Broke up with my bf a week ago, and i keep feeling like i need to call him.

[BeckyK]

Broke up with my bf of one year a week ago. Long story short, he wasn't making me a priority in his life and wasn't treating me like I should be treated (ex. never took me out, usually couldnt go to parties with me bc he had to work, hardly ever answered his phone and when i asked him to keep his phone near him he refused saying he didnt feel he had to be at my beck and call, didn't make an effort to become friends with my friends, one time stood me up for lunch because he fell asleep, and the last straw was when he failed in taking a saturday off for a wedding that i was a bridesmaid in). So i broke up with him, and he hardly gave me any feedback or response on how he felt.In fact, I actually said i was going to give him another chance, and then he turned it around saying "well i dont know if you are worth it since you get so emotional and upset whenever we have adversity in the relationship". So he said he would think about it, but I ended up calling him first and officially breaking it off. and when i did, really all he said was "ok. ok. im sorry it seemed that way. ok" and when i said wow you are taking this easy he said "well im going to be sad, but i think that if one person wants to end it there is really nothing else that can be done." It's been a week now and I havent heard from him, which I should expect I guess. And I keep feeling like I need to call him to get more closure, to get more of his thoughts on our breakup. What do i do? i know i am obviously just missing him madly since its my first relationship and im not used to being alone anymore

[geegirl]

Nah, he didn't even put up a fight. Passive. It's telling. He was just existing in your relationship. That is why he never gave it any effort. Seems like you gave him an easy out and he took it.

 

Stay NC. He gave you closure with his last statement. Besides, you broke up for a reason, he didn't have much to give you in the R and doesn't have anything to give you now.

[JustALittleBit]

It might be difficult for you to see this now being your first relationship, but this really doesn't sound like a good relationship or one you want to be in long term. I'm sure it has some pros, but he is seriously not worth it.

 

There's a reason he didn't fight for you and did all those crappy things to you. that statement about you 'getting upset' at relationship issues is an absolute joke and him being manipulative, ie. if you don't act like he wants then he won't be with you. He will never be what you want and he will never cherish you in the way that you deserve.

 

My advice is to hold off on contacting him, and if he contacts you ignore it. Considering this relationship was probably over before it began you may as well try to retain your pride by not running after him at the end.