frederickkk Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 after stopping contact with my ex. went 5 days. she is asking about me day 4. day 5 i email her. day 7 i bump into her in pub. her dad specifically told her not to go. Doesn't listen. We have sex. day 8 still wants no contact. tells me she will contact me in time, 6, 9 months...has gone back to uni? she receives all my whatsapp and texts. never replies. what the **** is going on?
geegirl Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 I read your threads. What is it that you do not understand? She does not want to be in a relationship. She wants sex. She runs away. She ignores your messages. She wants to be single. Stop trying to change her mind. It's obvious it isn't working. The definition of insanity is repeating the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. You're as messed up as she is, both feeding off each other's madness. Who knows why she behaves this way. You do know it's hurting you and it won't change. You do know she can't and won't give you the relationship that you want. So please, stop.
Author frederickkk Posted September 18, 2012 Author Posted September 18, 2012 do i just outright propose to her?
Author frederickkk Posted September 18, 2012 Author Posted September 18, 2012 how do i change her mind? i cannot lose this girl from my life.
geegirl Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 Good god. You don't propose because you want to secure her. You propose when two people are in a healthy relationship and have built a foundation together that's strong enough to go forward to the next level. You have nothing. Zero. You have a woman that does not want to be with you. You don't, no, you can't get engaged with someone that doesn't want to commit in any sort of way. You cannot change her mind. She is the only one that can do that. You lost her. She wants to be single. She DOES NOT want to be in a relationship. Are you really this delusional? I read your threads. You're so desperate you can't even think straight. And you even mentioned that you were a little worried about getting the law involved with your persistence. She's 19. Let her go. And you are behaving in a way that is really unattractive to a woman. Stop. 1
Author frederickkk Posted September 18, 2012 Author Posted September 18, 2012 right, so i go to thailand until xmas then come back?
geegirl Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 Let her go and live your life and if that means going to Thailand, then go.
Author frederickkk Posted September 18, 2012 Author Posted September 18, 2012 and then clinically cut her out of my life for good? move on. no friendship. no family ties. it is the only way for me unfortunately. ?
geegirl Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 and then clinically cut her out of my life for good? move on. no friendship. no family ties. it is the only way for me unfortunately. ? Yes, cut her out of your life. She has nothing to offer you that is healthy and that isn't going to hurt you. You CANNOT have a friendship with her when you are emotional and having expectations. Until you get to a point where you have moved on, and I mean moved on where even hearing about her having sex with someone else doesn't phase you, then be friends by all means. Until then, let her go, live you life and move on. 1
Author frederickkk Posted September 18, 2012 Author Posted September 18, 2012 so, i made her unhappy in the relationship. she wants to be alone and single. i have to change. i feel guilty as **** for making her unhappy. she has said to mutual friend i need to go travelling. if i go for three months, and come back, will she change her mind?
geegirl Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 she has said to mutual friend i need to go travelling. if i go for three months, and come back, will she change her mind? So she told someone you need to travel, therefore you now need to travel to Thailand. Please tell me you are traveling because you want to and not because you believe her comment means that if you travel she may change her mind? No one can predict whether she will change her mind, whether you go or not. You work with what you have infront on you. She does not want to be with you. Accept that and move on.
Sav Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 so, i made her unhappy in the relationship. she wants to be alone and single. i have to change. i feel guilty as **** for making her unhappy. she has said to mutual friend i need to go travelling. if i go for three months, and come back, will she change her mind? Here's a suggestion. Do whatever you want first (since you're so delusional), then come back when you're heart broken again. Sometimes we need a wake up call first before seeing things the way it is
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