trojans10 Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 ..I sent a text saying: "Hope you got home safe.. I had a good time, lets do it again sometime." and no response? I took her bowling.. than during the first game she mentioned she was hungry and asked me if ive eaten anything. After bowling two games.. I walk her to her car and we both decide to get food together. It took over 20 minutes to get a table at the restaurant so we walked around and checked out some stores. A bowling date turned into a 3 hour date! At the end of the date, she leaned over my console and gave me a hug. After the hug I kissed her on the cheek, since I had no chance for the lips. Anyways, its the next day after the date and I'm thinking shes not interested. Should I delete her number and move on?
sweetheart5381 Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 ..I sent a text saying: "Hope you got home safe.. I had a good time, lets do it again sometime." and no response? I took her bowling.. than during the first game she mentioned she was hungry and asked me if ive eaten anything. After bowling two games.. I walk her to her car and we both decide to get food together. It took over 20 minutes to get a table at the restaurant so we walked around and checked out some stores. A bowling date turned into a 3 hour date! At the end of the date, she leaned over my console and gave me a hug. After the hug I kissed her on the cheek, since I had no chance for the lips. Anyways, its the next day after the date and I'm thinking shes not interested. Should I delete her number and move on? Well, everyone is a bit different with texting, I mean if someone doesn't explicitly ask me a question, quite often I don't reply if it is just a comment. What you said seemed more like a comment than a question. I would give it a day or 2 and then casually text her asking her about her day, chit chat etc....possibly ask her out again if she chats with you. I wouldn't just blow her off, give her a chance to think about the date, what she thinks of you... some people need some time, I know I do, that's for sure
Imajerk17 Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 (edited) You actually would be better off *calling* a day or two later instead of texting. It's hard to say. I have gone on first dates that seemed to have gone far far "better" than the one you posted, that have not led to second dates. And I have gone on a date or two that went about as well as this one that did led to a second. Edited September 15, 2012 by Imajerk17
sweetheart5381 Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 You actually would be better off *calling* a day or two later instead of texting. It's hard to say. I have gone on first dates that seemed to have gone far far "better" than the one you posted, that have not led to second dates. And I have gone on a date or two that went about as well as this one that did led to a second. I agree, calling is much better. It's too easy to misinterpret a text, especially if you dont really know one another or see one another enough to say "hey, what did that text mean, anyway... were you drunk? :p"
Author trojans10 Posted September 16, 2012 Author Posted September 16, 2012 Right on. Yea, just seems like a female should respond to that text somehow eh? I mean if a girl isn't interested why would she want to go out to dinner after bowling? I mean maybe for a free dinner? she must have thought i was a nice guy.. I also noticed that she hid her profile on the online dating site so nobody can contact her. thanks for the replies.
Author trojans10 Posted September 16, 2012 Author Posted September 16, 2012 probably going to delete her texts and just see if she ever makes contact again/ if not ill move on.. good idea?
oaks Posted September 16, 2012 Posted September 16, 2012 probably going to delete her texts and just see if she ever makes contact again/ if not ill move on.. good idea? Not the best idea in this thread, no. Call her and ask her out to a specific date and see what she says. If she says 'no' then all you've done is wasted 5 minutes from your call plan, and then you can delete her. Unless you're not interested, in which case just delete her anyway.
madjac74 Posted September 16, 2012 Posted September 16, 2012 You should start by relaxing, You seem bent out of shape but it has been just 1 day after 1 date. Likely if she was interested, she would have responded but you never know what happened. Maybe she went home and went straight to bed and was busy the next day. You did get a hug but I hugged a date after what I considered the worst, most awkward date of my life. You did fine sending her a nice text. Leave it at that and see if she contacts you again. Why delete her? What have you to lose? Nothing. I usually always keep numbers in my phone just in case they try to contact me later, I will know exactly who they are in most cases though I won't act like it
Author trojans10 Posted September 17, 2012 Author Posted September 17, 2012 Not the best idea in this thread, no. Call her and ask her out to a specific date and see what she says. If she says 'no' then all you've done is wasted 5 minutes from your call plan, and then you can delete her. Unless you're not interested, in which case just delete her anyway. Would a text be sufficient maybe tuesday? or is a call much better? You should start by relaxing, You seem bent out of shape but it has been just 1 day after 1 date. Likely if she was interested, she would have responded but you never know what happened. Maybe she went home and went straight to bed and was busy the next day. You did get a hug but I hugged a date after what I considered the worst, most awkward date of my life. You did fine sending her a nice text. Leave it at that and see if she contacts you again. Why delete her? What have you to lose? Nothing. I usually always keep numbers in my phone just in case they try to contact me later, I will know exactly who they are in most cases though I won't act like it Yea, my plan is to just not initiate anything with her and see if she comes to me. If not, shes not worth my time. I know she didn't go to bed... and was not busy the next day.
starla33 Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 Not the best idea in this thread, no. Call her and ask her out to a specific date and see what she says. If she says 'no' then all you've done is wasted 5 minutes from your call plan, and then you can delete her. Unless you're not interested, in which case just delete her anyway. I don't think he should contact her again! Come on how he made it VERY obvious he wants to see her again, if I wanted to see a guy again I would say yes that sounds good or something. It takes 2 seconds to freaking text back...gimme a break. 1
Author trojans10 Posted September 17, 2012 Author Posted September 17, 2012 I don't think he should contact her again! Come on how he made it VERY obvious he wants to see her again, if I wanted to see a guy again I would say yes that sounds good or something. It takes 2 seconds to freaking text back...gimme a break. yep. would have been nice if she would have said thanks or something. dating :/
oaks Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 Would a text be sufficient maybe tuesday? or is a call much better? Some people respond better to a call but not everyone. Why tuesday? Why not today? Just call her already.
yongyong Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 Do not take one girl seriously. just get some coffee for couple bucks to find out who she is. Work on lots of other girls. So when that girl doesn't return your txt, you can go out with another one and forget about her.
oaks Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 I don't think he should contact her again! Come on how he made it VERY obvious he wants to see her again, if I wanted to see a guy again I would say yes that sounds good or something. It takes 2 seconds to freaking text back...gimme a break. Some people (and i read it here, so it must be true) want to be asked out on a specific date, and not by text. Perhaps they are lazy, or they want the guy to put in the effort. I applaud your stance, but I'm guessing you would also give the guy a firmer "not interested" response, too.
CC12 Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 I know she didn't go to bed... and was not busy the next day. Don't keep tabs on her, okay? I don't know how you knew she didn't go to bed and wasn't busy the next day, but, honestly, that's none of your business. You've been on one date with her. I don't really understand your reasoning for breaking this off so early. Why are you being so overeager? You had a date with her on a Friday night and then the following day, you're already thinking about deleting her number and moving on because she hadn't contacted you at all on Saturday. And then also on Sunday, I guess. Did you ever try to get in contact with her since the after-date text that said, "That was great, let's do it again sometime." Or was that the end of it? I don't know, reading your posts, I'm seeing a weird power struggle going on, but you're the only one participating in it. How about you put some real effort into engaging with her (if you liked her) instead of giving up right away. Hey, look, tomorrow is Monday. Send her an easygoing text that says, "Hope you had a great weekend. How is work going?" or whatever. Quit trying to ruin it. Try to enjoy it, instead.
Emilia Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 Right on. Yea, just seems like a female should respond to that text somehow eh? I mean if a girl isn't interested why would she want to go out to dinner after bowling? I mean maybe for a free dinner? she must have thought i was a nice guy.. Maybe she has picked up on your attitude
Author trojans10 Posted September 18, 2012 Author Posted September 18, 2012 Well its Monday night and I didn't text or call her. Just doesn't seem like the right thing to do after her not responding to my text after the date. Oh well. Appreciate the help. I overthink things sometimes.
radmountain Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 I've been in that situation before. What's with you ladies these days? If you're not interested at least have enough class to say thanks but no thanks. It takes a few seconds to text something back. Leaving a guy hanging is just rude.
xdahliax Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Well its Monday night and I didn't text or call her. Just doesn't seem like the right thing to do after her not responding to my text after the date. Oh well. Appreciate the help. I overthink things sometimes. It's possible she never even got your text. You don't know what's going through her mind or what the situation is. Why don't you just call her instead of giving up so easily, especially if you really like her? Ask her out again, and you know where you stand if she says no. At least you'll be put out of your misery.
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