Jackaroo Posted September 16, 2012 Posted September 16, 2012 I'm sorry if this is long for some people, but it's a somewhat complicated deal. I will do my best to keep it concise. I'm a junior in college. A very good friend of mine (let's call her Jane) and I, same grade and school, dated in the freshman year. It lasted three months, and then she said she wanted to pick it up again in junior year (now). This is because her parents wanted this. I didn't have a problem with it. We stayed friends throughout the two years. Now, it's time. For the entire last month of Summer, Jane had ignored all of my attempts to make contact with her. Texts, calls, etc. The months before, however, communication was solid. Then, after the first day of class, she voluntarily texts me like nothing had happened. We carried on a normal conversation, and I didn't ask her about the texts she ignored. I noticed, however, she wasn't as excited as normal - she wasn't using as many emoticons or punctuation as she used to. We had lunch together, the next day like old times. But she was accompanied by one of her close friends (girl), and they talked the majority of the time - like I wasn't even there. Every time I was about to say something, I got cut off. I only managed a few words the entire time. I asked her to have lunch again that next day and she accepted but was extremely unenthusiastic. Guess what? I found myself just following them around all the time, not being able to say anything. So, I just left them both (yes, friends was there too). She noticed that I left, but made just continued and didn't seem to care. Even worse? In freshman year my best friend (let's call him Jack) revealed he liked Jane too and even asked her out. She declined because of me (this wasn't that three month time). Since then Jack avoided Jane and she would CONSTANTLY ask me about him (since me and Jack are best friends and all - I know the most about him). She once said "I asked him if we wanted to hangout over the Summer..." as if she wanted to emphasize it. She asked me to talk to him, and I did. I told Jack to talk to her and stop being a jerk. So he did talk to Jane. And Jack told me they were going to go out on a date, but Jane called it a "hang out". I'm not sure where they went. Another friend of mine (let's call him Alex) told Jane that I was aware of it, and she told him that Jack wasn't supposed to tell anyone (as if she wanted to hide it). Why would she hide it if it was an "innocent hangout"? Exactly (or maybe she didn't want me to misinterpret it?) At that point she asked Jack to ask me if I was mad at her, and I told Jack I wasn't (it's the truth, I just feel kind of betrayed). I wasn't in any of this, Jack and Alex told me all about it. This occurred a few days ago. Since then, she hasn't made any attempt to talk to me. I haven't talked to her, either. We passed each other several times in the halls to/from class. She never made eye contact or anything at all - but I could tell she was looking at me from the corner of her eye (it was a weird feeling, can't explain it). One of these times, I was looking backwards yelling at a friend (we were goofing off) and when I turned forward she was RIGHT in front of me and got out of the way with a slight look of despair on her face. Note that she's the one who asked ME out in freshman year. I liked her and she liked me but she beat me to the first move. What do you think? Should I give her attention now and ask her what the hell is going on? Should I wait, then do that? Or should I just ignore her until something happens? Please, please, please advise. I need the your expertise. I love her so much.
InJest Posted September 16, 2012 Posted September 16, 2012 This is bad. I don't even have the heart to tell you what I really want to say. As FryFish said, move on. Erase all traces of this girl from your life.
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