She likes me but "isn't ready for a relationship yet."

[flyer2]

I know there are quite a few of these, but i haven't noticed any with similar circumstances.

 

So I met this woman a little over 3 months ago. Since then we have been on roughly 8 dates (dinner, wine tasting, music festival with her 2 married friends and their significant others, ball games...), have hung out at least once a week, chatted every day, and have had sex on 3 different occasions (while i don't necessarily mind not having more frequent sex, its the "i'm too tired" excuse that bothers me). Every time we see each other, aside from the one class we share, we are intimate in some way. I have spent the night about 5 times and she has only spent the night once (she happens to live down the street from our favorite bar area so it just makes sense to stay at her place). There seems to be equal effort on contacting one another daily and she even planned several dates. About 1 month in I found out, from a 3rd party, that she was in a lesbian relationship for 3 years. Upon confronting her, she told me that they had moved in together and that she thought that she had found a life partner, but didn't realize how unhappy she was until her ex broke up with her. Aside from this she has only been involved in heterosexual relationships. She told me that while she wasn't ready for a relationship, but she still has feelings for me. We proceeded to go on dates and hang out for 2 more months and then she brought up not being ready for a relationship again. She told me that she has feelings for me, but doesn't wanna hold me back so if I wanted to date other women too then it was fine. I told her I had not been dating anyone else and she kinda glowed. Since then she has suggested one date and then insisted on taking me out to dinner soon because I had paid for the last dinner a few days prior. About 1.5 months in she started to talk to her ex again as friends (this was about 8 months after their break up) but shortly after decided that she was not the kind of person she wanted in her life anymore because she "wasn't the person she used to know." There has never really been a title to our situation, she once mentioned "i have never dated anyone like you before" and "I have never had a boyfriend like you," but she seems to have regressed to "really enjoying us hanging out" and describing our situation as "talking". We have also both agreed how compatible we are. I have met a majority of her friends and she mine, they all know us to be involved (with the exception of one of her married guy friends that she introduced me to as "her friend ____"). She has also informed me on several occasions, mostly after drinking, that i just "passed a test". I have told her several times that the last thing I wanna do is rush her into something that she isn't emotionally ready for and that I would respect her space. Honestly though, all and all, she is pretty amazing... kind, funny, pretty, well educated, and good sense of humor. So now that you have read my novel, what do you think?

Edited September 18, 2012 by flyer2

[CptObvious]

getting laid?

 

no commitment required?

 

You hit the jackpot kiddo, enjoy your winnings.