22s Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 I dont want to be too long, but I think some background info is required for anyone to be able to help me. Ok, so I am 21 years old and sadly I have no experience with women. My parents didn't let me date until senior year of high school (I know it's rare nowadays to actually listen to your parents, but that's just how I am) so I've always been at a disadvantage. Anyway, I have been able to at least get a few dates since then but nothing ever seems to come from it. We'll eventually become friends, then acquaintances and then we'll just stop talking. Recently, things changed a little bit and I met this great girl that I honestly wasn't interested in at first. We were just classmates and I didn't think anything of it. Eventually we got to know each other pretty well and I slowly fell for her. It took a while, but I evetually did ask her out and it failed miserably. I guess I got "friendzoned." My main question out of all this is what am I doing wrong? Is it a bad idea to become friends first? Because just dating, in my case, doesnt seem to work and the whole "friends first" thing seemed like it was working but in the end it didnt work either. I'm currently in college and my major has nearly zero girls in it and is quite demanding so it is really hard for me to meet girls in the first place. Any thoughts on how to meet girls and how to get past friends and random dating would be greatly appreciated because honestly, I'm feeling a little depressed about this aspect of my life.
Eddie Edirol Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 Theres alot of psychological things that you have to notice and play on when dealing with women. If you want to know where you went wrong, you have to research how to attract women. Only then will you understand what you are doing wrong. Its waaaay too much information to explain here.
Author 22s Posted September 18, 2012 Author Posted September 18, 2012 More research? I get enough of that with my major. Ha ha, I guess I'm willing to try anything and everything at this point. Thanks for the reply
Eddie Edirol Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 (edited) More research? I get enough of that with my major. Ha ha, I guess I'm willing to try anything and everything at this point. Thanks for the reply Trust me, this stuff isnt like stupid Macro Economics, its a much quicker read. When you look it up and see how you have to treat situations, its usually completely opposite from what your instinct tells you to do. Plus, its good that you do it now while you can remember what you did wrong with these women. Most men dont learn the subtleties of body language, nuance, how women react to words, how women read into what you say, certain things that if you read about them become painfully obvious. Its many things that women condition each other to do from when they are young. Its crazy, but to understand them, it has to be researched. Also, you can see problems coming. Lke when a woman starts pulling away from you, you would have already known what you did to push her away. You will see woman hints coming, things that some women hint to push you into doing things, and how to react to the hints. You will learn to have alot more control of most situations when you do. You wont have to wonder or guess what you did wrong. Its very enlightening. Edited September 18, 2012 by Eddie Edirol 1
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