robaday Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 Im just wondering why someone would tell you to not contact them, when you havent really been contacting them? I sent ex gf an email a week ago, just saying goodbye and that id love and miss her, and and wishing her the best. A week later she deleted me and all my friends off facebook and told me not to contact her again. Its not like i harrassed her at all, after the break up, we exchanged 4 texts and I just sent an email wishing her the best. It feels a little insulting because i wouldnt have contacted her anyway.
TaraMaiden Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 Well, I guess, to her, the break-up was the end of all contact. You then sending her the email might have felt like an intrusion to her, so she merely reinforced what she thought had already been communicated....
Calico Posted September 16, 2012 Posted September 16, 2012 She ran into your side of the field, grabbed the Ball of Power, and bounced back to her own side. It's a little unfortunate that your email allowed for that, but what's done is done and you can't change it now, so no point in beating yourself up for it. Your power is now that you do NOT respond to what she said. Let her have the last word. You have the last "I don't respond" action.
ScienceGal Posted September 16, 2012 Posted September 16, 2012 You may have known that was the end of the contact, but she didn't. Given that not too much time had passed since you last communicated, I'd take it as that's her stance. She wants you to know she doesn't want any more communication from you. The texts were sufficient. For you to send an emotional email saying that you "love her and miss her" yet still want to be separated is inappropriate. Just let her go. The end.
Author robaday Posted September 16, 2012 Author Posted September 16, 2012 I get what you mean, my email may have been too much, but it was her who decided at the last minute not to work things out with me - she had begged me to give us another chance, and while I had mixed minds about it, I was willing to do what it took. Which is why, this sudden 180 has stunned me - I could handle us staying broken up, I could also handle it if we were just friends, Im just confused why she has removed me from every aspect of her life, when one week ago she was begging me to work it out with her! My email was I guess to just wish her the best and show no hard feelings. Shes really not the type to cut people out (friends with all her exes), Ive known her for five years in total.
Author robaday Posted September 17, 2012 Author Posted September 17, 2012 shed begged me to work things out with her seven days prior to me sending that email, and i was considering it seriously. thats why this whole thing has stunned me a little, she did a complete 180. Shes really not the type to cut people off - shes friends with all her ex's, and weve known each other five years. Its like she suddently hates me and is distancing herself. Blocked on email, facebook, as well as deleting ten of my friends from her life. I dont mind the break up, I have been faring pretty well under the circumstances, I guess Ive never been cut out like this - she had added me to facebook just a month ago
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