Brunettie Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 My boyfriend and I have been dating a little over 3 months. In the beginning, before we were in a relationship, he'd text me ALL day long. From the good morning text, to the good night one. I really liked that, it was cute. Then as time went on, sometimes he wouldn't text me at all during the day, but call me when he got off work which is fine too. But now it's gotten more like that. Like one or two texts a day, one phone call a day, but what concerns me is that we've not talked since Saturday, except a text saying he couldn't come yesterday, and he wrote on my facebook wall today. But no direct communication since Saturday night. He's off today so it's not like he's been busy at work all day or something. Is this normal? Am I worrying for no reason? If this matters any, we are 21 & 24.
suladas Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 Does he always iniate communication? If so why don't you? That could be it, he could be kind of wanting you to instead of always having to do it. Unless he isn't responding to you, it really means nothing.
Ami1uwant Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 My boyfriend and I have been dating a little over 3 months. In the beginning, before we were in a relationship, he'd text me ALL day long. From the good morning text, to the good night one. I really liked that, it was cute. Then as time went on, sometimes he wouldn't text me at all during the day, but call me when he got off work which is fine too. But now it's gotten more like that. Like one or two texts a day, one phone call a day, but what concerns me is that we've not talked since Saturday, except a text saying he couldn't come yesterday, and he wrote on my facebook wall today. But no direct communication since Saturday night. He's off today so it's not like he's been busy at work all day or something. Is this normal? Am I worrying for no reason? If this matters any, we are 21 & 24. It ius very normal...when a guy starts to feel comfortable and safe in the relationship that this is something that will be longer lasting then he waill not text as much not talk as much. At this point you have gotten past the getting to know you questions so he may feel he doesnt have much to talk to you via a phone call and would rather wait till he sees you.
Author Brunettie Posted September 17, 2012 Author Posted September 17, 2012 Does he always iniate communication? If so why don't you? That could be it, he could be kind of wanting you to instead of always having to do it. Unless he isn't responding to you, it really means nothing. Yeah. He initiates 99% of communication. I actually have been thinking about what you said, I guess it could be that. I'm just used to him doing it first.
Titanwolf Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 About 2-3 times a week. Your relationship is taking the usual path though, it's completely normal. If you want to speak to him, it might be a good idea to contact him every now and again
suladas Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 Wow it drops off that much for some people? From the day me and my ex exchanged numbers, there was not a single day we did not text or see each other in person. I'm really surprised. Actually two days in a row I didn't text her and she asked if I was mad at her, since we didn't talk until the evening both days and she texted me first. Even if it's just a few texts I really like to talk everyday unless it's a rare circumstance that doesn't allow it. I can see in the very early stages you won't talk everyday, but I don't think i'd want it to drop off to contact only every second day.
Silly_Girl Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 That seems like very little to me. All of my relationships, and my friends' as far as I know, have been much more communicative; even if it's silly little flirty texts and nothing of substance. Though the substantial stuff is good too. If you're relying on him to initiate it seems a great time to being slightly proactive.
crystal_lite Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 Omg. hahaha, why are you worried about this? This is good. He doesn't have to text you all day. He calls everyday. I mean you're going to run out of things to talk about and get bored. Take some time off, you guys will see each other sometime in the week anyways.
NoMoreJerks Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 Seriously? If he USUALLY calls every day, what's the complaint about? Unless his recent behavior is the beginning of a pattern, I don't see why you're so worried. I mean, he calls and texts every day..... You seem to be obsessed with / addicted to him. Stop acting like a parasite, and go and live your life. If he feels like you're waiting around to pick up his call, that can be a turn-off as well. If he calls, he calls. If he doesn't, he doesn't. I made the same mistake you seem to be on your way to doing. Don't go there. As long as he's calling reasonably frequently (2-3 times a week is the minimum, I would say), then just take a chill pill. My ex never called that frequently from the very beginning. He'd just text me if he wanted us to meet up. Which was fine, but I expected him to call whenever he was abroad, which he rarely did.. When I told him I wanted to talk to him more often than once every two weeks, he got really annoyed and told me I was selfish, that sometimes he doesn't feel like talking even when he's not busy... That was bull****, of course, because that didn't excuse the fact that he didn't give me a call for a week even though he knew I was missing him so much since he went abroad (semi-LDR)...
ThatJustHappened Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 My boyfriend and I have been dating a little over 3 months. In the beginning, before we were in a relationship, he'd text me ALL day long. From the good morning text, to the good night one. I really liked that, it was cute. Then as time went on, sometimes he wouldn't text me at all during the day, but call me when he got off work which is fine too. But now it's gotten more like that. Like one or two texts a day, one phone call a day, but what concerns me is that we've not talked since Saturday, except a text saying he couldn't come yesterday, and he wrote on my facebook wall today. But no direct communication since Saturday night. He's off today so it's not like he's been busy at work all day or something. Is this normal? Am I worrying for no reason? If this matters any, we are 21 & 24. It's not about the number of times a day you talk, it's about the quality of the conversation. Also, I agree with the above poster who said that you should be initiating sometimes too.
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