DontWorryBHappy Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 There's this guy that I like, and I already know this is gonna sound like another typical story. Because it is, basically. We started working together one day (campus job) and at first I didn't see him like that - it took a couple weeks. He initially wasn't even really my type physically. But it ended up being that we got along so well and laughed together all the time. It was always a blast working with him. We also eat together occasionally after work. He called me today for us to go eat. The thing is, he always seems so busy and he's outgoing, so he has plenty of people to communicate with. I'm more of a loner type, more introverted and reserved. Whenever I like someone I have this terrible urge to tell them, because of some fear that maybe they like me and are just too shy to say it, or maybe they are also scared that I don't like them. But he may just see me as a friend. It's very possible, actually. He touches me pretty often while we're talking, but I noticed that he does that with other people all the time. He's actually probably getting another job soon and we may not work together anymore. I'm debating whether I would tell him my feelings if he were to switch jobs.. or maybe I shouldn't say a word. It's probably just a stupid crush anyways.
Janesays Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 Your choices are: 1. Tell him and risk rejection. 2. Don't tell him and always wonder 'what could have been.' I've done both and I've never regretted a #1....even when it don't go my way. But I've always, always regretted a #2. 1
ScreamingTrees Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 Sounds like you're genuinely attracted to him as a person, despite not initially finding him attractive.. Is this like a song that you never paid much attention to because you didn't like it but never gave it a chance, and then it finally sounded great to you? Or is it more of you tolerating a singer's annoying voice because the song itself is good, if you understand what I'm trying to say? If it's the former, I don't see why there's an issue here. If I was you, I'd make my feelings known in some obvious way. Either you make it known, or there'll be no chance.. He might be oblivious, he might feel the same way you initially felt, but if you make your interest known, it might pique his..
Author DontWorryBHappy Posted September 20, 2012 Author Posted September 20, 2012 update... He DID get a new job, but will still be working with me for a couple more weeks. So i suppose if i told him that i like him, if it got awkward, we wouldnt have to see each other. On the other hand, if it DID get awkward i would be hurt by that because i like hanging out with him. Today i was sick and texted him while i was at work (we do separate shifts), and he offered to bring me medicine . He brought it, and then maybe an hour or two later he texted me asking if i felt better. Then a couple hours after my shift was over he texted again just to say hey. I am sooooo looking into all this and wondering if he likes me... Maybe hes just a nice person. In any case, im crushing a little more every day
Author DontWorryBHappy Posted September 29, 2012 Author Posted September 29, 2012 So it continues.... today he called me while I was going to a store and asked if i was going to a concert. I said that I wanted to go, so I decided to meet him there. But then I had a suddwn urge to look nice because he hardly ever gets to see me in something other than work clothes. So I bought a dress, some shoes, headband, even a little makeup.. and I looked nice. But then when I got to the concert, I found out his phone was dead. Thdre was a sea of people there, so I didnt think I was going fo find hin. I looked and waited around for around an hour when I spotted his roommate. Finally he found us both, and after a little while of watching the concert we all went back to his place. I was a little jealous during the concert because he seemed to pay more attention to the girl who was sitting on the other side of him (his roommate). But he paid attention to me sometimes, just not as much. When we got back to his place I sat on the couch with his other roommates while he went into his room, to freshen up I assumed. I wasnt sure whether to follow him in there or not..but after a few minutes he texted me and said, "you arent leaving right away are you?". So then I went into his room and we talked for maybe an hour about random stuff. Finally he said that I should probably get going if I wanted to get home (it was 1:30 in the morning). so I left. I'm doing a favor for him by picking up a shift of his for work on sunday, and since public transportation wont be available when I need to get there, he suggested sleeping over at his place saturday night. Sounds cool, but I'll probably be sleeping on the couch/floor. While we were talking in his room there were moments when he seemed go be looking at me pretty intently. Like moments when our eyes were locked. But then again I could be looking to that too much. In any case, I really like him. And I wonder if its crossed his mind, since I probably look at him with googley eyes half the time, so maybe he already suspects. or maybe he doesnt. either way, telling his is too risky right now, even though i'd love for him go know.
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