive when on the net, daydreaming at home...........and so on. So basically when the wife gets suspicious, it is only a matter of time and some investigation in order for her to find out. I agree with Kizzyfur, you don't want his wife to find out about you then it is time to end it and have your quiet exist. The longer you stay, the greater are the chances of being caught.
Love2BLoved Posted July 25, 2004 Posted July 25, 2004 Definitely the phone bill!!!!!!!!!! My sister was going out with a MM and his wife called her because she saw her number too many times on his cell-phone bill!!!!!!!! and all the phone call would last way more than 30 minutes!
ringo Posted July 25, 2004 Posted July 25, 2004 Why are you concerned whether or not this man gets caught? You did a wrong thing as did he by getting involved with each other. Out of respect... my opinion only... go tell his wife. The only way he will learn his lesson (Hopefully) is by getting caught. Then he and his wife can take the next steps to do what they need to do in order to save or end their marriage. You are the other woman, but you aren't the only one at fault here. Free yourself from your sins and confess the truth to the wife and to God and ask for forgiveness. Again.... this is just my opinion. I don't think you should try to help him hide anything... this only allows Satin to control you more. Turn to God, offer it all up to Him and let the truth be know. What happened, is done and over with. But put yourself in his wife's place.... wouldn't you want to know the truth? Obviously he isn't going tell her.... do the right thing and tell her. Then turn it all to God and he will save you.
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