LoveHurts88 Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 2-3 weeks after we broke up she asked me if I had a card for discount, I didn't. She wanted it and I told her its cheaper online so I got it for her... She knows, should I still give it to her?
KatZee Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 She dumped you and you give her presents? Way to reinforce her behavior. Return it.
JSJS Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 Absolutely not. Return it, give it to a friend or a charity shop.
sweetheart5381 Posted September 16, 2012 Posted September 16, 2012 Hell no.... no way. give it to charity, whatever. Avoid the ex at all costs.
suladas Posted September 16, 2012 Posted September 16, 2012 No way just return it or whatever. Funny thing though, I asked my ex for a favor about a week prior to the break up. 2 days after she broke it off with me, she still did me the favor. It was just picking up some extra sod for my yard when she got hers, but I was quite surprised she still did it for me. But it was soooooo awkward seeing and talking to her.
sweetheart5381 Posted September 16, 2012 Posted September 16, 2012 No way just return it or whatever. Funny thing though, I asked my ex for a favor about a week prior to the break up. 2 days after she broke it off with me, she still did me the favor. It was just picking up some extra sod for my yard when she got hers, but I was quite surprised she still did it for me. But it was soooooo awkward seeing and talking to her. Exactly, avoid the awkwardness, just don't go there. Def not worth it.
suladas Posted September 16, 2012 Posted September 16, 2012 Exactly, avoid the awkwardness, just don't go there. Def not worth it. Plus it brings up feelings. When she still did it, it got me thinking after why did she? Still feelings there or what? Once you break up anything planned for the future is null and void in my opinion.
sweetheart5381 Posted September 16, 2012 Posted September 16, 2012 Plus it brings up feelings. When she still did it, it got me thinking after why did she? Still feelings there or what? Once you break up anything planned for the future is null and void in my opinion. Yes, very true. The past is the past. Put it there, keep it there. It's hard at first, but day after day, it gets easier.
sweetheart5381 Posted September 16, 2012 Posted September 16, 2012 (edited) Plus it brings up feelings. When she still did it, it got me thinking after why did she? Still feelings there or what? Once you break up anything planned for the future is null and void in my opinion. It's the thoughts, the wondering, "why, why, why" etc that brings you to your knees at times. Kill those thoughts with thoughts of self-respect, of honouring yourself and what is best for you ultimately. There is no present when you dwell on the past. All we really have is right now. What's done is done, and it's done for a reason. A harsh truth, but so is present reality. Edited September 16, 2012 by sweetheart5381
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