LittlePrince Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 Many black women seem to have some sort of diva complex going for them. So no. I have found this to be true with too many black women irl.
aanderson088 Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 This question and the concerns behind it are pretty easily answered. Approaching anyone (regardless of race) is difficult. Rejection is going to always be a real possibility. My suggestion is DO NOT approach a white guy or anyone in a club or bar. They're generally going to be shallow and unapproachable. I'm white and I prefer ethnic girls over Caucasian women(partial to Hispanic women, but the advice still holds). My reasons may not cover every other white guy out there but a lot of people do only judge people by how they look. If I were you, try to open your heart more. Start seeing the good in people and stop concentrating on their bad qualities. They may not be "hot" and they might be nerdy or whatever but they will probably be funny, responsible, and best of all GENUINE human beings. You might find white men more attractive, but don't limit yourself to that single type. Start thinking of mental, emotional, and social qualities when thinking of a man. Is he fun? Is he a gentleman? Does he make me feel good? Good job? Ambition? Family? How are his friends? Is he honest? Is he SINGLE?! Think about the VIRTUES of the people you respect and love and try to find someone like that. Stop thinking about color, body type, face, sexual prowess (by the way, most guys that act tough and abuse women or just want sex - chances are it's because they feel inadequate in the jeans and need to ASSERT their manhood instead of being comfortable with it on their own)
irc333 Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 I always wonder about this because I am black and I pretty much only date white men... I love them! I always wonder if they like dating outside their race. I personally am not like.. Youre average black girl (not to be stereotypical) but I love country I grew up in the burbs I have a valley girl type voice lol all my friends call me Oreo haha I always feel so afraid to approach them because what if I'm not good enough or pretty enough or they only like white women? It just scares me but I know I'm not attracted to black guys so.. I think white men like it, due to their bootys being more rounder than a white woman's, and thus...the feel of a "bubble booty" up against them is more appealing. LOL
GirlontheLam Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 I find there are a few types of white guys who "date" black women: 1. The around the world in 80 beds guy (he has to cross off one woman from every country to work on his bucket list. After "conquering" Africa, he is on to Asia or Iceland or whatever) 2. Black fetish guy (this guy only dates black women, because he has an ideal and fantasy he believes black women represent. This is similar to the Asian fetish guy or the Latina fetish guy) 3. Equal opportunity daters (this guy dates anyone he finds attractive. Period) Obviously you have to weed out type 1 and 2 and find a normal #3 guy -- the only one on the list you really want to date.
mesmerized Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 I have found this to be true with too many black women irl. One of these days you will have to stfu or hopefully ls mods will do it for you. It makes me shake my head when I see some of the naive poster take you seriously. 1
jamesbob Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 I would really like black women iif iy wwasn't for their hair. They usually have bettrr bodies than white oor asian women.
LittlePrince Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 I would really like black women iif iy wwasn't for their hair. They usually have bettrr bodies than white oor asian women. It depends on what you are looking for.
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted September 26, 2012 Author Posted September 26, 2012 I would really like black women iif iy wwasn't for their hair. They usually have bettrr bodies than white oor asian women. What do you mean the hair?
LittlePrince Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 What do you mean the hair? I think we all know what he means by the hair.
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted September 26, 2012 Author Posted September 26, 2012 I think we all know what he means by the hair. My point is not all black women have that kind of hair. I personally get my hair relaxed every month and flat ironed at the salon every week and if you touched my hair you wouldn't know the difference between my hair and "white girl hair" sorry I had no other way to describe it lol
LittlePrince Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 My point is not all black women have that kind of hair. I personally get my hair relaxed every month and flat ironed at the salon every week and if you touched my hair you wouldn't know the difference between my hair and "white girl hair" sorry I had no other way to describe it lol Exactly. Your hair requires a lot of maintenance to keep it from going back to its natural state.
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted September 26, 2012 Author Posted September 26, 2012 Exactly. Your hair requires a lot of maintenance to keep it from going back to its natural state. But that is my own responsibility I don't see how that would involve any guy I'm dating? When I was with my ex the most he would see me do to my hair is flat iron it or curl it which I would think was the same for any girl he dated I don't think any woman wakes up totally prepared hair wise. To me having to wash your hair every single day is more of an inconvenience. 1
LittlePrince Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 But that is my own responsibility I don't see how that would involve any guy I'm dating? When I was with my ex the most he would see me do to my hair is flat iron it or curl it which I would think was the same for any girl he dated I don't think any woman wakes up totally prepared hair wise. To me having to wash your hair every single day is more of an inconvenience. Men could see that still as too high maintenance and if you don't like the natural look of a black woman then that excludes her from your dating pool.
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted September 26, 2012 Author Posted September 26, 2012 Men could see that still as too high maintenance and if you don't like the natural look of a black woman then that excludes her from your dating pool. I just think that's super unfair
LittlePrince Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 I just think that's super unfair The mating game isn't fair.
aanderson088 Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 I wouldn't listen to LittlePrince. I think he's being a little condescending and I also think he might be a little shallow, himself. It's only HIS opinion about the hair. Men are hardly EVER concerned with a woman's hair. We enjoy it when it's nice but it isn't a concern for most men, I think.
jamesbob Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 My point is not all black women have that kind of hair. I personally get my hair relaxed every month and flat ironed at the salon every week and if you touched my hair you wouldn't know the difference between my hair and "white girl hair" sorry I had no other way to describe it lol I didn't know that was possible, let's meet for some drinks
BetheButterfly Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 I always wonder about this because I am black and I pretty much only date white men... I love them! I always wonder if they like dating outside their race. I personally am not like.. Youre average black girl (not to be stereotypical) but I love country I grew up in the burbs I have a valley girl type voice lol all my friends call me Oreo haha I always feel so afraid to approach them because what if I'm not good enough or pretty enough or they only like white women? It just scares me but I know I'm not attracted to black guys so.. One of my college friends is a gorgeous black lady from Grenada. She married a white Texan man. Obviously, her ethnicity was not a problem at all for him. Rather, he gravitated to her from the first moment he saw her. I lost contact after returning home, but the last I heard is that they were very happy together. Hopefully they are still happily married today! Inter-ethnic couples are beautiful in my opinion. My husband is Mestizo, from Ecuador, and I have English/Irish/Scottish ancestry. We love each other very much!!! I have a good Mexican friend who is married to a white guy and they are very much in love too! Homo-ethnic couples are beautiful as well and have been for the most part the norm in American culture. Inter-ethnic couples have only become fairly recently accepted in American history. The important thing is that the couple loves each other!!! By the way, I don't like the term interracial because all people are members of the one and only race: the human race. It doesn't matter what our skin color, ethnicity, nationality; we all are homo sapiens. 1
nofool4u Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 I always wonder about this because I am black and I pretty much only date white men... I love them! I always wonder if they like dating outside their race. I personally am not like.. Youre average black girl (not to be stereotypical) but I love country I grew up in the burbs I have a valley girl type voice lol all my friends call me Oreo haha I always feel so afraid to approach them because what if I'm not good enough or pretty enough or they only like white women? It just scares me but I know I'm not attracted to black guys so.. You know what they say, once you go white you never go....uh wait, that won't rhyme.
nofool4u Posted September 27, 2012 Posted September 27, 2012 Ironic how the two respondents are indeed, black . Any white men want to chime in?. Yes. No reason not to fear approaching a white guy. Unless he is a skinhead, all that should matter is if he is attracted to you and have a good personality. Although it depends on their preference. Just like you don't find certain races attractive, the guy you approach may be the same way. So hard to say. But I wouldn't be taken back at all if I was approached by a black woman. I'd be flattered as hell seeing how, in my opinion only, black women usually don't want white men. 1
aanderson088 Posted September 28, 2012 Posted September 28, 2012 I wouldn't be taken back at all if I was approached by a black woman. I'd be flattered as hell seeing how, in my opinion only, black women usually don't want white men. Agreed. It makes white guys feel "cool"... as shallow as that sounds haha.
Hawaii50 Posted September 28, 2012 Posted September 28, 2012 OP... definitely, just not the stereotypical. IE; the ones that talk out their necks.
RogerWallace111 Posted September 28, 2012 Posted September 28, 2012 Oh yes... I've never dated a black girl but I'd be very ok with it. If I'm attracted to a female I'm attracted to her, race is an afterthought. If I had to objectively look at my natural tendencies, I suppose white & latin girls are the ones I most often find myself into. Followed by black, then indian, then asian girls. But I have seen such beautiful girls of every ethnicity... In fact maybe my thinking that I'm mostly into white & latin girls is simply because they make up the majority of the population where I live, so I'm seeing a larger sample thus there are bound to be a higher number of attractive ones...
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