Author Leigh 87 Posted September 20, 2012 Author Posted September 20, 2012 Except for men you want or are similar to the one you are involved with. I know if a guy is into me. And your highly annoying, so I have blocked you from here on... You look like one of those people who have nothing nice to say, yet still say it:sick:
LittlePrince Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 I know if a guy is into me. And your highly annoying, so I have blocked you from here on... You look like one of those people who have nothing nice to say, yet still say it:sick: There is nothing nice to say when you pick the wrong people to be loyal to.
Chocolat Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 . Who are we to say that the immature guy's love is not as strong as the other guys? Because part of immaturity is the inability to truly love. Love is an action, not just a feeling.
Author Leigh 87 Posted September 21, 2012 Author Posted September 21, 2012 Because part of immaturity is the inability to truly love. Love is an action, not just a feeling. I would never take back a cheater, but lesser offences, in my mind, can be put down to the guy loving a girl but assuming that loving her is enough, and because he has no intention of cheating, that acting inappropriately is OKAY - I have talked to a few guys about it. They all say similar things, along the lines of " there is no way I want to be with other girls, therefore when I talk dirty to girls, it is just for a thrill; I have no intention or remote desire to hook up with these girls, therefore why is it a bad thing? I love my partner and that is all that matters" All those guys claim that just because they are acting inappropriately, that they would not be able to be with another women, and that they have zero desire to cheat, because they are so in love with their g/fs. None of these guys have cheated. I realise it is totally unacceptable what this guy has done to his partner. If it is because he is not into her enough or is not properly in love with her, and would therefore NEVER do what he did to a girl he truly loved, than fine, she should leave. On the other hand, if he loves this girl as much as he CAN love a girl, then it is about him, and not a reflection of his lack of love for the girl. On this basis, couldn't he just change, so as to honour his love for this girl properly? I say she should leave, but still give him a chance later on if he loves her so much that he wants to change to be with her. Changing is hard, but it only really entails: - learning to not have to gratify your urges every time you have them ( aka talking dirty to new girls just for that new thrill u get, like when they first talked dirty to their own partners..) - learn to act appropriately, and put your love and her needs before some cheap thrills you get from talking to other girls. I have taken a special interest because I firmly do not believe this guy would cheat.
Author Leigh 87 Posted September 21, 2012 Author Posted September 21, 2012 And, in this day and age, SO many guys and girls have a whole different attitude to relationships in general. For example: when in a relationship, it has always been assumed that neither person should talk in a sexy manner to the opposite sex. Once you are with a partner, that is it, no dirty talking to other girls. These days though, quiet a few guys that are not my friend but have spoken to, say things like: " look, just because I am really in love with a girl, it is just harmless talking dirty to a random girl on the phone" " part of being monogomus to me is to just not cheat, because I love my partner way too much to cheat... however, what is the harm in talking dirty to random strangers?" " just because I am in love, why never talk dirty to a girl again? Why give up that natural thrill guys enjoy just because I am in love with a girl?" ....All the guy I talk to are not cheaters, but rather do not think being in love means you have to go without any sort of ' sexy talk" to girls. They just feel it is a thrill that there is no reason to give up. Some men who are in love just have no desire for that initial, fun, dirty talking period they have with girls when they first meet.... But what about these men I have talked to? Who is to say that their love is lesser? Being selfish and hedonistic to me does not mean they love their partners any less. Rant over. I just get confused and feel I have no right to question a guys love. Who am I to say he does not love his partner? I think he would know more than I would...
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