Sun Devil Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 For the past year, I have been trying to get a girlfriend. I have not had any success. I have been on 3 dates total. I have been expanding my social circle, but since I take engineering classes, there are hardly any girls in it. I tried online dating, but being 5 feet tall, I was unable to get any responses back. The only option for me is to cold approach. I have gotten a dozen numbers and the 3 dates I mentioned, but no relationships have formed. Usually when I contact the girl, they either do not reply at all or they say that they have a boyfriend. This is becoming frustrating, especially when I see guys who are high school dropouts and druggies get girls. I am not a pushover or "nice guy", but I am not a jerk either. My friends tell me that my confidence level is high when it comes to asking girls out. However I still dont know why I cant get a girlfriend. I need help
insertnamehere Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 OK, to be abundantly clear . . . you are 5'0" tall? If so, my understanding is that 3 dates is pretty damned successful. Don't know if there's a polite way to say it, but if you are over the age of 15 and 5' even, the entire game is stacked against you.
Author Sun Devil Posted September 18, 2012 Author Posted September 18, 2012 That is my height. I am 23 years old. I did not think height would be a big deal if I groomed myself and have a good personality.
CC12 Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 That is my height. I am 23 years old. I did not think height would be a big deal if I groomed myself and have a good personality. Keep being well-groomed, and do your best to be charming as ****. You seem to be of the mindset of, "I've completed steps 1 through 7 toward getting a girlfriend, so why have I not been rewarded with one yet?" It just doesn't work that way. Don't get phone numbers or go on dates thinking that this is work that you're doing to earn a girlfriend. Just meet people and have fun and see if any of it goes anywhere. If you keep thinking you're owed something, you're going to end up overly frustrated and bitter.
Author Sun Devil Posted September 18, 2012 Author Posted September 18, 2012 I am just tired of being single. I really do want to get a girl. I dont want to be 30 and have had no relationships at all.
gaius Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 It's going to be hard to get a woman to feel feminine around you at that height. I suggest weightlifting, get yourself ripped.
Author Sun Devil Posted September 18, 2012 Author Posted September 18, 2012 Will my height make it much more difficult?. How do I compensate for that?
BellaMarieOC Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 Will my height make it much more difficult?. How do I compensate for that? Yes. To be honest, height is the first thing I look at (I met my current boyfriend online). I'm 5'11 so height is pretty important to me. The majority of women prefer dating someone taller than they are because it makes them feel more feminine. Myself, and all of the females I know, love being able to wear heels and still be shorter than our men. It's just the way it is. That being said, I work with a guy who is not even 5'0 and he has a girlfriend. He's the most confident, well dressed guy and he has a great personality. If he has success than any other guy his height could too. You just need to look for women who are closer to your height. Don't get all ripped (seriously not sexy) and don't buy a giant lifted truck to "compensate" (because the first thing women think when we see sh*t like that is...."that guy has a small penis") just be yourself and start looking for women who are in your height range. One day, you will meet someone. Sometimes it takes time.
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