Rebecca2009 Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 I broke up with my boyfriend (that I dated a year) about a week and a half ago. I was devastated- I didn't want to do it but I knew I had to. One of those situations where you still love the person, but there is not any compatibility between what we both wanted. And it ended up wearing on me (he never made me a priority in his life, and just never gave the relationship any effort) so I broke it off. I was hysterically crying for the first couple of days (at least when i was home alone) and then it's been getting a little better. I'm mainly just lonely. So I joined match.com, because I'm 25 and I'm worried that I won't meet anyone else (I don't get out very often because all of my friends are married). Do you think this is healthy that I have joined so soon after a breakup? I'm just really needing another person to focus on, and to get excited about so I don't sit and miss my ex (even though I can sit there and go through all the reasons why he was a lousy bf, it never really helped).
Mike_d Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 omg, you're 25. you have 10 lifetimes in front of you, you'll be fine. don't panic. I'd say give it some time, I'm almost 3 months and dating is still tough. don't look to online sites to fill the hole that is inside you at the moment, you'll need to heal this. the other ladies - GG and TM - will be along here in awhile to help you with that part. in the meanwhile just focus on you, and don't panic, 25 is barely walking, you'll be fine
Drseussgrrl Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 Yes it's too soon to be on match. People like you are exactly why I hate online dating - they're either on the rebound in need of an ego stroke, want attention, are flat out weird and creepy. You'll go on a bunch of mediocre dates and do nothing but compare them to your ex. You are not ready to date.
jdids247 Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 Take it from me, I did the same thing and joined match.com and ended up going on a date right away, and we weren't even broken up for 2-3 weeks. The date when well, but I couldn't stop comparing her to my ex. Grieve the loss of the relationship and go through all of the emotions because going on a date isn't going to make you forget.
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