roan131 Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 Hey guys, So my girlfriend is in college, and I'm still in High school. She's busy, and I understand that. But I get overly anxious when she doesn't text me back. We had a conversation about this, and yesterday she texted me all day! It was amazing...but yesterday when we were video-chatting I noticed how tired she looked and what a negative effect texting had on her...it's not that she doesn't want to text me, it's just really hard for her. She's afraid that if she texts me while being with her friends, her friends will realize that they aren't too close with her, and ultimately they will leave her. She's afraid of being alone at college. But I still feel like I should be put above her friends and she should text me even while with them...is this reasonable? Or am I just acting weird? Thanks!
C-V-L Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 no that's not reasonable at all. lol I can tell you right now shes gonna get tired of this and meet another guy and the more you give her a hard time for not txting you 24/7 the faster it's gonna happen.
CaptJay Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 Hey guys, So my girlfriend is in college, and I'm still in High school. She's busy, and I understand that. But I get overly anxious when she doesn't text me back. We had a conversation about this, and yesterday she texted me all day! It was amazing...but yesterday when we were video-chatting I noticed how tired she looked and what a negative effect texting had on her...it's not that she doesn't want to text me, it's just really hard for her. She's afraid that if she texts me while being with her friends, her friends will realize that they aren't too close with her, and ultimately they will leave her. She's afraid of being alone at college. But I still feel like I should be put above her friends and she should text me even while with them...is this reasonable? Or am I just acting weird? Thanks! I'm sorry if this is a bit tough to swallow, but it is the truth based on lots of experience, and I feel that a light "sting" now is better than getting blind sighted later. During freshman year, many young women come to campus with high school boyfriends as LDRs. These girls come to college and spend the first semester completely in love with and homesick for their boyfriends. Of course, this can be quite frustrating for freshman guys who have to compete with this LDR attention. However, something happens during that first semester where, by the Thanksgiving break or Winter break at the latest, these girls all break up with their LDR boyfriends. It was a running joke (though not truly "funny," really) to just wait until freshman girls come back for second semester and are (mostly) all single. I am not saying this will happen to you, but I think it's something to keep in the back of your mind. Texting her repetitively, or being overly jealous and possessive, will only hurt matters as these behaviors push people to withdraw. They are in a completely new environment, are meeting more people in a given place than they probably have ever met before, have a very tough schedule (or at least a tough time adjusting to the schedule/workload), and don't figure out how to have a good night's sleep maybe until they are in their 2nd year. My gut tells me that things are fine between you for now as it is the complete beginning of the school year, but be careful of smothering her for not texting or looking tired. If you go to college next year, you will no doubt see how big of a change it is from HS. Good luck! cj
CptObvious Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 hey kid, back off a little bit will ya? You're going to lose her no matter what, and frankly I find it quite disturbing that a dude such as yourself is being this clingy. This is only going to end one way for you, so loosen up your grip on her or else you're going to get dragged through a mile of broken glass.
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