tiki Posted July 23, 2004 Posted July 23, 2004 Ok guys, I need opinions. My fiance and I are getting married in December. I have a LOT of pictures that are somewhat incriminating. These photos were taken while I was single. They range from old boyfriends to guys in thongs at a male strip club (okay, okay, I did it). I was rummaging thru some papers and found a box of photos the other night with my fiance. I looked thru them and was a little mortified (for him). The topic came up but he was very understanding. He said that I could do what I wanted with them. He said to please take into consideration that if they are in our home (after marriage) that the possibility is there that he could (or might) run across them. I don't know what to do. I hate to throw away old pics of me and my old boyfriends/friends having fun. It was such a part of my life that I'll probably always want to remember. Should I just throw away the indecent ones? (No one's completely NUDE or anything.) I don't want to hurt him but I hate to just toss them out. I'm trying to put myself in his position and see how I'd feel if he kept them in our home. Maybe I should just trash them? Any suggestions?
Beth Posted July 23, 2004 Posted July 23, 2004 As they say on the TV show Clean Sweep: You will still have the memories. I say trash the pics. You won't forget happy times in the past and you won't need to go back and look at the pictures again to be reminded. (that would hurt my feelings if my husband was looking at old pics of old gfs after we were married) You will have all sorts of new happy memories and photographs with your husband! How long has it been since you looked at the pics anyway?
Mr Spock Posted July 23, 2004 Posted July 23, 2004 I say No!!! You'll regret it. Keep them tucked away (like in an attic) and clearly label the box as what it is-old photos of me living la vida single.......
Author tiki Posted July 23, 2004 Author Posted July 23, 2004 God, what if my kids found it?! That would SUCK! Beth - I haven't seen them in a while, I had forgotten about them being there. But I felt soooo bad running across the box. You guys both have valid points. I would SO hate to think he had pics of his ex lurking around. Maybe I should get rid of them. ARGH! I can't decide!
Adunaphel Posted July 23, 2004 Posted July 23, 2004 I suggest you trash them in december when you get married and put them away in a well hidden place until then
doppelganger Posted July 24, 2004 Posted July 24, 2004 Pictures are memories. Memories tend to be forgotten, so i like to have the pictures. For me, you just don't throw away your good memories. If these are good memories, then i say keep 'em. Lock it up to keep hubby from 'accidentally' coming across it. But if he can't handle it, he should know not to go through them and respect you if you want to hold on to them. Unless you have romantic feelings for these exes in your pictures or if these pictures will lead you to do things [w/ your exes] to hurt your husband, I see no problem in keeping them. My girlfriend and I feel the same way about pictures of our past. Thats what they are- pictures. reminiscing is reminiscing. You can reminisce by looking at pictures, or you can reminisce by just thinking about your exes. Same thing, pictures or not. So unless its pulling you two apart because you're pining over these long lost memories... keep em. just my $0.02
Craig Posted July 24, 2004 Posted July 24, 2004 IMHO keep the pics and hide them away. They are a part of your life and you deserve to have them. Get rid of any of the pics you wouldn't want your future kids to see.
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