ImperfectionisBeauty Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 Don't have first date sex... I did it on the second date with this one guy I liked and now he is in a relationship with a zoo animal. He "wasn't ready for a relationship" with me but the elephant giraffe monkey beast that he is with now.. He wants a relationship with her ha go figure.
sweetheart5381 Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 I need some advice, I have been out of the dating game for awhile, I was in a long term relationship for almost 9 years. I met this guy online in a dating website, we texted back and forth all day. We decided that we really hit it off and met each other that night. He expressed that he was interested in finding someone for a ltr, and almost backed out of meeting me that night because he didn't want to give me the wrong impression that he was just looking to hookup. So we met, and we were right we really hit it off, and ended up having sex. He texted me the next day that he wanted to hangout. By the time I was able to text him back he was getting ready to go into work which was going to be a 48 hr shift. So, I stopped by to say hi, and we ended up having sex again (what can I say it is amazing.) While he was on his 48 hr shift we really didn't talk, which I understand he was busy. But since then he has been different, taking hours to respond to my text, and just being distant. So, I called him out on it, I said that I think he played me, and that I am not mad, I participated willing. He denied it and said that he has just been busy, fine I let it go. Saturday we were supposed to get together and he disappeared and I didn't hear from him until Saturday night. He said that he got a invitation to golf that day. I figure at that point screw this, and I stopped texting him. Well the next day (today) he texts me to see how my day was, and then asks me if I miss him. I don't want to answer cause it feels like a trick, so I ask him if he misses me and he says yes. I answer back that I miss him too, we send a few more texts, and then he disappears again. What is up with this guy? Is he playing me, and trying to string me along? Should I just ignore him? Why say you want a ltr, and deny being a player if you already got what you wanted? Help!! Umm, I'm sorry but he actually had the audacity to ask you if you "missed him" after blowing you off ----- AND after only a few days of sex!!! Whoa, and I thought my ex was a player.. least he used me for a few months before he did that crap! Wow, dude has a big friggin head to ask that. This guy is a chump. (Or a chimp, perhaps)... nah, chimps are way smarter, lol
xpaperxcutx Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 Having sex on the first date doesn't mean you got played, it just meant you weren't careful about dating smart. Every men doesn't mind having sex early it's in their instincts to want sex but you should be more aware about keeping your legs closed. You actually have more to lose. Also chemistry on the first date doesn't mean squat because as a woman you tend to place more emphasis on the emotional.
leoc1973 Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 When are women going to learn? You don't ever sleep with a guy(that you like) on a first date! Ever!! Its called the whore test for a reason! But some serious advice. I just met 2 girls online. Connections with both of them one is super needy and the other is playing hard to get. I actually had a better connection with the super needy one but she is smothering me already after like a week. I can't stop thinking about the other one playing hard to get. Back off him and even blow him off a little. Make him chase. And when you say thing like you got played and make a guy you just met start defending himself its gonna make him wanna throw up. There is no bigger turnoff than when someone starts guilting you.
shakalakababy Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 From what you said it seems like he is playing games. I don't know how old you are, but after your 20's, I think sleeping with a guy really quick is a HUGE mistake for women looking for a real relationship. I'm not gonna lie, I had a few one night stands in my wild college days, but now that I'm 30 that is long in the past. And for people calling her a whore or whatever, that's not right. I bet this guy is the real whore because I'm pretty sure he's got more than one girl. People make mistakes... learn from this one.
LittlePrince Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 I need some advice, I have been out of the dating game for awhile, I was in a long term relationship for almost 9 years. I met this guy online in a dating website, we texted back and forth all day. We decided that we really hit it off and met each other that night. He expressed that he was interested in finding someone for a ltr, and almost backed out of meeting me that night because he didn't want to give me the wrong impression that he was just looking to hookup. So we met, and we were right we really hit it off, and ended up having sex. He texted me the next day that he wanted to hangout. By the time I was able to text him back he was getting ready to go into work which was going to be a 48 hr shift. So, I stopped by to say hi, and we ended up having sex again (what can I say it is amazing.) While he was on his 48 hr shift we really didn't talk, which I understand he was busy. But since then he has been different, taking hours to respond to my text, and just being distant. So, I called him out on it, I said that I think he played me, and that I am not mad, I participated willing. He denied it and said that he has just been busy, fine I let it go. Saturday we were supposed to get together and he disappeared and I didn't hear from him until Saturday night. He said that he got a invitation to golf that day. I figure at that point screw this, and I stopped texting him. Well the next day (today) he texts me to see how my day was, and then asks me if I miss him. I don't want to answer cause it feels like a trick, so I ask him if he misses me and he says yes. I answer back that I miss him too, we send a few more texts, and then he disappears again. What is up with this guy? Is he playing me, and trying to string me along? Should I just ignore him? Why say you want a ltr, and deny being a player if you already got what you wanted? Help!! This is when an adult should step in and take away your phone privileges because it is making you cranky and a bit crazy.
Dusk1983 Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 Having sex on the first date doesn't mean you got played Err... it is the definition of getting played. What else do players play for?
LittlePrince Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 Err... it is the definition of getting played. What else do players play for? Stop the ghettonese. A person who had sex on the first date didn't necessarily get mislead. I doubt there was an exchange of vows between the appetizer and the entree.
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