LucyC Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 So this man who said he wants to have a relationship with me vanished the next day and won't answer any of my messages for over 2 weeks now. Should I just drop it?
ja123 Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 Yeah, drop it. Unless he's in hospital, there's no excuse for his hot-then-cold behaviour. Don't tolerate this. If he ever calls, then make it clear that it's over and that you've moved on.
Ladydrib Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 So this man who said he wants to have a relationship with me vanished the next day and won't answer any of my messages for over 2 weeks now. Should I just drop it? He lied for some reason. Probably didn't like you romantically and he was to much of a coward to be straight forward to tell you that he did not see anything between the two of you. Definitely do not call him.
veggirl Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 Wow damn that sucks. what happened? How long have you known/dated him? How many times have you called? is he still active on FB and whatnot (not dead)? How rude, esp since you said he wanted a relationship with you, was he your boyfriend? well yeah after a couple attempts you really have no choice but to drop it. Sorry, that is really crappy
Author LucyC Posted September 15, 2012 Author Posted September 15, 2012 We only went out a few times. He deleted his dating website account. I wonder, what if something DID happen to him...
Author LucyC Posted September 15, 2012 Author Posted September 15, 2012 Also I sent him about a message every two days that is very casual... Should I send him something among the lines of "Are you ok?" Or "Just tell me if you don't want to hear from me any more."
Ladydrib Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 We only went out a few times. He deleted his dating website account. I wonder, what if something DID happen to him... Come on, that does not make sense. He got hospitalized so he shut down the dating site? He's probably married and cheating and got close to getting caught. That fits the story better. Forget him no matter what because he told you one thing and did another which = a lie. 1
Ladydrib Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 Also I sent him about a message every two days that is very casual... Should I send him something among the lines of "Are you ok?" Or "Just tell me if you don't want to hear from me any more." I think you got mixed signals and are looking for closure. You want to be sure before giving up. But if he was too much of a coward to be honest the first time, he is just going to ignore your requests for clairification and you are going to feel worse about yourself for trying again when he doesn't respond. Forget him.
Author LucyC Posted September 15, 2012 Author Posted September 15, 2012 I just don't understand why an adult man would act this way... Let's say he realized the next day he isn't that interested. Let's even admit he's a coward and doesn't want to tell me that directly. But why not just answer my messages with one word, tell me he's too busy to see me...etc... Making me understand he's not interested indirectly. Just vanishing...?
AlexCross Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 Maybe he met someone else? Why does he have to be married and cheating ?
Ladydrib Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 I just don't understand why an adult man would act this way... Let's say he realized the next day he isn't that interested. Let's even admit he's a coward and doesn't want to tell me that directly. But why not just answer my messages with one word, tell me he's too busy to see me...etc... Making me understand he's not interested indirectly. Just vanishing...? Because some people are not direct. It's just the way they are. 1
Ladydrib Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 Maybe he met someone else? Why does he have to be married and cheating ? Could be that too. Probably thousands of potential reasons. The point is that for some reason he said one thing and is doing another. And he has ignored her attempts to contact him. Doesn't really matter why. She asked if she should keep trying and it sounds as though she should not waste any time on him.
NoMoreJerks Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 So this man who said he wants to have a relationship with me vanished the next day and won't answer any of my messages for over 2 weeks now. Should I just drop it? Uh, do you seriously not know the answer to your question?
truth_seeker Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 We only went out a few times. He deleted his dating website account. I wonder, what if something DID happen to him... 1. He might have hidden his profile. 2. People who all of the sudden disappear are most likely playing games and are doing it to multiple people at once.
turt Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 We only went out a few times. He deleted his dating website account. I wonder, what if something DID happen to him... He was probably dating multiple people at once and chose someone else over you. That's what you have to deal with online.
veggirl Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 If you have been texting every couple days with no response then no do not send a "are you okay" or "tell me if you're done" text. It will make you look desperate and crazy. sorry he sucks but best not to contact him again.
Author LucyC Posted September 15, 2012 Author Posted September 15, 2012 Should I really care if he thinks I'm desperate or crazy? Is trying to understand why someone will stop contacting you THAT crazy? Am I not making it too easy for him to just disappear as he hopes I would?
Author LucyC Posted September 15, 2012 Author Posted September 15, 2012 But then I think you guys are right. I already spent too my energy on him! Even, in the best case scenario: he isn't dating someone else, he is still interested... He didn't respond to my messages for two weeks. Do I want to date someone who thinks this is ok? No way!
Imajerk17 Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 (edited) So this man who said he wants to have a relationship with me vanished the next day and won't answer any of my messages for over 2 weeks now. Should I just drop it? I'm sorry this happened to you. Quite immature on his part and I wouldn't be surprised if there was someone else. It just sounds to me that he scared himself off and got cold feet and so now he is avoiding you. There are a lot of people out there who don't consider how their actions affect others. Edited September 15, 2012 by Imajerk17
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