kel22 Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 I'm 6'3 22 years old and went from 320 to 232.5 pounds and I'm still fat and ugly. I have been dieting and workouting 4-5 days a week for about a year and a half. And I still generally look the same as before I lost weight but smaller. and have some definition on my arms, back and shoulders. I still have a gut are my gigantic man boobs despite working out my chest the hardest. All I have is a lot of muscle underneath and a 335 bench. And apparently my doctor says I don't have gynecomastia, even though most people don't have this problem. The only reason why I'm losing weight is to be attractive to women. How am I supposed to get a girl with man boobs? I'm tired of being lonely, and living life as of now isn't even worth it. What more do I have to do?
suladas Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 Why do you think you can't get a girl being overweight? I'm 6'5" 265 and obviously a bit overweight but it hasn't stopped me yet. I actually lost some weight in the time I was with my ex (lots of sex and she ate a LOT better then me) and mentioned it to her and she even said she didn't care about a few extra pounds and said don't loose any weight for her she was quite happy with how I looked, and she was quite good looking and not overweight either. Some girls will, MANY won't. Confidence is a lot more important. You have to be at least reasonably happy with how you look. Yes I am self conscious with how I look especially naked, but I still act confident and girls can pick up on that. But going to the gym should help with more then weight less, it should make you feel better and more confident. I haven't been to the gym in years but I remember the moment I started going I felt a lot better about how I looked, even though I hadn't changed yet. 1
CaptJay Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 I'm 6'3 22 years old and went from 320 to 232.5 pounds and I'm still fat and ugly. I have been dieting and workouting 4-5 days a week for about a year and a half. And I still generally look the same as before I lost weight but smaller. and have some definition on my arms, back and shoulders. I still have a gut are my gigantic man boobs despite working out my chest the hardest. All I have is a lot of muscle underneath and a 335 bench. And apparently my doctor says I don't have gynecomastia, even though most people don't have this problem. The only reason why I'm losing weight is to be attractive to women. How am I supposed to get a girl with man boobs? I'm tired of being lonely, and living life as of now isn't even worth it. What more do I have to do? First and foremost, man boobs or not, you need to find inner confidence. You need to feel good about yourself, how far you've come, and your dedication to going even further. With confidence, you will see the world completely differently, for the better, and not worry about your weight and appearance so much (and be down on yourself for it). Second, people who make the lifestyle changes that you have and as quickly as you did often have a hard time looking at themselves differently in the mirror. Trust me, without seeing you, I can all but guarantee that you look significantly different sans the 80-pounds. You are driven and determined - once you have the confidence to go along with it, you will no longer feel as you do. But as with anything that is worth it (like losing your weight), it often takes a lot of work. Hang in there! 3
Janesays Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 80lbs is a huge accomplishment! As a woman, I'd be impressed with the self discipline and dedication, man boobs or no! 2
oaks Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 What more do I have to do? Well done on losing all that weight. Since you're doing it to be more attractive... Some brutal honesty coming up... You're only half way there. Keep going.
SmileFace Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 I don't have much to add. However when I started on my weight loss journey I always had to remind my self that losing the weight will not take away my problems. My dating life was non-exsistent and I didn't lose my virginity until I was down 60 pounds from my highest weight of 303. Anyway congrats on your weight loss - it is a never ending journey, all the best. Now work on the things that will help you stop being lonely. However I have no idea what to tell you about still looking big in your own eyes. I have went from a size 24 to 8 and I think I look huge. I just try to remind myself how far I have come. It isn't easy but you have have to try and stay positive.. All the best.
CarrieT Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 The only reason why I'm losing weight is to be attractive to women. For starters, you should be losing weight to be healthier and for YOU, not for anyone else. Women can see right through this type of attitude and it won't bode well when you start dating. How am I supposed to get a girl with man boobs? When I got married, my ExH was 6'6" and weight 320 pounds (mostly fat - not muscle). The only reason our marriage didn't last is because he started sleeping with men, not because of his man-boobs. And my current BF has man-boobs. I'm not going to dump a great guy because of one physical attribute. What more do I have to do? Learn to live with what you have instead of lamenting endlessly about what is wrong with you.
Jamesblame Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 Keep working on your health and your body. Re: extra skin....**** it, can't change it. Balding guys can still get tons of girls. So can skinny guys and chubby guys. But you've got to be the best you , you can be. Live your life your way Act out your dreams Be who you want to be. Anyone who knocks you for who you are isn't worth your time.
FryFish Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 80 lbs is HUGE man... Keep up the good work! Soon, girls WILL notice you.
Feelin Frisky Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 You simply can't look the same as you did after losing 80lbs. I am the same height and when I was 30 I got up to 335. I lost and got down to 215. You must not tell yourself negative things. The last 20 lbs you lose will make probably the most difference in you being able to get into nice clothes made for the model man. Keep working and never give up. If you truly have "man boobs" there is "breast reduction surgery" for males. Look into it. Find out everything you can about if your insurance will pay and if not, perhaps you can save up or take a loan if you have a sound job if this bothers you that much. Give yourself a big pat on the back for what you've already accomplished. Except for the titties, I've been in you shoes. With as much as you work out you probably shouldn't go below 210. Best of luck. Good times are close--you just have to believe in yourself and turn all those old declines of social engagement into acceptances. You'll get noticed.
Brunettie Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 Congrats on the weight loss And that's really no reason that a woman wouldn't like you...honestly. Just be confident in yourself, and try to go out somewhere to meet women. When you find one you'd like to get to know, approach her.
amaysngrace Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 First off congratulations! Secondly no BODY is perfect. Thirdly Quit focusing on your imperfections. So many people do that. There are probably so many good features you have but all that you concentrate on is what's bad. Lots of people do that. If you find yourself doing that stop at once and see something that you like about yourself instead. Fourthly If you can't see anything then check out your package. Thirty pounds of belly fat shrinks your package by approximately one inch.
SmileFace Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 75 lb weight loss here too. If anyone wants to see my after and before pics let me know. I do - I will show mine in return
amaysngrace Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 75 lb weight loss here too. If anyone wants to see my after and before pics let me know. Isn't that your "after" in your avatar?
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 I'm 6'3 22 years old and went from 320 to 232.5 pounds and I'm still fat and ugly. I have been dieting and workouting 4-5 days a week for about a year and a half. And I still generally look the same as before I lost weight but smaller. and have some definition on my arms, back and shoulders. I still have a gut are my gigantic man boobs despite working out my chest the hardest. All I have is a lot of muscle underneath and a 335 bench. And apparently my doctor says I don't have gynecomastia, even though most people don't have this problem. The only reason why I'm losing weight is to be attractive to women. How am I supposed to get a girl with man boobs? I'm tired of being lonely, and living life as of now isn't even worth it. What more do I have to do? Well first of all congrats on the weight loss that is a huge deal and you should be proud. I don't think you should solely lose weight to meet women, I mean honestly it sounds super cliche or whatever but if someone likes you and cares about you they will accept man boobs or no man boobs. Try a dating website too if you want to get hooked up quickly and they are a confidence booster lol
CptObvious Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 Hey, don't ****in give up dude and don't worry about the tits just yet. There is NOTHING wrong with being 235 since your body has the frame to hang on to all your weight. Keep on building muscle, keep intermittent fasting, and tell yourself that a week from now you'll be a little bit better than you were. All the bitches are waiting for you man, you just gotta keep moving forward and take it one set at a time. You're only 22, and I think that 5 years from now your titties won't be a problem at all. Make sure you have your workout scheduled planned and get a consult with a nutritionist. I pray to god you're not the guy who benches every day with a pile of grass in his gym bag. Also, try to do some cardio alright? **** the situps, they won't do **** for you. Put on your running shoes and bring a mirror. Every time you even think about stopping, you hold that mirror up to your face and let what you see motivate you.
phineas Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 100lbs lost here brother. Took over 2 yrs & hey at least your tall. You won't get filtered out in searches for online dating. LOL! Not going to lie, getting down to the point where you can start to see abs is like night & day when it comes to women. But if your still afraid to talk to them because you don't think you are good enough, you are going to have problems with the ladies. For me, getting in shape & getting all kinds of attention from women is what helped me the most. I still spent a good yr failing because I was still too chicken to make the move when they gave me the signals. However I can't see how no women would be interested in you at all.
phineas Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 Congrats Phin. I started seeing my Abs at around 70 lbs ironically with the last five to go. They were accentuated after I started lifting intensely. I can say having a six pack is not easy. I managed an almost 4 pack. Bulked up, gained about 10lbs of fat plus some muscle & now i'm cutting down all the way. And it's easy getting & staying lean. It's the not drinking or eating pizza & wings part thats hard. LOL! 1
yongyong Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 Who do you want to date? 5'6" 180 lbs or 5'6" 120 lbs? You wouldn't care about her appearance as long as she has 'good personality'? Stop complaining and keep working out. there are many skinny guys with no man boobs having hard time in dating scene.
KungFuJoe Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 I managed an almost 4 pack. Bulked up, gained about 10lbs of fat plus some muscle & now i'm cutting down all the way. And it's easy getting & staying lean. It's the not drinking or eating pizza & wings part thats hard. LOL! Eating clean to me is getting a double western bacon cheeseburger from Carl's jr without the fries. 1
mortensorchid Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 I used to weigh 45 lbs heavier than I am now, and I commend you for loosing 80 lbs. I know how much of a toll it can take on your physical and mental health, plus finding the time in order to do it. That being said, have you considered plastic surgery? Some people have lost tremendous amouts of weight and require it for reconstruction and all that extra skin that is left. The most popular plastic surgery for men, by the way, is breast reduction. For just such a reason.
amaysngrace Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 The most popular plastic surgery for men, by the way, is breast reduction. For just such a reason. I'll take the extra!!
phineas Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 Eating clean to me is getting a double western bacon cheeseburger from Carl's jr without the fries. If it fits in your macro's.
Author kel22 Posted September 19, 2012 Author Posted September 19, 2012 Well done on losing all that weight. Since you're doing it to be more attractive... Some brutal honesty coming up... You're only half way there. Keep going. Is that in weight or in inner confidence?
Author kel22 Posted September 19, 2012 Author Posted September 19, 2012 Well first of all congrats on the weight loss that is a huge deal and you should be proud. I don't think you should solely lose weight to meet women, I mean honestly it sounds super cliche or whatever but if someone likes you and cares about you they will accept man boobs or no man boobs. Try a dating website too if you want to get hooked up quickly and they are a confidence booster lol I tried online dating, no luck. Not a single woman replied to anything.
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