mortensorchid Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 I had posted a few days/weeks ago about how I am giving up completely. I am fed up with looking, anticipating something that will not happen, or being let down by someone because they are weak, liars, self centered, etc. See this thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/346484-giving-up-not-happy-camper I needed some affirmation and I came across this online, which is to follow a simple rule: Only love those who love you. You will only love those who love you. You will eat well and work out, taking care of yourself physically as well as mentally thanks to these practices. Be busy with hobbies and interests, do not call or chase men. You will no longer be interested in someone who is not interested in you for whatever reason. Love with your heart as well as your head. Any man would be lucky to have you. You are special, and you know it. That being said, I made a big step. I unfriended the last two bfs from Facebook. Kind of the ultimate insult today, but if either one really cared about me and my feelings, they would make an effort to be my friend rather than the other way around. Life is good. 4
ja123 Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 Your post really struck a cord with me. It's the type of conclusion that I've recently come to, and seeing it written down and expressed that way bolsters me. Thanks! Good for you for un-facebooking 2 old BFs, that's a big step!
RedIvy Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 This is something I really needed to read. Thank you
Mrlonelyone Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 Those are good words to live by for men and women. Thanks.
utterer of lies Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 I needed some affirmation and I came across this online, which is to follow a simple rule: Only love those who love you. You will only love those who love you. You will eat well and work out, taking care of yourself physically as well as mentally thanks to these practices. Be busy with hobbies and interests, do not call or chase men. You will no longer be interested in someone who is not interested in you for whatever reason. Love with your heart as well as your head. Any man would be lucky to have you. You are special, and you know it. What a load of crap.
Jamesblame Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 Good idea. Especially for men who are taught that they need to go 100% when trying to court a potentially uninterested woman.
yongyong Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 Yes. Love is not a Volunteer work nor One way road..........
Titanwolf Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 Imagine if everyone lived by this rule though. No one would love anyone 5
soccerrprp Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 I must admit I like some of what the OP says, but the reality is that LOVE and whom you love is most often, perhaps, always, something that you have little or no control over. Otherwise, like your attitude.
Leigh 87 Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 I think she means that if a guy is that into you, he will show it. Watch for signs that he is not really interested, and let them prove themselves to you rather than get carried away with a guy who only " sort of" likes you. It is good to be busy and happy enough in your own life, so as to not seek OUT relationships. That is something I knew about a while ago that is SO important. Lastly; can you stop loving or falling in love with a person who does not love you? Well, if your falling for a guy who is not 100% acting like he is into you, I would pull away before it gets too late. 1
Titanwolf Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 I think she means that if anyone is that into you, they will show it. Why is this gender specific?. If you remain "poker faced" so to speak, towards someone who does potentially love you, you could end up causing them to pull away from you (Man or Woman doesn't matter.) I'll say it again, if everyone took this advice literally, everyone would be single and confused. Lastly; can you stop loving or falling in love with a person who does not love you? Well, if your falling for a guy who is not 100% acting like he is into you, I would pull away before it gets too late. I can understand this, except, is the person falling in love showing the signs?. The partner could be thinking exactly like you and then what? nothing comes to fruition. Everyone has to give a little.
jobaba Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 I had posted a few days/weeks ago about how I am giving up completely. I am fed up with looking, anticipating something that will not happen, or being let down by someone because they are weak, liars, self centered, etc. See this thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/346484-giving-up-not-happy-camper I needed some affirmation and I came across this online, which is to follow a simple rule: Only love those who love you. You will only love those who love you. You will eat well and work out, taking care of yourself physically as well as mentally thanks to these practices. Be busy with hobbies and interests, do not call or chase men. You will no longer be interested in someone who is not interested in you for whatever reason. Love with your heart as well as your head. Any man would be lucky to have you. You are special, and you know it. That being said, I made a big step. I unfriended the last two bfs from Facebook. Kind of the ultimate insult today, but if either one really cared about me and my feelings, they would make an effort to be my friend rather than the other way around. Life is good. I think this right here is the key to being successful at dating no matter how successful you are, but particularly if you are unsuccessful. I also think that the 'pursued' rarely make it easy for those who they have no desire for. People are always thinking about what people do to them, yet conveniently forget the pain they have caused other people, using them for sex, or attention, or to help them move, or whatever.. Most people who complain about getting d@uched over are d@uching someone else over the same time the complaint leaves their mouth. Most of the women I have had unrequited love for have handled it badly. And guys I know have played women badly. If you have no interest in that person, cut them off and let them be. Ignore them. You know how crappy unrequited love is, so why would you keep them hanging on? Don't do crap like halfway commit to meeting them, and flake out, or send them halfward, wayward texts, re-igniting their hope.
El Brujo Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 The woman hasn't been born yet who has the ability to love.
oaks Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 The woman hasn't been born yet who has the ability to love. Perhaps that's just from your own perspective, in which case all you've found out is that they don't love you. I can't imagine why.
Mrlonelyone Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 Why is this gender specific?. If you remain "poker faced" so to speak, towards someone who does potentially love you, you could end up causing them to pull away from you (Man or Woman doesn't matter.) I'll say it again, if everyone took this advice literally, everyone would be single and confused. I can understand this, except, is the person falling in love showing the signs?. The partner could be thinking exactly like you and then what? nothing comes to fruition. Everyone has to give a little. This I agree with. There are no rewards without risk. If you never extend your hand to that other person you can't spite them for not grabbing yours. I mean what do women expect a man to do ? http://img.fotocommunity.com/images/Menschen-in-der-Freizeit/Alltagsereignisse/Modern-caveman-ME-dragging-woman-by-hair-a26228328.jpg 1
Titanwolf Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 This I agree with. There are no rewards without risk. If you never extend your hand to that other person you can't spite them for not grabbing yours. I mean what do women expect a man to do ? http://img.fotocommunity.com/images/Menschen-in-der-Freizeit/Alltagsereignisse/Modern-caveman-ME-dragging-woman-by-hair-a26228328.jpg That's ooolllldd school.
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