Johny-nocash Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 Hi. Thanks for this forum, who helped me sometimes during my relationship, But today this 2 years with this girl may be end. I started dating this girl 2 years later, whe met tru the internet and started dating after one week (untill then i think i dont want to be trapped in a relationship, but she made my mind) But her personality is too ``strong´´ always picking with me for not doing that , or because i am doing that, She is possesive with me too, in the beginig i cant go out with my friends, or go to company dinner alone without her, i live with my parents too so she want me to go all weekends to her house, and sometimes i get tired of nothing to do. I have waiting an opportunity for me to break up with her, and today she picked with me because i was watching tv, and she wanted that i go to next to her, when i am not she have a crisis and push me , and during that scratch me withe her nails, so i wanted to go out, but she wont let me go out off her house, just after 30 minuts i was able to go out and i say i go tho think what to do, and she cry, like she always do. I like her but i think i not love her. Help me decide since this is my first relationship, i am 25 and she is 27. Sorry my English
Mike_d Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 she doesn't seem very well balanced, and you clearly don't have the upper hand here. if you don't love her then cut her loose and move on. but sounds like she is pretty emotional - where are you from?
Author Johny-nocash Posted September 18, 2012 Author Posted September 18, 2012 Thanks for your reply. Yes she is not very stable, one day she was upset with me because of something i cant record, and then she take a pack of pills for headache and she said she will swallow them, e calmed her down and she put in her bag(i think she says and do this things to call our attention, i think she have no intentions of doing it) Because of that a fell pity for her , she is a good girl, and she have found no work at least at 2 years. I am from portugal.
geegirl Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 You can't be her rescuer. She clearly has emotional issues and possibly mental as well. You can do the right thing by stepping away and moving on. You are of no help to her if you are by her side enabling her behavior and sticking with her for all the wrong reasons. She keeps feeding her imbalance by using you as a crutch. I don't believe it has anything to do with love at this point. You can't save her from herself. 1
Author Johny-nocash Posted September 18, 2012 Author Posted September 18, 2012 You can't be her rescuer. She clearly has emotional issues and possibly mental as well. You can do the right thing by stepping away and moving on. You are of no help to her if you are by her side enabling her behavior and sticking with her for all the wrong reasons. She keeps feeding her imbalance by using you as a crutch. I don't believe it has anything to do with love at this point. You can't save her from herself. Thanks. But its so hard to gain corage to do it,i never passed for something like this, if i do this i have no intentios of get back to her.
geegirl Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 (edited) Thanks. But its so hard to gain corage to do it,i never passed for something like this, if i do this i have no intentios of get back to her. Sometimes the right thing is the hardest to do. Everyone will have to experience difficult situations in their life. You are facing one now. You may not have the courage but you do know this is not what you want for yourself. And the only way to get what you want is ACTION. 1) You can choose to stay with her and live your life in misery. Do you think you can even find the strength and "courage" to live everyday unhappy and miserable? What seems to be the easier route of just dealing is actually going to be the most difficult in the long run. 2) You can choose to do the right thing, as hard as it may seem and give yourself a chance at living your life the way you envisioned it to be. You give yourself a chance at finding a suitable partner for you, rather than settling for all the wrong reasons. I don't believe you should go back to a toxic relationship. So, if you have no intent on going back, then don't. Once you leave, stay gone. It's the leaving and going back that feeds the madness. Edited September 18, 2012 by geegirl
Author Johny-nocash Posted September 18, 2012 Author Posted September 18, 2012 Ok thanks, for helping me understand , i am going to do what is right. Thank you.
geegirl Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 Ok thanks, for helping me understand , i am going to do what is right. Thank you. I hope you do the right thing. You only have one chance at life. No more. Make the best of it! Good luck!
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