MW93i Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 Just when I thought I was getting along well. I couldn't resist temptation and asked a friend if she uploaded anything to Facebook.. He was like 'Mate, she's been tagged in many pictures and I think you should see them' so I go ahead and re-activate my Facebook and there must be around 10+ photos where she is kissing lads on their cheeks. I really didn't think she'd go about it this way giving me all the **** of 'I care about you' and 'I'm scared to kiss lads'. Is she just doing it to get a spark from me or has she shown her true colours of being a well.. you know. I mean there were photos of me with girls but I went and de-activated my Facebook just so she didn't have to see them because it would hurt her. I've now went ahead and un-friended her & her friends and placed them on my block list.
bluefairy812 Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 Just when I thought I was getting along well. I couldn't resist temptation and asked a friend if she uploaded anything to Facebook.. He was like 'Mate, she's been tagged in many pictures and I think you should see them' so I go ahead and re-activate my Facebook and there must be around 10+ photos where she is kissing lads on their cheeks. I really didn't think she'd go about it this way giving me all the **** of 'I care about you' and 'I'm scared to kiss lads'. Is she just doing it to get a spark from me or has she shown her true colours of being a well.. you know. I mean there were photos of me with girls but I went and de-activated my Facebook just so she didn't have to see them because it would hurt her. I've now went ahead and un-friended her & her friends and placed them on my block list. This is why i dont have a facebook right now, because i don't want to know or see.. it's not healthy! You should keep away from facebook until your over it. It's not worth loosing your sanity and everything you have worked for up until this point
Author MW93i Posted September 17, 2012 Author Posted September 17, 2012 This is why i dont have a facebook right now, because i don't want to know or see.. it's not healthy! You should keep away from facebook until your over it. It's not worth loosing your sanity and everything you have worked for up until this point Who the hell does that though? Argh annoying.
bluefairy812 Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 Who the hell does that though? Argh annoying. a heartless attention whore.
Author MW93i Posted September 17, 2012 Author Posted September 17, 2012 a heartless attention whore. Pretty much spot on. I actually feel sorry for her.
bluefairy812 Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 she is making herself look really bad. but remember, all that partying is temporary. when she goes home at night, shes probably sad and lonely, hence which is why she has to MAKE SURE she takes pics and posts them up on facebook, to make herself look like she's completely awesome without you. something else i have thought about.. especially with my ex... is how we ALL tend to think "omgggg they are moving on, with someone else, someone else is enjoying them..." not everyone that meets them/they meet is going to like them right away. everyone is different. personalities are different. so we can't get caught up and think the worst ALL the time. hope for the best, but do prepare for the worst.
Author MW93i Posted September 17, 2012 Author Posted September 17, 2012 she is making herself look really bad. but remember, all that partying is temporary. when she goes home at night, shes probably sad and lonely, hence which is why she has to MAKE SURE she takes pics and posts them up on facebook, to make herself look like she's completely awesome without you. something else i have thought about.. especially with my ex... is how we ALL tend to think "omgggg they are moving on, with someone else, someone else is enjoying them..." not everyone that meets them/they meet is going to like them right away. everyone is different. personalities are different. so we can't get caught up and think the worst ALL the time. hope for the best, but do prepare for the worst. Thing is though, shes the one who ended things with me telling me how she stopped loving me and what not! She really is making herself look bad indeed, there has to be only 2 other photos of girls kissing a lad, they're all of her. For some reason I doubt that, even if she was I really couldn't care less anymore. I'll let her get on with it and give herself a bad name . Whatever she does, she's their problem and they'll soon realise shes a handful and a half. All my friends are telling me how I'll be much better off without her and I'm starting to think about her bad aspects which is good! Hope all is well with you too . Really struggling to find things to do though! Boredom is a pain!
bluefairy812 Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 Thing is though, shes the one who ended things with me telling me how she stopped loving me and what not! She really is making herself look bad indeed, there has to be only 2 other photos of girls kissing a lad, they're all of her. For some reason I doubt that, even if she was I really couldn't care less anymore. I'll let her get on with it and give herself a bad name . Whatever she does, she's their problem and they'll soon realise shes a handful and a half. All my friends are telling me how I'll be much better off without her and I'm starting to think about her bad aspects which is good! Hope all is well with you too . Really struggling to find things to do though! Boredom is a pain! it's the worst! but i will admit its been two months since we broke up, i have began doing new things, like getting into hobbies i have thought about doing for so long, exercising, i even went on a trip for two days... you have too and MUST keep doing things.. even a little trip to barnes and noble to grab a quick coffee and reading a good book helps. anything to keep pushing that pain aside.. until eventually you won't feel it anymore. i have good and bad days still... and let me just say not knowing anything about the other person really helps. i broke NC after 4 weeks and was doing really well until i broke it. we spoke and i found out a ton of info i didn't want to find out. so just keep away as much as you can, and constantly occupy your mind with things. it's true that you will learn to be happy on your own, without her, which will be the best thing for you. here's a quote that i keep on my desk at work. i find it to be helpful. "Sometimes, the best thing you can do is not think, not wonder, not imagine, not obsess. Just breathe, and have faith that everything will work out for the best." i hope things get better for you soon enough. we are all in this hell called the break up process. but we are still alive and breathing, right?
Coyoteloco Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 yes, facebook is evil, stay away from it. How much you think this process lasts?lol
Author MW93i Posted September 17, 2012 Author Posted September 17, 2012 Very true words there bluefairy812 glad to see you're trucking on! Hopefully you'll find happiness sometime soon . Coyoteloco yes Facebook is evil but it's good to keep in contact. Why should I be the one to get rid of my Facebook and not her(which she did for like a day). Process? Everyones different I guess. I've noticed I lost feelings for her as she did for me weeks before it ended between us. Now shes shown her true colours.
Coyoteloco Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 what i did was unfriend her so i dont have to get rid of my facebook. But alot of my hurting comes from facebook also :/ . Its sad to see that the idea you have of a person gets broken down and you finally see who she really is, reality hits you hard, and now you understand why people told you she wasnt good for you when you first got together. Not always but sometimes it happens . In my case its because we got together when we were too young. I too have lost feelings for her, and like you say weeks before it ended i was already feeling distant, but i still got an emotional conection and i still get hurt with her acts :/ sucks cause i wish i could turn it off in my head faster.
Author MW93i Posted September 17, 2012 Author Posted September 17, 2012 what i did was unfriend her so i dont have to get rid of my facebook. But alot of my hurting comes from facebook also :/ . Its sad to see that the idea you have of a person gets broken down and you finally see who she really is, reality hits you hard, and now you understand why people told you she wasnt good for you when you first got together. Not always but sometimes it happens . In my case its because we got together when we were too young. I too have lost feelings for her, and like you say weeks before it ended i was already feeling distant, but i still got an emotional conection and i still get hurt with her acts :/ sucks cause i wish i could turn it off in my head faster. We sound almost identical! Yes it really is horrible seeing someone change for the worst and who they really are. Well myself and my ex are still young too so there was always a high chance it wouldn't have worked out either way. It's all part of the grieving process I guess. There is nothing we can do apart from lift ourselves up and get on with it! Eventually we wont care at all.
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