ovomike Posted September 16, 2012 Posted September 16, 2012 so, i broke up with my girlfriend of almost 9 months two days ago because basically she has a lot more time than i do because her main focus is school while i have athletics and really strict parents. she was the most caring and giving person when it came to me and would always bring me snacks and stuff to school and write me notes and bring me stuff she would buy with me in mind. i, on the other hand, don't necessarily have the time to do all of those things. i play a sport every day and my parents are very strict about me using my phone during the time in which im doing homework (which is almost all night after practice because im a senior in hight school) so, she would ask to call and i would say that i cant because i could really only text her while doing homework. this would upset her and she would always tell me that she doesnt feel like im trying, when really, i try my absolute best and i call her whenever i can. also, the fact that i couldnt bring her special treats and write her notes made her keep telling me she cant tell that i love her and that im not trying. i would tell her that i was doing the best i could (calling her whenever possible, texting constantly, bringing food whenever i could though not very much, taking her on dates when i had money, etc) but i still came up short in her eyes. we had talked about how i try the best with the time i have and she would say she would just deal with it but it never happened. she also didnt like it when i hung out with my friends so they kind of slipped out of my life for a while. i loved her so much and still do and she is completely heartbroken by this break up and i am still in love with her and now that we have broken up im having trouble shying away from the idea of getting back together and giving her another chance to change but it may just be the same thing all over again. I miss her so much and all i can think about is how sad she is and how our 9 month mark is coming up and the future without her. HELP
Calico Posted September 16, 2012 Posted September 16, 2012 What kind of "help" are you looking for? You dumped her, and yes, she is probably very sad and heart-broken right now, because getting thrown away by someone who supposedly loves you is an extremely painful experience. Was that a pre-emptive break-up on your part? I don't really "get" the concept of being in love with someone and then dumping them for some intellectual reason. At the risk of sounding a little cold, but the breakup was your decision, and this is what you wanted, so deal with it and leave her be so she can heal. (Unless you want her back, then you should tell her why you broke up -- your fears and insecurities and concerns -- and see how they can be addressed.) 1
Author ovomike Posted September 16, 2012 Author Posted September 16, 2012 It was nothing out of the blue though, we were madly in love and still both love each other, but we would bicker constantly and if I ever disagreed with her(about anything!), she would get up upset. Also, I told her many times that I was trying my best with the time I have and she said it would change and that she was sorry and that she would deal with the lack of time, but it would be fine for about a week and then go to **** again. So this time I decided that it would be best to take a break at least until things settle Down and I have time again like i did in the beginning of the relationship. Now I am torn Between giving it another try and sticking with my decision. Im basically just having trouble thinking about any of the bad things which there are plenty of, and only thinking about the great times we have. and we have a class together so that doesn't help at all. And last but not least she doesn't like my step brother who is also by best friend
Frank13 Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 because getting thrown away by someone who supposedly loves you is an extremely painful experience. This does not apply if they didn't love you back.
Frank13 Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 Anybody else When someone is important to you, you make time for them. When you don't make time for them, it communicates that they are not important to you.
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