pug2012 Posted September 16, 2012 Posted September 16, 2012 so basically, its been 2.5 years since my ex split up with me. for every one of those days i have thought of her. needless to say, that it has been torture. normally we wud talk every now and then but for sum reason now, she is completely ignoring me. i really dont know why. all i want is closure, i've told her this, i dont want to think of her every day, so i want to know if she has a boyfriend or she doesnt think of me at all so i can just get over her. i've sent her messages but she is ignoring me. but why? all i want is closure, why cant she just say she has a boyfriend and let me get on with life? also after 1 year after the break up, during christmas, she was telling me how much she missed me and everything, and we kissed, but then after 2 weeks, when she went back to uni, she started giving me a cold shoulder and then in the end we stopped talking about it and never brought it up. then at 1 year and about 8 months (after the break up), this was summer now, we joked about being friends with benefits, and she said she wanted to have sex and stuff, but then we went uni and she stopped talking to me. i have been played like an absolute fool, not that i have helped myself, i have acted like an insignificant being (as in running back to her everytime). now however she is completely and utterly ignoring me. she has kept me blocked on facebook. but near my birthday she unblocked me, i thought it was to say happy birthday to me, but on my birthday she didnt say anything, and then proceeded to block me after a few days. wtf? i mean wtf? now y is she ignoring me? can any1 help, im really really confused, i really just want closure. why cant she just tell me thats shes over me or she has a boyfriend?
immitable Posted September 16, 2012 Posted September 16, 2012 so basically, its been 2.5 years since my ex split up with me. for every one of those days i have thought of her. needless to say, that it has been torture. normally we wud talk every now and then but for sum reason now, she is completely ignoring me. i really dont know why. all i want is closure, i've told her this, i dont want to think of her every day, so i want to know if she has a boyfriend or she doesnt think of me at all so i can just get over her. i've sent her messages but she is ignoring me. but why? all i want is closure, why cant she just say she has a boyfriend and let me get on with life? also after 1 year after the break up, during christmas, she was telling me how much she missed me and everything, and we kissed, but then after 2 weeks, when she went back to uni, she started giving me a cold shoulder and then in the end we stopped talking about it and never brought it up. then at 1 year and about 8 months (after the break up), this was summer now, we joked about being friends with benefits, and she said she wanted to have sex and stuff, but then we went uni and she stopped talking to me. i have been played like an absolute fool, not that i have helped myself, i have acted like an insignificant being (as in running back to her everytime). now however she is completely and utterly ignoring me. she has kept me blocked on facebook. but near my birthday she unblocked me, i thought it was to say happy birthday to me, but on my birthday she didnt say anything, and then proceeded to block me after a few days. wtf? i mean wtf? now y is she ignoring me? can any1 help, im really really confused, i really just want closure. why cant she just tell me thats shes over me or she has a boyfriend? She is with someone else and of course you are not going to get closure. What do you expect her to say? The closure you are going to find is within yourself and let her be. The fact that you are still pinning after 2.5 years is the thing that is worrying me. Of course she would love to contact you and keep you as a back up plan in case this relationship she is in fails. I know that everything I put here is just a big assumption but women are like that, when they are with someone else they completely shut everyone else out, it was probably around your burthday when SHE felt weak and unblocked you but soon after that she decided to block you again bc she felt guilty for throwing you to the curb. my advice to you would be to move on with YOUR life. Cheers 1
Million.to.1 Posted September 16, 2012 Posted September 16, 2012 ^^ This. She is ignoring you and that is closure. This random contact thing the two of you have had, has keep you in a state of limbo for 2.5 years which is a long time to still be in the "looking for closure" faze. The closure is this: She left you 2.5 years ago. Sh e doesn't want to be with you. She is or will be with someone else and be happy. It is not her responsibility after 2.5 years to give you closure. She already gave it to you by ending the relationship. The reason she is ignoring you now is so you will stop "needing" her for whatever it is the you need. Closure, and birthday message, whatever. Your happiness should not be dependent on anything she does. do yourself a favor and see her ignoring you as a wonderful gift. It's going to free you from this disfuntional ex relationship which does not serve your life in any way. YOU ARE NOW FREE! So go! Your future is waiting. 1
Author pug2012 Posted September 17, 2012 Author Posted September 17, 2012 thank you, thank you, thank you, its weird that i didnt think of it, how both of you said. still, compared to her, i am very good looking, and shes a bit fat now loooooool, its in her best interest to talk to me tbh:laugh:. also one other thing, shud i send her a birthday card or just completely not contact her again?
Million.to.1 Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 No Contact is just that. No Contact. Guide No birthday Card. You are just asking to be hurt when she doesn't give you the response you want.
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