n989 Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 Maybe I am the exception but I felt a great deal of relief after breaking no contact with an ex by text (no reply by the way.) I initially felt anger but then a wave of realisation hit me that it truly is time to move on and he is just not worthy of another single second of my time or attention. It gave me the impetus to officially delete him from facebook and completely delete his number. If I'd not broken nc I think I would still be wondering if he were going to get back in contact. It made me realise for good that he officially he doesn't give a **** so why should I? Anyone else have a similar experience?
Calico Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 When I broke NC, I felt short-lived relief, since I had gotten "the fix". It lasted a day, then it backfired. But I also didn't use NC until I felt I had said and tried everything I wanted to say and try. May not have been optimal (more pain), but I felt I needed to do that so I'd not have regrets later on.
Mint Sauce Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 But I also didn't use NC until I felt I had said and tried everything I wanted to say and try. Same here. Sometimes it's good to run into the wall a few times so you're sure it's made out of brick instead of cardboard After that, not contacting her wasn't hard at all. Not following what she's up to, that's a different matter altogether...
Calico Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 After that, not contacting her wasn't hard at all. Not following what she's up to, that's a different matter altogether... The not contacting is a little hard for me, but not checking on what she's doing is pretty easy since I know she's with someone else -- and I don't want to see or know anything about that at all, because that would be like rolling around in a bonfire. I value my skin more than that!
Mint Sauce Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 and I don't want to see or know anything about that at all, because that would be like rolling around in a bonfire. I value my skin more than that! Interesting to see how, in spite of our similar situation, we are struggling in opposite ways Sorry for the thread hi-jack!
barese1 Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 Same here. When I broke NC it made it easier for sure but continued communication is not easier. First time you just realise they aren't this idealised image you have of them
Regrets58 Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 I broke NC and found out she had a new bf. My that was very shocking and painful,thought my heart would stop! However at least all the false hope was dashed,leaving me free to properly start letting her go. It removed all the doubt,and prevented me from fretting about whether or not this would happen(for months probably!). In a strange way this break of NC was helpful to my recovery.
barese1 Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 I broke NC and found out she had a new bf. My that was very shocking and painful,thought my heart would stop! However at least all the false hope was dashed,leaving me free to properly start letting her go. It removed all the doubt,and prevented me from fretting about whether or not this would happen(for months probably!). In a strange way this break of NC was helpful to my recovery. That's pretty much what happened to me. Hurts like hell but it stops false hope I guess. keep telling myself its a good I know so have no hope left in me
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