Would you make the first move in this situation?

[Izzi23]

Your in college. You met a girl who you have random conversations with whenever you see her. When she said something, you smile sometimes. But then again, you might just be a friendly person. She always shop at where you work and you are pretty positive that she is interested. Would you make the first move and ask her out or just her number? I've met this really, really cute guy wh o works in a convenient store under my dorm. He can tell I'm interested, because I chat him up a lot. But he never makes the first move and I felt like I am always the one getting him to talk. Is it because he's at work or not? One time I asked him to hang out with me after work to do something but he ditched last minute without notifying me. He could have waited stayed 5 minutes later to tell me. He always smile a lot when I joke around with him though. But then again, he could just be friendly and it is just part of his job. I'm always the one initiating everything. I asked him for his name and his email because I told him I need help with something. He doesn't initiate conversations much but when I talk to him back he makes it seem like he wants to talk to me back. He smiles and jokes around, etc. Should he be making the first move? Is he interested in the 1st place?

Edited September 16, 2012 by Izzi23

[tivoconga]

If you're interested, I'd make the first move. Part of it may be work, part may be he doesn't read signals well, and obviiusly there may be low interest. If you ask him you'll know. If not, you'll be stuck wondering...which sucks. Moreover, a lot of people who are neutral will get very interested if you out right ask...there's really no downside to asking.

[Izzi23]

I make it pretty obvious. My roommate and I always shop there and many times she will nudge me and stuff. When he talk to me back, she would give me the look. I mean I thought I make my position really clear since I always tries talking to him. I mean, I don't want to do the asking. It's really awkward since that's the only convenient store nearby and I don't want to walk to another one really far away just to avoid him. I always eat at my dorm cafeteria down the block near the store and I'm sure he knows that. He get access to that cafeteria and I feel that if he's really interested, he would have come to the cafeteria to see if he could find me. I really don't know since he always jokes around when I say something and he laughs like he's really enjoying our conversation. Maybe he is just being nice though...=(

[The Way I Am]

He works at a convenience store. I doubt he takes his job so seriously that he wouldn't ask out a girl he was into who came to the store.

 

You've already made a first move. You asked him to hang out. He stood you up. Like you said, he could have waited 5 minutes and let you know. But even more, if he was interested he wouldn't have ditched you at all. He's not interested.

 

You've done more than make a first move. You're practically throwing yourself at him, and he's not biting.

 

You need to move on. Also in the future, if you're initiating all the conversations, and a guy doesn't ask you out, he's probably not interested.

 

The fact you're still interested even after he stood you up makes me wonder if you need to work on your self confidence. Why would you want a guy who was that disrespectful to you?