crystal_lite Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 Hi everyone, So I've been with my bf for a while now. But I really hate it when he's out with his friends. I don't like it that he is out with his friends and come back late. It's like.. he doesn't rush home to see me. I tell him to come back soon and he says yes...And he comes back hours later. What the heck man...
nessaaa Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 When he cheats on u that will give u something real to 'WTF man' 1
Balzac Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 Bromance code is no cutting out early. Hah!!!
Author crystal_lite Posted September 15, 2012 Author Posted September 15, 2012 Bromance code is no cutting out early. Hah!!! LMFAO. I'm actually not surprised at this.
AlexCross Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 LMFAO. I'm actually not surprised at this. How long you been dating ?
AlexCross Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 I to feel insecure when people have a good time without me. I do too, then I think about Nessa and all is good in the hood.
tigressA Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 Do this: Next time he goes out, you go out too. And don't be home waiting for him when he gets back. 2
carhill Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 I'll opine there is some retroactive jealousy here, presuming there have been no obvious and transparent actions by BF to impel such anxiety. Usually the answers to such issues are found within. OP, how do you feel when you go out with your girlfriends for socializing? Do you immerse or are you always itching to get home to your BF? Process those feelings. Have your relationships with friends/family changed since being with your BF? If so, how? Welcome to LS 1
Author crystal_lite Posted September 17, 2012 Author Posted September 17, 2012 How long you been dating ? HI Alex, about 2 years now. @phineas - Every Friday and sometimes twice a week or so. @Carhill - Thank you for the welcome!! This forum is pretty great. Well when I go out he doesn't mind, I wish I had the way he feels/thinks. He's very chill when I go out, but I am not. Ya know? I feel inscure when people have fun without me, but I do want him to have his boys time.
C-V-L Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 wow, lucky he's not my friend. I'd tell him to dumb your ass. you gonna come in and tell my friends to not hang out, cause we hang out late? lol... that's extremely unreasonable! Let the man have his guys night out, if you do get him to stop doing it, in a years time he's gonna be resentful to you for it and it will end up causing issues anyways.
Author crystal_lite Posted September 17, 2012 Author Posted September 17, 2012 wow, lucky he's not my friend. I'd tell him to dumb your ass. you gonna come in and tell my friends to not hang out, cause we hang out late? lol... that's extremely unreasonable! Let the man have his guys night out, if you do get him to stop doing it, in a years time he's gonna be resentful to you for it and it will end up causing issues anyways. Uhm, if you were my bf's friend i'd tell him to dumb your ass down cause you clearly don't read well. I said I never ask him not to hang out. In fact I tell him to hang out and have his boys time. I just don't like it when he tells me to come home ASAP and he takes hours - he might as well not tell me that and come back whenever. Anyways I wrote this when I was pissed at him, he came back not too late and explained why and brought me food. I still do wish I was chill as he was when it comes to going out for a long time. 1
C-V-L Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 Uhm, if you were my bf's friend i'd tell him to dumb your ass down cause you clearly don't read well. I said I never ask him not to hang out. In fact I tell him to hang out and have his boys time. I just don't like it when he tells me to come home ASAP and he takes hours - he might as well not tell me that and come back whenever. Anyways I wrote this when I was pissed at him, he came back not too late and explained why and brought me food. I still do wish I was chill as he was when it comes to going out for a long time. Hey, direct that anger at someone else. I'm just telling it like it is.
Author crystal_lite Posted September 17, 2012 Author Posted September 17, 2012 Hey, direct that anger at someone else. I'm just telling it like it is. Lol, I'll direct it to my bf when he comes back later Or when he comes back even later loool
ThatJustHappened Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 Hi everyone, So I've been with my bf for a while now. But I really hate it when he's out with his friends. I don't like it that he is out with his friends and come back late. It's like.. he doesn't rush home to see me. I tell him to come back soon and he says yes...And he comes back hours later. What the heck man... Hey Crystal..I think you should chill out and let him be with his buddies. If you were together all the time, you'd both feel smothered..you need to miss each other in order to want to see each other again. Just relax.
Author crystal_lite Posted September 17, 2012 Author Posted September 17, 2012 Hey Crystal..I think you should chill out and let him be with his buddies. If you were together all the time, you'd both feel smothered..you need to miss each other in order to want to see each other again. Just relax. Yeah thats true. He wants to come back early today and I'm like "what?" loool. I was just pissed that night cause he told me he'd; come back early but then he didn't. but then he brought food and I'm fine.Still, I need to chill. Or learn now to.
C-V-L Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 Yeah thats true. He wants to come back early today and I'm like "what?" loool. I was just pissed that night cause he told me he'd; come back early but then he didn't. but then he brought food and I'm fine.Still, I need to chill. Or learn now to. Course he said he was gonna come back early he's trying to tell you what you want to hear, and then his friends make him feel bad for being a pussy and he ends up staying. It's a common deal, happens every friday night with guys everywhere
Author crystal_lite Posted September 17, 2012 Author Posted September 17, 2012 Course he said he was gonna come back early he's trying to tell you what you want to hear, and then his friends make him feel bad for being a pussy and he ends up staying. It's a common deal, happens every friday night with guys everywhere Lol you must hangout with a bunch of frat boys. I know them well. My bf doesn't care if he gets called a pussy cause he doesn't get called that- he's well respected and if anything he calls other people that. As for telling me what I want to hear, not really he tells me how it is and vice versa. Like I said, I wrote this cause I was pissed at him for saying then and then coming back late, but I realize i was being a bitch because he came back with food and explained why.
Mme. Chaucer Posted September 17, 2012 Posted September 17, 2012 Do you live together? If you do, I would think it kind of off that he needs to go out and stay out late with his bro's twice a week. Not that he's fooling around or anything but it seems like he's living the single life. But with you waiting for him at home. I would dislike.
Author crystal_lite Posted September 17, 2012 Author Posted September 17, 2012 (edited) Do you live together? If you do, I would think it kind of off that he needs to go out and stay out late with his bro's twice a week. Not that he's fooling around or anything but it seems like he's living the single life. But with you waiting for him at home. I would dislike. Nah I don't wait for him at home. It was just that Friday and I was releasing pissiness on a forum. I encourage him to do whatever he wants with his bro's. and he lives the single life as I do mine. I still joke that Im single but my bf isn't hahahahahah. I do my thing with my girls. Like if he tells me he's out with them drinking and tells me he's coming back in an hour but doesn't in 3 hrs that worries me cause what happened to him ya know? Did he drive into a pole? Fall drunk into a ditch. And I don't bother him or text him or call him until its like 3-4 hrs later - Cause I'm not naggy or pushy. Anyways that day I was just annoyed. Edited September 17, 2012 by crystal_lite
C-V-L Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 I still joke that Im single but my bf isn't hahahahahah. That's the best thing i've ever heard! mind if i steal that line? yoooiinnkk....
CaptJay Posted September 18, 2012 Posted September 18, 2012 Uhm, if you were my bf's friend i'd tell him to dumb your ass down cause you clearly don't read well. I said I never ask him not to hang out. In fact I tell him to hang out and have his boys time. I just don't like it when he tells me to come home ASAP and he takes hours - he might as well not tell me that and come back whenever. Anyways I wrote this when I was pissed at him, he came back not too late and explained why and brought me food. I still do wish I was chill as he was when it comes to going out for a long time. Food makes everything BETTER!
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