Emily441 Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 First off, I'd like to state that I'm 16 years old, but please do not think that I am immature, I am honestly just looking for help. Earlier this year my ex and I began to start a long distance relationship. He is 19 by the way. Things started off great. Then he later would ignore me, manipulate me, and become emotionally abusive. He dumped me in May. Right after he dumped me I figured I should just make time for myself, rather than going through another relationship. I was single, and I was happy. It was like a burden was lifted off my shoulders being that I would always worry about my ex. I was my own person, and I was fine with being single for once. Well, about a month after my ex dumped me, I soon met my current boyfriend. He is my age and he is also like me (shy, tender hearted, doesn't like to take lead) I fell for him, and he fell for me, and even though we lived 6 hours away, we agreed we would see if this would work. I have been with him since June, and it has been a really nice relationship. He isn't all about sex, he has manners and treats me like a lady. However, the past 3 weeks he doesn't hardly say anything to me. We talk on yahoo messenger and every other weekend we meet each other half way to spend time together. Lately, he's been too occupied with his Minecraft game to even make conversation. The only thing I get out of him is smiley faces. He barely talks. I don't get it. And I feel like he is loosing his interest me. The first few nights it didn't really bother me, but now it just straight up makes me upset. I'm not sure how to tell him that. Anyways, back to my ex. Ever since he dumped me, I can't get him out of my mind. He texted me out of the blue last night begging to be taken back. He then told me that the reason he ignored me and dumped me was because he had another girl living at his house at the time and he left me for her. But she left and now he wants me back. We talked on the phone last night and he sounded dull, depressed. Like he'd been crying. He kept apologizing. I told him how horrible he had been. Then he called me again tonight and I told him I had a boyfriend, and he said that made him feel even worse. He begged, but I told him "no, I'm his now" Honestly, call me crazy but I want to be with my ex. Everyday I wonder "what could have been" I know being in long distance relationships is risky and odd for someone of my age, but I think they can work if both people make an effort. What should I do? I want him, I want him so bad but I feel like if I broke up my boyfriend that would make me a hypocrite, and I would be missing out on how wonderful he really is. My ex and boyfriend are opposites. My ex is macho sports player who likes to be in charge and my boyfriend is a shy, quiet person who is more submissive to me. Please do not tell me to "get a real boyfriend" I'm homeschooled because the schools in my district have a lot of crime in them, and I live out in the country. So it's not like I can just go to town and meet people.
TG1 Posted September 30, 2012 Posted September 30, 2012 First off, I'd like to state that I'm 16 years old, but please do not think that I am immature, I am honestly just looking for help. Earlier this year my ex and I began to start a long distance relationship. He is 19 by the way. Things started off great. Then he later would ignore me, manipulate me, and become emotionally abusive. He dumped me in May. Right after he dumped me I figured I should just make time for myself, rather than going through another relationship. I was single, and I was happy. It was like a burden was lifted off my shoulders being that I would always worry about my ex. I was my own person, and I was fine with being single for once. Well, about a month after my ex dumped me, I soon met my current boyfriend. He is my age and he is also like me (shy, tender hearted, doesn't like to take lead) I fell for him, and he fell for me, and even though we lived 6 hours away, we agreed we would see if this would work. I have been with him since June, and it has been a really nice relationship. He isn't all about sex, he has manners and treats me like a lady. However, the past 3 weeks he doesn't hardly say anything to me. We talk on yahoo messenger and every other weekend we meet each other half way to spend time together. Lately, he's been too occupied with his Minecraft game to even make conversation. The only thing I get out of him is smiley faces. He barely talks. I don't get it. And I feel like he is loosing his interest me. The first few nights it didn't really bother me, but now it just straight up makes me upset. I'm not sure how to tell him that. Anyways, back to my ex. Ever since he dumped me, I can't get him out of my mind. He texted me out of the blue last night begging to be taken back. He then told me that the reason he ignored me and dumped me was because he had another girl living at his house at the time and he left me for her. But she left and now he wants me back. We talked on the phone last night and he sounded dull, depressed. Like he'd been crying. He kept apologizing. I told him how horrible he had been. Then he called me again tonight and I told him I had a boyfriend, and he said that made him feel even worse. He begged, but I told him "no, I'm his now" Honestly, call me crazy but I want to be with my ex. Everyday I wonder "what could have been" I know being in long distance relationships is risky and odd for someone of my age, but I think they can work if both people make an effort. What should I do? I want him, I want him so bad but I feel like if I broke up my boyfriend that would make me a hypocrite, and I would be missing out on how wonderful he really is. My ex and boyfriend are opposites. My ex is macho sports player who likes to be in charge and my boyfriend is a shy, quiet person who is more submissive to me. Please do not tell me to "get a real boyfriend" I'm homeschooled because the schools in my district have a lot of crime in them, and I live out in the country. So it's not like I can just go to town and meet people. I would suggest you stay with your current boyfriend in this case
uk3s Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 From what you've told me - the two back stories - I'd definitely stay with your current boyfriend. You ex is the "macho" do what I want and should have it my way allways type. Prove him wrong and show himhis selfish, unthoughful reason for leaving you should be a bitter taste in his mouth that he remembers next time he plans to take a girl for granted. You're gonna pass on something shiny for something with less glint to it, but more value; just communciate with your current bf that Minecraft needs to take up less of OUR time, especially since distance is a factor in our relationship. Ig he's not interested in entertaining that proposition then you have to tell him he's walking on thin ice cuz relationshgips r about sacrfice, compromise and meeting your lover in the middle. Period. Just mt two cents, but from experience
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