AnchorGurl Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 My boyfriend and I have been together for about 6 months now and things are going very well. He hasn't given me any reasons to doubt him and he treats me like a princess. The only problem is he has this friend that is extremely trashy and disturbing to me. As soon as we met she wrote me a long message on facebook about how I should date him and how amazing he is. She then added me on facebook and posts extremely erotic pictures of herself all the time. It makes me sick. After several of these gross pictures of herself I finally had a talk with my boyfriend and told him I just didn't feel comfortable with him being friends with her. He said that was fine and he would stop talking to her. Last Friday I posted a picture of him on his facebook and she commented on it. For some reason I decided to ask him if he was talking to her and he said no--not for months. For some reason I kept asking and I finally said "when was the last time you talked to her"? He said that she texted him on Sunday night with something football related and he responded back so he didn't have to get in a long involved conversation with her. He told me I really need to trust him but I still feel as though he lied to me about talking to her. He said he didn't consider one little text talking when he has completely cut her out of his life. He promised he would not talk to her again and said he deleted her number that very day. As much as I want to trust him it's hard though. I have been burned in the past and it's very tough for me to trust people. How can I know for sure he is telling me the truth? Everything else is great between us but I'm scared to get closer to a man who might burn me in the end. 1
Forever Learning Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 (edited) You have every right to ask your boyfriend to end all communication with her. Don't doubt that for a second. Only time will tell if he has or not. At any point in time, you and your boyfriend should be able to exchange phones and show each other what texts are on there. Although if he truly doesn't want you to see the texts, he will delete them as soon as he gets them. But in the big picture, he could very well be telling you the honest truth about the situation. Is he honest and trustworthy in general? Does he possess integrity? This will permeate every facet of his life. If he is dishonest in other areas of life, he will likely be dishonest with you. That's really how you know what you are dealing with, in the long run. Who is your boyfriend at heart? And honest guy, or a dishonest guy? That is what it boils down to. Learn this, because this will hold true throughout life. If they will lie to others, they will lie to you. Get it? It's good to know this. All the best to you. Edited September 18, 2012 by Forever Learning
Author AnchorGurl Posted September 18, 2012 Author Posted September 18, 2012 Thank you so much ForeverLearning! As far as I can tell my boyfriend is very honest and caring. He does everything for me and treats me extremely well. But he has lived here for his entire life and knows lots of people in this state and had a past. My past is in another state as I just moved here. I have been burned in the past by a man who told me he was "just friends" with a girl and ended up cheating on me with her. I want to trust my boyfriend and move forward but I don't think me asking him to end all communication with her is wrong. He said he would not talk to her anymore. I guess I will have to see if this holds true. Sometimes relationships can be extremely tough
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