AARrock Posted September 16, 2012 Posted September 16, 2012 so ive been dating this girl for over a month now we met of a dating site and we have been seeing each other weekly - when i meet up with her we get on really well the 1st date we had a meal which went really well, the 2nd date we went to see a movie and the 3rd date i got her flowers and picked her up and we went to a park and had a picnic, and the last date we went on went really well we had another meal and then came back to mine for a movie which we snuggled up for! after the 2nd date she asked me to kiss her so since then we have ended each date with a kiss, we are meant to be meeting up this wednesday as she wants me to meet her parents and friends its just theres been a few things that bother me in between the dates which give me a bad feeling - first of all she doesn't like using the phone so i don't call her which means texting is the main form of communication we normally talk a little every day until she stops replying, rarely does she text me first and sometimes i don't think i would hear from her at all if i don't text her, i have never overtext her though maybe im over thinking things but i would have thought that she would want to text me too. i just the impression that i like her more than she likes me which leads me on to the next thing after she kissed me on the 2nd date i thought i didn't need my dating profile any more so i deleted it, any way she told me during the 3rd date that she had as well as she didn't need it any more which made me happy, however i done something i probably shouldn't have done which was check to make sure she had and she hasn't and she still is using it as it says when she was last on-line i wish i hadn't of checked, cause now its making me think all sorts of things i do realise we have only met each other 4 times i just don't see why she would lie obviously i cant say anything to her as she will know i checked on her just seems there are so many mixed signals here and i don't know what to do just wanted some advice!
ja123 Posted September 16, 2012 Posted September 16, 2012 You are right, there are a lot of mixed signals. I'd hold off on meeting her family. I'd consider meeting her friends, though, some time soon. IMO, stop initiating texts and see what happens. She may initiate texts or she may not. If she doesn't initiate texts (or contact, in general), then I'd re-assess whether she is worth the bother. Maybe she's one of those women who like to be chased (which after 4 dates, I think is gaming-playing), or she's just not that into you. If she texts you, I'd tell her that you don't like texting and you want to use the phone. Honestly, I'd don't know what it is about people who use texting these days as the main form of communication. IMO, it is not a way to build a relationship. I'd also be upfront and tell her that you went on the dating site and noticed her profile is still active. Why hide the fact that you checked? See what she has to say for herself. If she blames you for not trusting her, then tell her it's early days and with the mixed signals you're getting you don't really know where you stand and you're not someone who hands over trust just like that. Tell her you generally give the benefit of the doubt, but trust is something that has to be earned. Anyhow, overall, my impression is that there's the potential for a lot of drama with this chick; so, I'd be cautious and step back and cool things down. 1
Author AARrock Posted September 16, 2012 Author Posted September 16, 2012 hmm yeah so far i haven't text her today and haven't received anything i went through this last weekend when i didn't hear anything and then Monday she text me saying sorry she hasn't text much its because her charger is broken and she hasn't been able to charge it properly, its just frustrating cause we really do seem to get on well when were together and my trouble is i have got attached to her to quickly
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