groovygirl06jm Posted July 23, 2004 Posted July 23, 2004 what can you say when your boyfriend is gone to never never land and doesn’t want anything to do with you anymore?! That’s my point, there’s nothing I can say other than I am devasted and very hurt. Chris and I were such a great match, we had everything in common, we shared very similar goals and dreams, we both had similar background as well, and we had such a strong chemistry between us. It was great since our first date, but then he started changing, he didn’t call me as often, he frequently canceled plans, he used to come see me late afternoon then leave me home to go out with his friends. I knew there was something wrong that made he act that way but when I asked him, he said everything was fine. So then I began to think that maybe I was imaging things so I decided to ignore his faults and enjoy the times we could spend together. Out of sudden he came back at being caring and more gentle. But then, it happened again, one week before his trip to Italy he came over, we chilled for a while, watching tv and just being with each other. After that, he completely disappeared, I tried to get a hold of him but he wouldn’t answer his phone and never return my messages. One day before his trip I was freaking out, I had to see him before it so I even went to his house twice but he was never home, for me I think. Later on that week his best friend called and said Chris was really sorry but he got real busy that he had to go without even talking to me but that he was fine and that he missed me. So I was hurt but relieved that I heard from him. I waited impatiently for his return, and three days before it I call his best friend to make the plans for the airport and his friend tells me he will stay two more weeks over there. I am very disappointed! Really, the whole time he is been there he never called me. I don’t know what to do. If he doesn’t want me why doesn’t he simply break up? Chris has never had a girlfriend before, does that have anything to do with what’s going on? I really don’t think he’s staying two extra weeks, I think it’s a lie, what should I do? Should I fight to win him back or just let him go?. I really like him, I really want things to work out for us. By the way he is moving to another city to go to college about one hour away could that have anything to do too? We’ve been going out for two moths now, we only dated a week before making it official. His friend swears there is no one else but I have my doubts. He is a year younger than me but we’re both on the same maturity level. Can anything explain his eccentric behavior? And his lack of caring towards me? Confused girlfriend
Girlie Posted July 23, 2004 Posted July 23, 2004 I'm sorry, hon, but it sounds like he's pulling away from the relationship without wanting to step forward and be a man and break it off. If I were you, I'd obviously want an explanation, but you can't force anyone to give you one, unfortunately. If it were me I'd either make one last attempt to contact just to let him know that I can hint but wish he wouldn't have been such a freakin coward, or I'd just drop it all together and forget about it. I know that must be hard on you, babe, but he blew you off and went Italy without even speaking to you before he left and he hasn't called the entire time he's been gone. Drop him like a bad habit. You don't need that kind of treatment.
EC Posted July 23, 2004 Posted July 23, 2004 WOW I just got like a flash back of a relationship of mines. I was one year older than him and we went out for two months everything was perfect. Then he had to move 1 hour away and it was then an LDR relationship. Then that was working untill he had to go to columbia. He didnt even say bye I had to get the number to call him from his best friend. I bought a calling card called him he said he was too busy to say bye I asked him if we were cool he said yeah he missed me. Never called me after that i called but he wasnt there (for me) anyways. He never told me when he got back I found out from his friend and then he disappeared to never never land and I never heard from him. I just left him a message saying what I felt and the he was a coward and that I never wanted him to speak to me again. I ran into him years later (after working out letting my hair grow out, filling out in a couple of the right places) and his eyes almost popped out of his sockets and he asked me for my number I gave it to him. I talked to him and we made plans to meet up for dinner. I stood him up. I showed up with my friends and saw him waiting at the table for me. We laughed at him (he didn't see us) had a real good laugh and left. And then I left to never never land. Ahhh revenge was so sweet! But anyways... Call him one more time tell him how you feel... if he still acts shady move on. He's moving anyways and starting college if you have problems now it definitely wont work.
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