beautiful_nightmare Posted September 16, 2012 Posted September 16, 2012 I have been working at my current job for a year now and a few months back, to my horror, I realised I was falling head over heels for my manager. I am well-educated, experienced and mature for my age (20), he is 32. When I first joined the company, my primary aim was to get experience in the area of my work keeping my private life strictly separated from the life in the office, however, with time, apart from being hardworking and praised for what I do, I also started going out to more social events planned by my co-workers, like friday nights and house parties, and consequently became popular and a source of gossip. So how does my manager fit into this? He was the one encouraging me to go out with collegues more often and get to know people in the office. We developed a friendship that is more personal than one between two collegues, it seemed especially strange to a few of my office mates because of our age difference. Our desks are close to each other and we regularly chat about the most random things, we get each others' sense of humour and know how to make the other one laugh. He is a great guy, who is interesting, intelligent, responsible, adventurous and sympathetic. He is supportive and protective of me, and whenever anyone in the office hints on another guy fancying me, he would always point out that the guy is not good enough. He regularly compliments me saying things like 'your hair looks lovely', 'you smell nice', or 'you have a great taste', occasionally makes innappropriate comments and apparently talks about me every day while I am away on a holiday. There is a lot of 'arm brushing', 'knees touching', etc kind of physical contact between us. I didn't fancy him instantly but as we got to know each other and grew closer, I realised we had a few common interests and also that I was attracted to him. We bond well on the intellectual level and there is plenty of chemistry. I know that I will most likely move jobs in a year's time and not sure whether it's better to stay boss/employee and just good friends. He is single, I am also single. Any advice on whether I should definitely back off or act on my feelings (and if so how could I find out how he feels?) would be really appreciated :) thank you.
musemaj11 Posted September 16, 2012 Posted September 16, 2012 Imagine him as just the office's janitor, not the manager. You will lose interest instantly I bet.
LucyC Posted September 16, 2012 Posted September 16, 2012 Don't. A professional reputation takes a long time to build and only minutes to destroy. You don't want to be "that girl who slept with the manager". If you still have feeling for him when you leave this job, then suggest something. But don't mix your personal and professional life.
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