dmmm Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 Hi For those that don't know me, I've spent the last 10+ years not interacting properly in the outside work, and so am left with no friends, no social skills, almost a recluse etc. Throughout these years I've spoke to women online and quite a few built up what I perceived as a strong relationship with them. Now I know how it ends, it's ended the same way with all of them (about 10 over the years). We talk a lot for a certain amonut of time, I get very attached, think we are going somewhere etc and then they disappear into the real world rarely to be seen online again. Leaving me gutted and missing them like crazy. I build up such an attachment in my head and then boom they move on. So I'm onto a new girl, I know it will end exactly the same way and only have myself to blame. Like even now, I am missing that she's not emailed me today. Ridiculous doesn't begin to explain how stupid I am for getting so worked up! Yet I can't resist.
CaptJay Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 Hi For those that don't know me, I've spent the last 10+ years not interacting properly in the outside work, and so am left with no friends, no social skills, almost a recluse etc. Throughout these years I've spoke to women online and quite a few built up what I perceived as a strong relationship with them. Now I know how it ends, it's ended the same way with all of them (about 10 over the years). We talk a lot for a certain amonut of time, I get very attached, think we are going somewhere etc and then they disappear into the real world rarely to be seen online again. Leaving me gutted and missing them like crazy. I build up such an attachment in my head and then boom they move on. So I'm onto a new girl, I know it will end exactly the same way and only have myself to blame. Like even now, I am missing that she's not emailed me today. Ridiculous doesn't begin to explain how stupid I am for getting so worked up! Yet I can't resist. Hey man, I'm sorry you are going through this. Things might not be great right now, but they always seem to have a way of getting better. Have you considered talking to a psychologist/therapist? My parents divorced when I was 2-years old and I developed abandonment issues that caused me to be very clingy, bordering on obsessive. Thankfully, this was many many years ago and through a moderate amount of "talk therapy," I began to understand the underlying reasons I was thinking and acting the way I was. People don't act alone in a vacuum, and there are reasons why we do the things we do, feel the way we feel, etc. If you can determine the root cause(s) of your personality, I feel that you - or anybody in your position - can turn things around. cj
wwwjd Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 Internet = steak through a straw. just say no.
somewhat_ENTP Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 Do the women you correspond with online are within a reasonable range to meet? If so, set something up! I'm guessing that these women might have had an interest in you, but now see that it might not be going anywhere (or they found someone else more proactive), so they could be more distant/less eager to respond to you.
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