Japser93 Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 Hello my dear friends Two and a half months ago, I broke up with my girlfriend. Ever since then I have been waking up with a nausous feeling in my stomach. It starts when I wake up and fades away during the day. After a while I found out that I was thinking about her almost every morning, and maybe that is causing the nausea. Yesterday and the day before that, I had no nausea for two days for the first time in 2,5 months. I have been going out with friends and I think that it made me forget her. Yesterday around 8pm she posted a message on her Facebook-wall. She was basically saying that she was happy with her life. Reading that post made me sick again, and today I woke up with my usual feeling of nausea.. What is happening? It feels like I am jealous because she picked up her life again and is very happy while I am miserable. How do I forget her? It helped when I go out with friends, but that can not be the only thing right, it feels like that only helps temporary and I do not want to be dependent on my friends. It feels like I should solve this on my own, so that I can eliminate this feeling in my life. Does someone have good advice for me?
headsashed Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 First of all delete and block her on facebook,seeing things will only hurt you further and prevent you from healing. Secondly,just because she is posting how happy she is doesnt mean she really is happy,its facebook,its evil when it comes to relationships and if someone is really that happy then why would they be plastering it all over facebook?. Just delete/block her and continue with your healing,in time that horrible morning sick feeling will fade and never return.
Author Japser93 Posted September 18, 2012 Author Posted September 18, 2012 Thank you headsashed, you are probably right, I will delete her to prevent further damage. Geegirl, me and my girlfriend have been together for a year and 3 months. We saw eachother almost everyday and had a happy relationship. But after a while, I got this feeling that we were not meant to be.. It is difficult to explain but she wasn't the right one. It is very difficult for me to explain this , but I hope you understand me.
geegirl Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 Thank you headsashed, you are probably right, I will delete her to prevent further damage. Geegirl, me and my girlfriend have been together for a year and 3 months. We saw eachother almost everyday and had a happy relationship. But after a while, I got this feeling that we were not meant to be.. It is difficult to explain but she wasn't the right one. It is very difficult for me to explain this , but I hope you understand me. If she wasn't the right one, then you have to hold on to that. There must have been reasons that were significant enough to end a relationship that to you, was a happy one. I have a feeling it's more your ego that's bruised. You ended it, and now she's enjoying life. Maybe a little sour grapes hoping that she would have been still pining for you. Maybe a little put off because she moved on too soon, hence dictates what you meant to her. If you believed she wasn't the right one, let her find the right one and you too should be steadfast in your decision and move on. And that means staying away from anything that may affect you when it comes to your ex.
Dblock10 Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 the reason she posted that is because it hurt her. and she is staying positive and maybe she is in a better place mentally right now. you should be happy for her not spiteful or upset at this. furthermore why stalk her now?
Author Japser93 Posted September 18, 2012 Author Posted September 18, 2012 Thank you Geegirl. I have been thinking about that myself, and I would be lying if I said that there is no jealousy. I had a very difficult time breaking up with her, I knew that I would hurt her a lot but I had to be honest. She is a very popular person, I'm sure that she has a lot of friends helping her. Dblock10, I do not stalk her. I never hid her messages, so if she posted something, it would appear on my news feed. It won't happen again from now on.
geegirl Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 Thank you Geegirl. I have been thinking about that myself, and I would be lying if I said that there is no jealousy. I had a very difficult time breaking up with her, I knew that I would hurt her a lot but I had to be honest. She is a very popular person, I'm sure that she has a lot of friends helping her. Dblock10, I do not stalk her. I never hid her messages, so if she posted something, it would appear on my news feed. It won't happen again from now on. Dumpers have "dumpers remorse" too in that while they believe it is the right thing to do, there is still a little part of them that is emotionally connected. You'd have to be a cold and empty person to not at least feel in some way affected by someone you loved moving on, regardless of you being the dumper. It's good that you were honest and that you did not drag her like most dumpers do. You did the kind and loving thing and you should commend yourself for being emotionally mature. Stick to what you believe is true for you and keep going.
youngnlove89 Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 My ex bf broke up with me too because he just didn't feel like I was "the one" Well, when he broke up with me the first time, he came running back. Same with the second time and third time and the fourth time. But everytime we got back together he would remember why he ended it in the first place...because he just had this feeling that I wasn't the one. He loved me, cared for me, but just felt like there was something else out there. Nothing wrong with that. Moral of the story, you did the right thing. You just miss the familiarity and the comfort of her. If you were to get back with her you would feel those feelings again and just keep breaking up and getting back together. It's a horrible cycle to put someone through. Keep moving on. Let her move on and find someone else who KNOWS she is the one and doesn't have to second guess it. You guys weren't meant to be. Now both of you have to accept it. Maybe one day you guys can be great friends, but right now you should be happy for her. You couldn't offer her long-term so she is going to find it, can't blame her. She couldn't offer you what you were looking for either. Both of you wanted different things. No contact is your best option. I wish my ex bf would stay NC, because then I wouldn't take it as mixed signals, I would know he is serious about moving on. Please let her go.
Mike_d Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 glad to see you posting and moving fwd ynl89
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