robaday Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 Its just got worse. My ex gf, who had only two weeks ago begged me to work things out with her (wed been seeing each other off and on), has now told me to only contact her if absolutely necessary. Shes deleted all my friends and me off facebook. My response to working things out had been, i need you to trust me, to really trust me. And she said shed always had done. And I replied no you havent, youve accused me every week for the last six months, and ive never cheated. If you can trust me, and Ill help you to, Ill do what it takes to make this work. She said my needs were ridiculous, so I said ok, i cant work this out with you. I took her things round and she slammed the door in my face. I sent her a really nice goodbye email and shes now told me this. Im so hurt, so so hurt and devastated.
Balzac Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 Harsh woman, crazy how they can accuse despite true blue devotion. It's about her insecurity, a weakness within her that you cannot calm, fix or extinguish. It was not you. Lick your wounds, feel your pain and allow time to pass.
KatZee Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 Its just got worse. My ex gf, who had only two weeks ago begged me to work things out with her (wed been seeing each other off and on), has now told me to only contact her if absolutely necessary. Shes deleted all my friends and me off facebook. My response to working things out had been, i need you to trust me, to really trust me. And she said shed always had done. And I replied no you havent, youve accused me every week for the last six months, and ive never cheated. If you can trust me, and Ill help you to, Ill do what it takes to make this work. She said my needs were ridiculous, so I said ok, i cant work this out with you. I took her things round and she slammed the door in my face. I sent her a really nice goodbye email and shes now told me this. Im so hurt, so so hurt and devastated. This relationship wouldn't have worked out in the long run anyway. This whole relationship was just a gigantic ego stroke for her, and she constantly needed validation that you were 100% hers. She's too insecure and you eventually would start to resent her and get sick of her constant accusations of cheating. If there's no trust, there is no anything. She sounds way too insecure to ever trust you.
Author robaday Posted September 15, 2012 Author Posted September 15, 2012 Its strange shes not the type to cut people out, which is why im so hurt over this, i would have been willing to do what it took, and shes disrespected my needs, and cut me out. It was her who had been begging for another chance, after she broke up with me at easter. I have to leave her alone forever. 3 years gone. No going back. Nobody has ever told me to never contact them again,
Calico Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 I have to leave her alone forever. 3 years gone. No going back. Nobody has ever told me to never contact them again, They are not gone, those three years. You still have the fond memories, you still have all you learned in the relationship, you still have experienced the love. No one can take these away from you. They are not of lesser value "only" because the relationship did not last. Nothing lasts, and thankfully that is true for the extreme pain we all deal with. There's light in the darkness.
Hindsight_is_20_20 Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 I feel your pain Robaday. That was one of the last things my ex told me too. Give her her space. And if she tries to contact you, I would advise against it. Go NC now. It's not going to be easy but it's going to dictate how fast you heal, which should be your main focus now.
Author robaday Posted September 15, 2012 Author Posted September 15, 2012 Its strange, I havent shed a tear since the breakup. I thought considering the fact wed argued non-stop for three weeks prior to this, i was over it. I guess its the finality. Id offered to work it out with her after shed begged and she did a complete 180, which completely stunned me, so i said maybe its best we dont meet up. It was total accident i saw her - shed not left my things where i asked, so had to knock. We spoke briefly and I apologised for how things had gone and she slammed the door. How can people do such a 180?
Author robaday Posted September 15, 2012 Author Posted September 15, 2012 And why delete ten yes TEN of my friends? is she over it, or hurting, or just desperate to move on?
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