Imajerk17 Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 Met a girl online, we texted a lot last weekend, finally met up Wednesday night, the date seems to go really well. We talk for 2 1/2 hours and then I walk her back to her car and we have a really nice kiss good-night. Here is where it gets weird. Since then it feels like she has cooled off. I call her Thursday night, she asks (Thursday night) if we can catch up Friday night (last night), I don't hear from her, I try her again this morning about us getting together, and she texts me saying that she will call me later. She then calls me about 30 minutes ago saying that she only has a few minutes as she is on her way with friends to a party. Here is where I am not sure if I messed up. On our date she mentioned (1) a favorite inexpensive hole-in-the-wall restaurant near her house, and (2) a favorite music lounge of hers in a city about an hour away. On our phone conversation I suggested (1) and (2) as the options for our second date, and I suggest this coming Friday night (this week looks busy for me). She says "let's see how the week goes", and I say "sure but why don't we schedule now and if something comes up we can change plans then? How does Friday at 7 sound?". She says OK. I ask her if I can pick you up. She says sure. I ask her for her address she says she is in the car with people and she will call me later this evening when she is done w the barbeque. I say OK that works. I'm getting a sinking feeling about this. On the one hand, she called me but on the other hand, I get the feeling that 90% likely I will never see this girl again anyway. My experience is that when women want to blow a guy off, one thing they do is convolute logistics as it seems as if she is doing now. (Why not set plans in stone right then and there this phone conversation? If now really wasn't a good time to finalize plans (yeah right) then why call me now? Wait until later in the day.) I just get the feeling that she isn't "on my team" anymore. Was there anything I could have done that last conversation to save things? Were my date choices that lame?
LucyC Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 If a girl likes you, she won't care what the date choices are: she will just want to see you.
kookybunny Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 This is where you need to run game on her. Completely ignore her. Including any texts she sends you until she calls. Not sure what you are looking for but girls who act like this aren't really worth the effort in my opinion. She might have been turned off because you were too eager and nice. Sad but true.
ascendotum Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 If a girl likes you, she won't care what the date choices are: she will just want to see you. "My experience is that when women want to blow a guy off, one thing they do is convolute logistics as it seems as if she is doing now." ditto. "ask her for her address she says she is in the car with people and she will call me later this evening when she is done w the barbeque." At the time if I was in your shoes I would have been disappointed, with why it was so difficult to not have spent the extra 20 seconds to give me this bit of info. given she was fine to be picked up, supposedly. I don't think your conversation was bad or that it weakened your chances. It was smart move to secure a specific date/time, not that it worked out unfortunately. It may have been better to have suggested places that you think are great that are new to her, but really that is nit picking..as the person above said, if she's into you she wont care where she ends up along as its not fast food joint. She stayed on with you for 2 1/2 hrs + you got a really nice kiss, so you set a good foundation. 'Completely ignore her' can work a treat, but if this girl has a busy social life and a number of guys txting her and is getting many more msgs flooding into her OLD mailbox each week, it might not be the best strategy, given he already got bumped down for bbq with friends. OP, If I am reading this right, you just had a date with her a few days ago, and you missed out on another date 2 days later because of a bbq party with her friends, or is there a week in between? You said 'she asks to catch up Friday' but you also say 'I suggest this coming Friday'. 1
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