DCRESPO999 Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 So i met this amazing girl about 2 months ago, we met in San Diego, She is from Arkansas and i am from Mexico, we were only together about a week or so, but as the days passed we started to get along much better, we would go out and holding hands an kissed and stuff. But we never really talked about a relationship because we are so far away...from the day we left San Diego till now we talk pretty much every day by facebook, she also sent me a letter in the mail...we have bracelets with each others names, she has a pic of me kissing her on the cheek on one of her binders. I think she likes me and well i like her a lot , im saving money to go visit her in december. but the problem is that i feel that her feelings are stoping to like me...When we were together she told me it was the best week of her life and she had never met someone like me, she said she was so lucky...she has told me she really like me and that if we spent more time together she knows shed fall for me. but im still very very insecure about what she truly feels,, she hasnt messaged me that often anymore and she dosent say things like she used to....ive told her that i really like her and that when i visit her,we can see if what we lived together could be somthing more, or not. i dont know what to do...she is one year older than me and she is the most amazing person ive ever met let me explain everything a little better...so i really like this girl, and ive told her, but she hasnt really responded...she´s just like ´´me too´´and stuff. She told me she was maybe coming in like 5 months here to mexico but now is saying that better NO...i am hopefully going to visit her in december and maybe then i am going to realize if this is ment to be or maybe not... i totally love this girl like crazy, i have no idea why...im in love with every single thing about her...ive written her like a whole bunch of poems but i dont have the courage to show them to her, i dont want to make a mistake saying every thing that im feeling.... some times i feel like if i dont start the conversations or messages she wont talk, or sometimes i see in facebook that she has already seen my messages but she dosent respond...i dont know what to do ...i know or at least i think that she likes me, maybe not a lot but i know that feeling can grow...because she told me she liked me a whole lot so...i have hope....maybe im just acting crazy and insecure because we are far but i just like her so much i cant help it she is going to be in a play and the night before i want to call her on the phone... a friend of hers gave me her number so i can suprise her... Lately we have been talking less, and she dosent say stuff like ´´cutie´´ or ´´ mis you´´ or that she likes me.... maybe its nothing but our conversations have been kinda boring and i dont know what to do well...it actually is in a month, i want to call her before but then it wont be a surprise for the day of her play....i sent her this letter about 3 pages long, with a little poem and a picture she likes, so i hope it gets there soon, today i replied to a fb message she had sent me and i while ago i saw she saw it....but well......hsnt replied i think this girl is even better than what i could ever dream....but i dont know if this will turn out or not....sure hope so any ideas on what i can do to make this happen??
Author DCRESPO999 Posted September 18, 2012 Author Posted September 18, 2012 any advice??? please, thanks
Author DCRESPO999 Posted September 26, 2012 Author Posted September 26, 2012 anyone? i dont know what to do and it hurts
Imajerk17 Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 (edited) if you suspect someone is pulling away, the thing NOT to do is to chase after her, which is what you have been doing. You need to back off and let her come to you. She might very well come back around--no guarantees though. Long-distance relationships are hard to maintain. What do you mean by what you said about her friend gave you the number of the girl you're in love with? Didn't this girl give you her number herself? Edited September 26, 2012 by Imajerk17
bob the brave Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 whoa boy!...others here have said it better - don't overinvest. I feel ya bro, but 2 months, long distance, you gotta move slower inside. Go ahead and be romantic and all, but keep your heart in a box a little longer. Although you are sure how you feel, you don't seem to be certain how she feels. You could be setting yourself up for heartbreak. Easy does it. 2
FitChick Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 Sounds like she had a holiday romance then went back to her normal life. I suggest you do the same. 1
Author DCRESPO999 Posted October 2, 2012 Author Posted October 2, 2012 i know i shouldnt get to optimistic and what not, but i want to at least try and i think next time i see her i will figure out what could really come from this... some times i think that it was only a vacation thing or whatever but then i feel that if i really like her that much why not fight for it who knows maybe something can happen...and if not at least i will try
Author DCRESPO999 Posted October 11, 2012 Author Posted October 11, 2012 today i saw on her wall that someone invited her to a dance or something and she is like so exited and it looks like she even likes this other guy now......but she had told me that we coud have something between us, not i dont even know what to do i cant sleep or concetrate on anything, i know we are far but it still hurts, but in december im going to go visit her...i hope What can i do to stop thinking about her? how can i stop being pesimistic? shoul i just forget everything? (i dont at all want to to that) how can i stay calm? thanks for your help
yongyong Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 When the story starts with 'so I met this amazing girl......' ,it doesn't always go well.
Author DCRESPO999 Posted October 12, 2012 Author Posted October 12, 2012 i guess your right man... i just dont know what to do anymore
Author DCRESPO999 Posted October 15, 2012 Author Posted October 15, 2012 well...i accidentaly saw that she changed her profile pic, and put one with a dude kissing her, and well i dont know what to do i feel super horrible and even crying while im writing this...i dont know what to do its ripping me apart!
Author DCRESPO999 Posted October 16, 2012 Author Posted October 16, 2012 well..lately shes been uploading a bunch of pics..of her and this other guy, and on the other guys wall,, there are a bunch of coments of her... so i decided to ask her what the deal was, because i prefer just knwoing the truth right now and that way i can start to forget her..so here is what i wrote: hey... i dont know how to go about this but here it is... a while ago opening my facebook i accidentaly saw in the news stuff that apears when you open facebook and couldnt help but see your new pic...which i would of preferd not to see, and well i dont want to start thinking of things, which can or not be true.....well i guess where im trying to go with this is: that if you have something with someone else i would just like to know, and that way i can try i star to forget everything, because i thouht we had something, i know its like neerly impossible and stuff but still, i know we are nothing and i have absolutely no right at all to get al weird about it, but if our thing was only a vacation thing or a one time only well i would like to know now and not when this is more advanced............. im going to say it straight on, i like you and me personaly was really thinking of trying to work something out to really have the time to see if something could or can happen,i guess thats it and i dont even know if i shoud or not continue writing .. i just want to know the truth.. sorry for all this junk and since we arent nothing and never were just...bye, i hope this dosent keep us from being friends you are still a great person.. and everything i just wrote was like something that just came up right away after seeing that, byee talk to you soon take care AND THEN SHE RESPONDED WITH I really had feelings for you in Mexico and when I came back home. It wasn't just a "fling." but when I came home you told me that it hurt you when we talked about being together do you said it couldn't work. I took that chance to move on and get over you, because if I didn't I would just miss you all the time. I still miss you because I feel close to you, you're one of closest friends. We've stayed friends even though we're countries apart and I think that's so amazing. I'm sorry if unhurt you but after you told me we could only be friends, I thought it was only normal that we both move on. SO I PUT if i mistakenly said that we could only be friends, it was just that..a mistake, that well know i regret. and cant do a single thing about. i truly dont just want to be friends, but i get this situation and that i messed up...i just want you to know that i really care for you, at first i thought that all those feelings would go away, after time and distance but they sorta just stayed, but so i guess we are just friends and im trying to go in december or january for a couple of days, and i dont want it to be all akward if you get in to some other realtionship and stuff...i think i get it or will have to,, we are just friends (or like you once said ..at least for now) and as time goes ...we will just have so see what happens...i dont want to say it hurt but.....ahhhg seeing the pics was a bit sadd you know?.......................... AND THEN SHE TOLD ME: I'm sorry that it hurt! I thought we were both on the same page to move on. It will be fun when you come down here! It wont be awkward! SO NOW I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO... she kinda made me feel like it was my fault, but i never intended to say that we couldnt have something...i really like her and im not sure what to do.. because either way it an be hard, because if i let it go i think it would be nearly impossible and if i keeep tying i can get even mor hurt and sad. does anyone have any idea on what i should do??
Imajerk17 Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 I'm confused. When did you tell her "it wouldn't work"?
Author DCRESPO999 Posted October 16, 2012 Author Posted October 16, 2012 thats the problemm..suposedly like several weeks ago i told her that....and well i never said anything about that...i only said that even if it was hard i was going to try and have something happen
pteromom Posted October 16, 2012 Posted October 16, 2012 I think you are over-romanticizing what you have with this girl. You say you LOVE her, but you were only with her for ONE WEEK. You don't even really know her to love her. So what you are doing is, since you really like what you DO know, you are filling in what you don't know with wonderful things, making her seem even better than she likely is. Even if you go to see her in December, and even if she isn't seeing someone else then and you guys have a great time, then what??? You still have to go back home, and you will be in the same place you are now. I would write her back and say something like "The whole reason I planned on coming down to see you is because I care about you and want to build a relationship with you. I need to know if that is what you want as well." See what she says. If she says she just wants to be friends, you'll have your answer.
Author DCRESPO999 Posted October 17, 2012 Author Posted October 17, 2012 thhanks...but what if i go in december and we see that we both like eachother, i think i would still try..besides next year im moving to the US, not the same state but at least we would be closer...if something were to happen and if not well there is not much i can do.
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