Ninja'sHusband Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 Just wondering how attractive people think their WS was at the time of the A. Mine was 37 and very in shape for her age. I would give her an 8 or 9 out of 10. She could easily have gotten with much younger and single men, but chose someone older and married actually, which I found strange. I know this is all extremely subjective, but whatever, just say what you think. We can't call you on it ^^ Oh and I was in the worst shape of my life, though she claims it had nothing to do with that (other than confidence)
underwater2010 Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 WH was 35 and overweight. I still thought he was handsome. I think it bothered him way more than it bothered me. I guess he wanted to be assured by some else that he was still wanted.
AnotherRound Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 WH was attractive in his own way. I always found him attractive, even though he wasn't classically attractive. His OW was younger, and a bit overweight, but cute.
GLDheart Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 My ex was a ten to me. She was the only one on earth whose skin I wanted to touch. In reality she is a solid 8 and when fixed up with her long dark gorgeous hair a 9 all night. After the affair she has plummeted to a 6... yeah she's still got those good looks but HELL NO I don't look past the flaws now.
NotCamelot Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 My WS always had and still does have the most beautiful female face I've ever seen.....the eyes, the smile, always gorgeous. Other than that, she is a little overweight, but very sexy just the same, plenty of curves and shapely. During her A, she was the same as she was before and after. She did not change anything but her mood and attitude. She started acting a lot more "UP" during that time. I guess the affair drug had her going mentally. But, in appearance, she stayed the same. Oh, one thing, she started shaving all her pubic hair at that time. She had only done this randomly in the past. But, at that time, she kept it smooth, shaving several times a week. Never before. After d-day she let it grow back. The subject never came up. I don't know if she knows that I noticed. About a week ago, she asked me if I wanted her to shave again. She said if I wanted it that way she would.
96nole Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 (edited) She was 36 at the time. And like many women, her weight went up and down. But I never thought she looked bad. It never stopped me from pinching her or grabbing her ass. She would come home from a weight watchers meeting complaining she gained a pound from the week before and I'd say "where, I don't see it". I threw her out of the house this past February. I saw her about a month later and she had gained a lot of weight. She was at her all time heaviest. Since she was taking dirtbag out to dinner most nights of the week, it could be expected. I saw her the end of April and she had gained even more weight. She's 5 feet tall. I'm guessing she was easily 170-180 pounds. She was normally in the 140 pound range. She got pregnant with dirtbags baby sometime the end of April. And is now even bigger. My former sister in law is amazed how big she is. And it's not just from being pregnant. Former SIL said the ex was so big she was wearing maternity clothes long before the ex would start showing. Former SIL has 3 kids, so she knows about weight gain from pregnancy. I would have given her a 7-8 before. Now she gets a big fat (no pun intended, OK maybe a little ) ZERO! Let me clarify, had she gained that much weight while we were together, it still wouldn't have changed the feelings I had for her. She's a zero now not because of the weight gain, but because of what she did. Edited September 18, 2012 by 96nole
Betrayed&Stayed Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 (edited) Just wondering how attractive people think their WS was at the time of the A. Mine was 37 and very in shape for her age. I would give her an 8 or 9 out of 10. She could easily have gotten with much younger and single men, but chose someone older and married actually, which I found strange. I know this is all extremely subjective, but whatever, just say what you think. We can't call you on it ^^ Oh and I was in the worst shape of my life, though she claims it had nothing to do with that (other than confidence) She was 27 at the time. Picture a cross between Linda Carter and Amy Grant when both were in their prime. She was in good physical shape and curvy. She's now almost 40 and still looks great. For me, then and now, I'm in good shape: 5' 11" @ 170 athletic build. Her AP was single, good looking guy, same age as her, with a medium build (soft around the edges). Edited September 18, 2012 by Betrayed&Stayed Clarity
frozensprouts Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 at the time when he cheated, I thought he was very attractive...still do mind you, physical attractiveness doesn't matter much to me...I know it sounds like a horrible cliche, but to me, looks don't matter much...it's what a person is underneath that matters...you can look great but be the biggest knob/jerk to ever walk the face of god's green earth:laugh: like the song goes "She Ain't Pretty, She Just Looks That Way" 3
nofool4u Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 Just wondering how attractive people think their WS was at the time of the A. My x-wife was very attractive at the time of the affair. She is now married to her OM and she has the biggest ass I've seen on her to date. Much bigger. I'm guessing she gained a good 50lbs. And I bet OM is wishing he hadn't married her.
beenburned Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 NH, As a teenager in high school H was average looking. After our marriage, he started getting much better looking, and much more manly. Women started making passes at him all the time, even if I was there. I feel all this extra attention and passes went to his head, until he eventually gave in to their wants.(3 different single OW)
Betrayed&Stayed Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 My x-wife was very attractive at the time of the affair. She is now married to her OM and she has the biggest ass I've seen on her to date. Much bigger. I'm guessing she gained a good 50lbs. And I bet OM is wishing he hadn't married her. LOL! One of my friends (or ex-friend, I've talked to him once in the past 5 years) married his AP. At the time she was a young slender hottie; 10 years his junior. After a year or two, she ballooned at least 50 lbs. Meanwhile the ex-wife is still cute and petite. 1
drifter777 Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 My WW was 24 years old and very petite - probably a solid 8 - 9. Our marriage was in a rocky place and she decided that she would end it and enjoy being single again. She didn't tell me her plans so it was a brutal ambush. The point is she was young and hot and the OM was very "charming" (her words) and showered her with compliments.
mercy Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 h is a gorgeous man always has been. Even at his age, he's one of those men that gets better with time. And me? I'm easy on the eyes and legs that don't quit! Well, that's what h tells me and I believe him!
mercy Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 My x-wife was very attractive at the time of the affair. She is now married to her OM and she has the biggest ass I've seen on her to date. Much bigger. I'm guessing she gained a good 50lbs. And I bet OM is wishing he hadn't married her. lolololoool :laugh: That is the funniest thing I've heard all day! 1
nofool4u Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 lolololoool :laugh: That is the funniest thing I've heard all day! I see them at functions and I can see his face. His face is saying, "I'm in fat wife hell" 3
mercy Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 I see them at functions and I can see his face. His face is saying, "I'm in fat wife hell" God is gonna smack me down for laughing!!! :lmao: 1
Decorative Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 My spouse is a very attractive guy.He's got that Adam Levine dark hair and smirky smile thing going for him, but taller. During the affair he was in amazing shape, even more than he was before. He hired a trainer ( I know, I know). Post affair, he has gained weight and does not work out anymore. He's still very attractive, but not at the level of intensity he was before. It's actually a sore point, to a degree. 1
Author Ninja'sHusband Posted September 18, 2012 Author Posted September 18, 2012 Cool thanks everyone! Anyone make any conclusions from the responses so far? My prediction was that the WWs would be rated fairly highly. I think so far it's kinda true. The WHs seem to be more of a mixed bag.
road Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 My WS always had and still does have the most beautiful female face I've ever seen.....the eyes, the smile, always gorgeous. Other than that, she is a little overweight, but very sexy just the same, plenty of curves and shapely. During her A, she was the same as she was before and after. She did not change anything but her mood and attitude. She started acting a lot more "UP" during that time. I guess the affair drug had her going mentally. But, in appearance, she stayed the same. Oh, one thing, she started shaving all her pubic hair at that time. She had only done this randomly in the past. But, at that time, she kept it smooth, shaving several times a week. Never before. After d-day she let it grow back. The subject never came up. I don't know if she knows that I noticed. About a week ago, she asked me if I wanted her to shave again. She said if I wanted it that way she would. I wonder what WW would say that you noticed the change in grooming that took place during the affair.
Artie Lang Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 (edited) in fairness, beauty is really in the eye of the beholder. your WS spouse might be "attractive" to you, but may not be to another person. case in point. I was looking at some pics on another forum of some of the members, and up came a pic of a man who's BW swore up & down he was "gorgeous." now i don't usually judge guys, but this guy was anything but... same went for some other pics i saw. i was like.....you have to be joking, right? how in the world do these people attract their AP??? i'm no Adonis, but i'm not going around saying i am, either. just sayin'. Edited September 19, 2012 by Artie Lang 2
NotCamelot Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 I wonder what WW would say that you noticed the change in grooming that took place during the affair. I had not thought of asking....hmmmm. Things are going SO good now, that I may put this off a while....but, yes, I will bring that up some day in the future......I can't imagine the response. 1
NotCamelot Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 in fairness, beauty is really in the eye of the beholder. your WS spouse might be "attractive" to you, but may not be to another person. case in point. I was looking at some pics on another forum of some of the members, and up came a pic of a man who's BW swore up & down he was "gorgeous." now i don't usually judge guys, but this guy was anything but... same went for some other pics i saw. i was like.....you have to be joking, right? how in the world do these people attract their AP??? i'm no Adonis, but i'm not going around saying i am, either. just sayin'. TRUE!!! My wife works with a guy that is very "out front" about the affair he is in....he even lets his OW come to his work to visit...and talks loudly on the phone with his W lying about where he has to go. Thing is....I saw him at a company event 2 weeks ago. OMG!!! What a "goober".....I agree....HOW???? Funny thing is, my wife asks the same question about him.
ComingInHot Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 Decorative: I am COMPLETELY in agreement w/you. FWH is a handsome man but he w in the best shape ever during his A. I was starting up and growing our company, taking care of two small children, and begging him too please just take the kids for an hour three days/week so I could stay in shape. Nope. Didn't happen. He was too busy and literally said, " of course I support you working out and staying fit and healthy, when your reponsibilties have all been taken care of and it doesn't interfere w/me". OUCH. My kick in the face was when I received (unwanted) emails from this young lady telling me how FWH couldn't stand how I'd let myself go and that he wished I had her body... That stung because I didn't think a size six was fat, I just felt unfit and unhealthy. Still does when I think about it and see how he has stopped working to stay fit. (Granted he is Fourteen years her senior) and external beauty does fade EXCEPT FOR ME!! I AGE LIKE A FINE WINE. JUST LOOK OUT CAUSE BY THE TIME I'M FIFTY, I'LL BE HOT!!! HAHAhahaha... and ewe.
mercy Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 Decorative: I am COMPLETELY in agreement w/you. FWH is a handsome man but he w in the best shape ever during his A. I was starting up and growing our company, taking care of two small children, and begging him too please just take the kids for an hour three days/week so I could stay in shape. Nope. Didn't happen. He was too busy and literally said, " of course I support you working out and staying fit and healthy, when your reponsibilties have all been taken care of and it doesn't interfere w/me". OUCH. My kick in the face was when I received (unwanted) emails from this young lady telling me how FWH couldn't stand how I'd let myself go and that he wished I had her body... That stung because I didn't think a size six was fat, I just felt unfit and unhealthy. Still does when I think about it and see how he has stopped working to stay fit. (Granted he is Fourteen years her senior) and external beauty does fade EXCEPT FOR ME!! I AGE LIKE A FINE WINE. JUST LOOK OUT CAUSE BY THE TIME I'M FIFTY, I'LL BE HOT!!! HAHAhahaha... and ewe. I'll be 50 soon and I am a fine wine! 50 is the new 40! And btw a size six is tiny! Beauty fades dumb is forever. 2
Snowflower Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 My kick in the face was when I received (unwanted) emails from this young lady telling me how FWH couldn't stand how I'd let myself go and that he wished I had her body... That stung because I didn't think a size six was fat, I just felt unfit and unhealthy. Were these unwanted emails from your husband's OW?
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